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Minz aka Minnie

@*Dakoo_Minzy*

Sparkler

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Posted: 14 years ago

I don't know about switching girls thing.

But,i guess it is perfectly allright to go for the marriage as you both love each other deeply 😳

Just forget for some time that her cousin is married to your cousin. Go ahead with the marriage plans.

Wish you success in love dear!

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singh2000

@singh2000

Beginner

Posted: 14 years ago

Thank u so much for ur reply, appreciate it a lot:)

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bewafa

@bewafa

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

Switching of girls? You mean, one of the girls on ur family goes to their family and she comes to yours?

How is that even relevant?

They're just making excuses. Just work through this, it isn't a big issue. They just need to realise that you two are good for each other

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singh2000

@singh2000

Beginner

Posted: 14 years ago

Anyone else that can help? Does anyone know if marriages like this has happened before?

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deepa

@dipz22

Explorer

Posted: 14 years ago

There are manyyy families that have had marriages like that and there's nothing bad about it. Well i mean it depends on da family, but there shudn't be a problem. Maybe they have some other problem. Try to find out.

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fatima

@fammma

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

hiya

it doesnt seem like a problem to me...I have a mama who is married to my khalas brother and vice versa. ie my mami is my khalar sister...so they've done a swap too!! but there isnt any problem in this, and you guys are cousins,

if you love each other, what is the problem!?!!! get married and by happy !!!!!

Do keep us updated

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riya

@chrissa

Explorer

Posted: 14 years ago

well acording to my proble a bro and sis cannot go into one family, my mum ad dad r teling me 2 break up wd my bf, cs hs sister is my bros wife. ad tht aint allowed in indian cultures, acrding 2 dm

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bewafa

@bewafa

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

I asked Dad and he said that in Sikhism, it's not banned...but like, you can't go marrying your brother or your own cousin. Only that is prohibited.

He said that your situation is more of a cultural thing and usually in the Indian culture, this is frowned upon and so, doesn't often happen.

But I'm thinking because this is just a cultural taboo...you may still go ahead trying to convince them.

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singh2000

@singh2000

Beginner

Posted: 14 years ago

thank u so much for asking ur dad:) if u don't mind can u ask uncle ji if it has happened any where? kyu ki it would be easier for us if we got a example...waiting for ur reply

thank u once again

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bewafa

@bewafa

Dazzler

Posted: 14 years ago

#10

Na sorry, he doesn't know of anyone who's done that.

Mind you, we've been away from India for a long time, and back when Dad was in India...you mostly had arranged marriages anyway. Those that had love marriages done have not been in your circumstance.

However, the good news is that it is just a social construct. Your parents don't have a solid foundation...had it been a religious issue, then yes, they have something solid to stand on.

Social taboos can be overcome. Just keep working at it :D

Ask them...what are their reasons for saying no? Talk them through it logically.

They can't use religion and genes (blood) as excuses.