Why only women?? Maybe becoz...

I read some members saying that why women has to pay so much and give so much BALIDAAns and tyags...
I also dont like this. Its wrong.. But, this happens maybe becoz althugh men are many times physically stronger than women, but i believe its other way round, when comes to mental strength..

Men break down very quickly when it comes to mental distrbance, but women has got power to fight with such situations. Maybe, this is what CVs try to convey to audiences...

that is what I was thinking too . I thought Manav was breaking too but I think I was wrong .

but things will take their own course and ArMan will reunite. all these are parts and parcel of the BT melodrama and definltely its hurts us.

how can any one come back after all this has happened . By the way , this is my first ever Ekta Kappor show . I have never ever seen any other one .

Well on Indian TV this has been concept of all shows.. Woman making Family n binding them.. Giving their happiness for others.. Its from long now...

The major onus of working on a marraige in Indian serials is always the heroine's burden .

See how it is shown.

Archu merely took lifts from Satish in his car and Manav watched . For that momentary suffering of Manav , the punishment meted out to Archu by BT is Archu watches Manav waiting hand and foot on a younger , pregnant woman in his house under her nose .

Archu was on point of getting engaged to another man . Manav the husband is straightaway marrying another woman .

Archu breaks the engagement as women r supposed to be shown as pativratas and satis who r revolted by the thought of another man . But Men can marry for 'responsibility ' . Their holiness remains intact due to the responsibility factor .

Archu left her house , came to live with Manav , and adjusted in an inferior standard of living by slogging like a slave . Why?It is her pati ka ghar . In those 15 days she was horrendously abused by her saas . Pati has the excuse of being blissfully 'UNAWARE' of this . Pati's life hasnt changed.........he still gets up , fills water , goes to garage , comes and has meals and to top it all , like cherry on icing he will have sex as a treat every night now .So in effect , Pati's adjustment is ZERO. He did this same routine as a bachelor , he is doing same routine Now too . Infact his day ends well........at night he has a lovely wife in his arms. Regarding his horrid mom's torture .......he can act blisfully UNAWARE and run away to work . Biwi ko bahar mila aur ek Pav Bhaji khilaya to Kaam hua . Sab bolenge Acha Pati , Sweetu Pati !

Women like Archana r expected to talk back to their moms who have raised them with love since childhood for defending Pati or to prove that Pati is now more important . But Patis like Manav the sweetu only do Bas AAi , BAs AAi . Nothing more . Coz if they answer back or give ultimatums to their mothers , they r called as joru ka gulaam . Show me one pati in serials who had the guts o stand up to his abusive mother and say YES I AM A JORU KA GULAM AND KNOW WHAT < I ENJOY IT . SO KEEP THAT IN MIND AND KNOW THAT THINGS HAVE CHANGED AROUND HERE FROM NOW ON .

OR
OH YOU MEAN JUST LIKE DADDY IS YOUR GULAAM ?

We never see a pati who tells his mother that one more time u harass my wifes family for dowry , I will personally report U to police . Manav himself bought a necklace and tried to solve the problem but did not attack the root of the problem....his mother's uncontrollable greed.

Agnipariksha of a woman and AGNIpariksha of a man r in no way equal . Infact for daring to walk away from a man , refusing to talk to him for some days , getting scared of the accusations that he is a predatory stalker a woman is NOT applauded for being normal like American serials would do . She is supposed to have no doubts , no fears inspite of it being an arranged marraige and only fall on her knees and implicitly TRUST her pati . Not just that , she shud LOUDLY and VOCIFEROUSLY defend him to the society . THe concept that it takes TIME TO BUILD TRUST simply doesnt exist .

The feet of the man's mom shud be touched by bending although she does dowry demands and character assasinates bahu in public . We never see a bahu who bluntly tells her saas From Today i wont touch ur feet as I have totally lost respect for u.........I will only touch my sasur's feet . Why ?Coz Pati will be SHOCKED.

Anything happens in that marraige.......any damned problem , who is supposed to work on it ? Bahu . The younger son Sachin has frolicked around and died and Shravani has been irresponsible but who shud pay by suffering for their mistake ? ........Archu ! Pati gets to be the hero who saves . Pati's mom gets to be the victim . And Archana shud BURN in the fire coz this it seems is the AGNIPARIKSHA.

We wont ever see Archana saying So fine , tumhare bhai ne shaadi ke pehle gul khilaye aur uske biwi ka maan sanman bachaya ja raha hai .............lekin jab mujhe charitraheen kehke zalil kiya gaya tha tab aap kaha the ? Maine to koi gul nahi khilaye the !

Torture of woman is the base of Hindi serials . It is believed that it is the way to relate to women viewers . And Unfortunately women viewers blast Archana more than MAnav .....thereby proving it to be true . Chawl people r shown turning faces away from Archu inspite of knowing Savita's nature for years . We do NOT see chawl people coming together and boycotting Savita by sympathising with Archu . And thats the way it goes .

manav is strong 2 look at dah way he hidez hiz sorrow from savita nd the rest of hiz family

Originally posted by: guptill

I read some members saying that why women has to pay so much and give so much BALIDAAns and tyags...
I also dont like this. Its wrong.. But, this happens maybe becoz althugh men are many times physically stronger than women, but i believe its other way round, when comes to mental strength..

Men break down very quickly when it comes to mental distrbance, but women has got power to fight with such situations. Maybe, this is what CVs try to convey to audiences...

Maybe because the creators or producers of most of these serials or daily soaps are also mostly women😆.what do you think!

Originally posted by: ishana360

manav is strong 2 look at dah way he hidez hiz sorrow from savita nd the rest of hiz family

U R ABSOLUTELY RIGHT..its always the bahus that suffer and if once they try to stand to their saas or husband speaks up to them then bahu looks like the bad one..

look at my situation-i have been married to the love of my life and due to our current financial situations we moved in wtih the inlaws (we pay our share of expenses)..i do ALL the work plus work outside (sometimes she will cook dinner)..and she picks on the way I do things and one day I got so tired of it and said nicely pleas let me do it my own way im not a child..my saas started fighiting with me saying sorry i shouldnt have said anything and bla bla bla and then my husband comes and stands up for me saying u know u should appreciate the things shes done around here she dosnt have to do it...and then there was a huge fight and my saas tried to turn us both against each other by saying lies and now we just are not talkign to them even though we are in the same houshold and my husband tlels me wash ur own dishes but dont touch theres...and honestly i like my life better like this at least no more mental tensions here...

and not only that she put a curse on us saying i hope u drown in ur financials (we do a lot of heavy investing) and "tere ko kiddi padenge" all tht..imagine a mother saying tht to her children over things like this...

my life is one saas bahu drama!