YOUR definition of LOVE

Blame it on Adi. Just kidding.

She included a quote in a recent response of what love is, and how it relates to what we are seeing of the love between Naku and Dutta:

I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out." -- Roy Croft

So I'm curious. What is your definition? I know I may be asking an impossible question, because love can't always be defined in all its aspects. But I think there is one statement, one quote that reflects IN PART our attitude towards love.

So, I want your thought on it.

Here is mine and I'm probably inviting a few weird stares 😆, but here goes:

You may have heard of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs in psychology That each human in their lives has needs that must be met before they go to the next level:

The bottom-most or most basic human need is physiological (food, shelter)
Next comes safety/security
Then, Belongingness and love -- acceptance and love
Then, Esteem-- Recognition, appreciation
After this comes Cognitive (need to explore, understand)
Then Aesthetic (beauty, symmetry, outside of self)
Self-Actualization and Self-Transcendence (getting past ego, realizing own's potential, helping others realize their potential)

My thought of or dream for LOVE is the something where there is shared love/caring, but MORE IMPORTANTLY, where I am challenged in thought, in emotions and I do the same in turn. It is a connection that is developed on ideas, on discussions, on arguments, on passion for living and being, and growth. It is the unordinary.

Alright, no more weird looks! 😆

That Roy Crofts quote tickled me pink.... 😆😆☺️

A thought provoking post! Like all of yours that I have read!

Well, I think love not only means different things to different people (No wonder there are books about different languages of love and all)

But love also evolves and changes over time ... as the relationship evolves and people change ... so it's hard to define as the idea might change slightly with tomorrow... though always beautiful :)

LoL Girl, I know what you mean with the whole "discussions, argument" ect. You need an intellectual sparring buddy who brings you flowers.
I can personally care less about flowers btw.


I don't think love should 'change' you in any way, but rather encourage you to really let your TRUE self out. When I'm with my boyfriend, I feel like MYSELF. For me that is love. You shouldn't feel different in a sense that suddenly even thunder sounds romantic, but rather, it sort of brings you down to earth and gives you more realistic views regarding life.


Love need not a sign, or a saying or token, like Ray states:

You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.


For me Love is subtle, its not thought out like a candle light dinner, its not drawn out like Valentines day dates, and its not intricate like diamond. Its simple.

Love equates to comfort, in which you can fight, scream, cry, provoke, argue, enlighten, smile, laugh, snort, and even fart knowing that he/she will still be there....as accepting as ever.

So basically, Love = Wholehearted Acceptance.

GP,

V Good topic...I can write thesis on this but will try shedding my syndrome that Sara is making me infamous for and hopefully I can convey, my ideas!!

Foremost, for me, Love is Eternal - u might be 7 oceans away from him, but he is still active part of ur life. Love is when u reach a stage where the saying, "out of sight is out of mind", doesnt hold good anymore. Mind you, I believe in this saying and hence a feeling that can make this saying untrue, is true love. My dad used to site an example on how Love is beyond the physical body form - When Laila's mom asked her to keep the sewing pin back in the thread roll, she couldnt do it because she would see Majnu omnipresent. Any place she would wanna keep the pin, she would see him and that would trouble her because she didnt wanna prick him. They had not met for years but her feelings had not evaporated! I am not saying that true love turns to this lunacy, but the example only showed me that after one point, the physical interaction didnt matter and the couple can still sail through. That for me is Love! When you have reached a point when you dont see an urge to have a mandatory physical interaction (face-to-face or something else). After the age 40, Its the connection of the heart that has persisted till now, would count! Love endures throughout the years...Its just grows with every passing second...

Feeling of Involving him - Every sphere of ur life, he is involved bcoz u want him to and u still dnt feel claustrophobic...In all your happiness, sorrow, or indifference, your first phone call goes to him! Why? Because he is closest to your heart! He gives you the confidence, that he is so close, that he can help you combat the issue together, be happiest in your happiness and be all ears to your indifference! That's the confidence level you have with him and viceversa! He is your best friend. You never feel lonely at any moment of your life, even if you live alone. It comes from within you that you wanna share your inner most feelings, security and insecurity with that one person! Even the most reserved person becomes garullous in love! You might not find him opening his mouth in front of his parents, siblings and friends, but with you, he would feel like talking it out, sharing darkest of his secrets! He is truly himself with you. You would be the only one who would see him, without any masks or veils!

The relationship doesnt bind you in chains of responsibilities, traditions or society norms! Freedom and not chained! I feel that the relationship can start feeling burden as soon as you start having expectations out of the person, to fulfill certain responsibility, stick to certain traditions or society norms! I believe that love is when you accept the person the way he is, you love every aspect of his. You need not subscribe to it but you are not hell bent on changing him because the feeling in your heart exists beyond these boundaries. Its like an aerial view where such boundaries seem distant! After all, Love has to be unconditional!

Love induces the feeling of being Bindaas, carefree in you, bcoz of the security and freedom that it provides to your heart! Security of he being always there for u, mentally or physically, when you want him and freedom of leading your life as per your terms!

Iam not so good at such topics 😆.... but when someone talks abt Love, this quote from "A walk to remember" (which got it from Bible) flashes for me......... and it goes like this ..........

I am romantic person to the core.....But somehow cannot define love........ Here is my fav. lines regarding love....from the movie Khamoshi.....

love for me means trust which can never break😊