I have to say tho, that i was completely stunned π² πwhen you said that you haven't watched any episodes since last Dec. and rely on kools commentary for the WU and comments by her and others on this thread......i don't even know how to respond to that.π How can one form an opinion without seeing the show, including the body language and the facial expressions of the actors? If you could have seen the shock and hurt, the pain and sadness on Manav;s face, and his body language of confusion and uncertainty, and after some time, finally giving way to defeat, perhaps you would have reconsidered some of your opinions. I have great respect and affection for Kools and will be the first to defend and stand with her when there is any problem, and i have...she & do agree on many things but on this issue we are waaay opposite. Relying on the words conveyed in a WU that already has a very very definite opinion, like kools commentary, cannot possibly provide a way to form an objective opinion, imho. (no offense to u kools dear !! π) So, if that's the only exposure you have to the show, well, of course you will form your opinion based on that commentary. I guess if even i, who differs greatly with kools on this issue, read only this commentary & thread, and didn't watch the show, i would also have come to the same conclusions as you have. π As an example of what i'm tryin to say, I tend to agree pretty much with Tanya on her Savita/Manav assessment, but even there, after i have read her write up and watched the show, many times i will say..."Oh no, after watching it I disagree with Tanya's assessment on an event she described.." (Both try to be somewhat objective about the actual WU but feelings come through...it's only natural) π
That said, there are some very interesting points you brought up in your post and i would like to respond to them in addition to some specific replies:
1) One thing we both mentioned and you expanded upon was the difference in our upbringing. There is no doubt that it has influenced both of us. I grew up in the US but don't live there now and while i was raised with more western values, as i have grown up through the years of my life, i tend to be much more influenced by eastern thought. I realize however in my post, i used western terminology. But let me say that i live in a kind of chawl in my country now...it is an economically poor neighborhood (we dont' really have distinctions of class - upper, middle, lower etc in our country) and filled with the ethnic richness of many cultures...yemenite, iraqi, egyptian, and many indian and nepalese. I do recognize some of the cultural dynamics as being very much the same. To be honest, it was my several Indian and Nepalese friends who introduced me to "Bollywood" and the Indian soaps...I asked many of them.."is this how it is in India & Nepal?" to which the response was always, yes, very much so, even more than what you see ...there is a lot of hurt, a lot of pain, a lot of anger in chawl life and it is not good." I say that to say that while your and kools memories seem to be pleasant ones, (thank God) it apparently isn't true for everyone that life in the chawl, while perhaps typical, isn't & wasn't a happy healthy thing. There again...it ends up being so personal... .
Where i draw the line between sickness and health, between "normal and colorful" is the level of hurt and pain and the depth of broken relationships...if that is consistently experienced, how can one say it is normal and healthy...even if it is common? So, i guess our definition of sick or health may not be the same.
2) Which brings me to a 2nd point. You mentioned having watched the early episodes of the show, and asked if i had seen them. No, i started watching when Manav was in jail the first time...a little while before Sachin's death. So, this could explain a lot. I never saw the household happy, you have not seen it anguished. It is perhaps this thing the CV's do when they totally change and manipulate the characters with little consistency. So we aren't even talking about the same people. cuz the CV's changed them. I think the divorce really really screwed up the show big time...it seemed to be the point everything and everybody went haywire, including us the viewers, and the writers unfortunately dug themselves into a hole they didn't know how to get out of...and still haven't...
I think i will post this now, just to have discussed a couple of general issues..and then i will post later tonight a few responses to a couple - three specific things you said regarding the characters and their actions.
I have to say i find our discussion interesting and i enjoy learning about why we all come to the conclusions we come to...In all fairness to PR. it is the only Soap i can think of that stays "normal" enough to let us discuss the deeper issues of life as a by product. It is the only one i watch now as the others i started watching all got sooo ridiculous and detached from reality, there was no point in watching OR discussing...
so.. till later tonight when i return from my day... π π π
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