Dutta's Definition of Love

Originally posted by: oddgalout

Dutta's revelation today is a bit surprising in one way. Sure it has been apparent he's been averse to the idea of love and beautiful people and what not - but it really hit home today how in his mind the two are interrelated. In his mind the two equate to lies and betrayal. Yet when he loves he has loved selflessly and whole-heartedly - given it has always been the wrong person. Makes you wonder - he knew how to give love but never quite knew what receiving love is supposed to be like. It's almost like he always thought beauty was a big part of the equation of love even though his actions show otherwise (like him not liking anyone mocking Naku's looks). And when this proved wrong he concluded love to be equivalent to betrayal. Maybe that's why more then finding Naku's declarations repulsive he just finds them unreal because he has never seen things in that perspective - that just the way DSP has given his all in relationships and been selfless someone else can be the same to him. Which essentially makes Dada right - Naku is the wiser of the two - Naku too is right - Dutta's heart is one of a child - naive, innocent and vulnerable. What a case study lol DSP is - upar se hard as a coconut shell and andar se just as soft. And what he calls Naku's bholapaan (in trusting Jagtap etc) is actually showing of her maturity and ability to judge someone by their heart (where Dutta fails miserably for the most part) - complete opposite of him - soft on the outside and tough and able to bear the brunt of his blows on the inside.

Originally posted by: kshreya2002

In bold: Thats right...he doesnt know how it is to receive love. He's surrounded by people like his sisters on one hand who pretend to love him. then there are his exes like seema and supriya. and lets not forget AS...not sure if she is the BH but even if she isnt she isnt the fiercely protective mother like Babi. Basically leaves him alone when he obviously wud be hurting...what kind of behavior is that?

Originally posted by: SonyaBlade

Okay but seriously how much of a child can he be inside??? I mean we are talking about a guy who made himself into the biggest Don in the city ..... he has big enemies and hardly any close friends. He has never been able to trust anyone other than baji and his sisters and mother. He lost his father at a young age...but seriously....for someone who can become the biggest Don out there...he is definitely not naive.

there is no way he could remain Naive and still be that successful at his illegal ops. There is no excuse for Dutta's lack of respect for Naku's emotions and for his behavior when it comes to blaming Naku for everything that goes wrong. Dutta's just a plain FOOL......and i'm pissed at him right now.

Originally posted by: gp00

I think it is this lack of love from his family that drove him to look for love elsewhere, and why he placed so much importance on it (e.g. Seema). It's like putting all your hopes for love in one basket, one person, and unfortunately, to have that person betray you. It would be devastating. And for it to happen twice, no less.

Two questions: Above we mention how Dutta knows how to give love, not receive it. There is much truth to that. But does he really know how to give love? I sometimes wonder. I think he is looking for someone to give love to. But I don't know if he knows how. If you don't receive it, how do you know to give it?

No I definitely feel he knows how to give love...he's been doing that for years...selfless love for his family and Baji. Only thing maybe he asks from these people in return for what he does is to keep him grounded. Thats why if u see to some extent he cant understand Naku's variety of selfless love...becuz he has never got it. The love which will only want to see the person she loves happy and demand nothing in return. Because he himself has not received such selfless love.

Question two: Given his hatred for beauty and love and the connection he makes between beauty and betrayal, do you think he found it easier to trust Naku because she was unlike Seema? I have to ask that question because when he said how much beautiful face betray, I thought if Naku had been beautiful on the outside, as per the world's definition, would he have felt comfortable opening up to her? He became close to her mainly because she understood him almost instinctively, but his ability to get close to her, to let her in, could it have been influenced by her appearance? Just a thought. I'd love to get your perspective on it.

I maybe wrong but I strongly feel that irrespective of how she looked Dutta's behavior to Naku wudnt have changed. But yes people's views on looking at his friendship between a beautiful young girl and a good looking young guy wud have been differemt.

Originally posted by: SonyaBlade

Okay but seriously how much of a child can he be inside??? I mean we are talking about a guy who made himself into the biggest Don in the city ..... he has big enemies and hardly any close friends. He has never been able to trust anyone other than baji and his sisters and mother. He lost his father at a young age...but seriously....for someone who can become the biggest Don out there...he is definitely not naive.

there is no way he could remain Naive and still be that successful at his illegal ops. There is no excuse for Dutta's lack of respect for Naku's emotions and for his behavior when it comes to blaming Naku for everything that goes wrong. Dutta's just a plain FOOL......and i'm pissed at him right now.

Love for Dutta is never been "Sacrifice",its always been "Getting it".