How to forget the person whom u crush upon?

Originally posted by: -ZestfulNirvana

Why don't you post this in the advice / relationship section ? Honestly, I don't find anything to debate upon.

Infatuation is like a flowing river. The old water is always replaced by new ones. Likewise, you friend should watch for new guys too.

Originally posted by: Ramya-KaShian

dear, is she as old as u? If she is, jus make her realize her age n tell her to save all those things wen she grows older... 😊

Originally posted by: anahita.taanu

i told her the very same thing, "12 is not the age" but its not her fault... u dont have control.. u noe!

I agree with Nirvana that this is more for the relationship advice section. But then love, sex and God are the spice of DM. 😆

I don't think there is anything wrong with a crush at twelve. Crushes happen at any age. As Pink pointed out, it's just a part of puberty.

The thing with crushes also is that they are spontaneous and not conscious choices. Often times you can't will away or rid of crushes by just setting your mind to it. Some crushes are quickly replaced while some can last for years. Even happily married people often come across people who make their heart flutter. The key is to just enjoy it as a silly crush, it's ok to blush or be silly once in a while, just don't expect anything out of it and let it fade through.

It is ok to try to see the crush in the park and enjoy the giddy moments as long as your friend can learn not to expect anything and ensure that this does not affect other priorities in life like school, extracurricular activities, time with friends etc.

However, if she is seriously being pathetic and crying over some silly teenage crush to the point of desperately stalking him then she needs a big smack on the head and needs to grow some. Friends need to intervene with tough love and make sure she snaps back into reality.

Also remember boys hit puberty and mature emotionally later than girls. So it is not until 18 or later that boys become more responsible towards girls. If he is also your age he is still immature and if he is older he probably is afraid of a younger girl and wants to scare her off.

Originally posted by: anahita.taanu

Hello guyss...

actually my friend she had a huge crush on a guy who was actually very ugly :D but she wasn't able 2 speak anything whenever he was around and she used to bush hard.. she still does. so we friends decided onto writing a love letter to the guy... he recieved it and then with high attitude he threw the letter in front of us and my frnd she cried a lot. she says she nomore has a crush on the guy but yesterday she confessed that she still likes him a lot. but the big problem is she isnt able to forget her. what am i as a friend shoud do? i am confused... i mean she's waiting for him whenever we're roaming in the park... she still smiles and blushes when she sees him and i dont noe why but i get a feeling even he;s started noticing her.. but my friend sh'e heartbroken.. she wants to forget him but she cant... she cries for him and what not. give me a solution guys.. please!