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Posted: 16 years ago
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Hey guys,

I am posting the DOTW this week, my topic is marriage.

Which one holds more importance in your eyes love or arranged marriage and why? This is an important topic shown in a majority of soaps, like with Bandini, Santo is married to DM but it was an arranged marriage, in which Santo was bound through no or little choice of her own, but Khemi and Hiten love each other and want to be together which marriage should hold more importance in life? When answering questions forgot the relationships held by these characters, even thought these relationship are a reason for trouble.

Marriage is an important part of life, it's a big thing being someone's wife/husband and these bonds are meant to be scared, whether it is love or arranged. Love has become a factor these days in marriage yet arranged marriages do occur and sometimes forced marriages therefore should a person be forced to uphold a bond they did not want to be part of?

Just a note to remember both types of marriage hold an uncertainty of whether they will work or not, so the answer should not be framed on whether the marriage will work or not but on which one is more important? And should people be forced to uphold a bond they do not agree with?

Please refrain from bashing as everyone is entitled to have their view heard and respected by everyone whether you agree or not.

Thanks!

Enjoy discussing 😃

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Posted: 16 years ago
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I prefure arranged marriage because it turn to love after some time but also it have the side effect like the husbend my treat his waife in the way that shoulden't be like DM in the begining of the marriage but in other hand it is good in many way that no perfuct picture for the partenar and no sweet dreams of a fantactic life they used in each other and start love each other as what they not as what they love in each othe. DM & santo love in there relation will be 90%.
love marriage also good but the caple at this point start to see what they ignore in the relationship and problem start to show upper the water and most of the caple lifet each other at end. in hiten and khemi relation there is chance of 40% to be succe
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Posted: 16 years ago
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i do believe arrange marriage is a grate idea because i don't believe dating before marriage. but i also believe that whichever reason you fell in love or find someone attractive then you should have the right to marry them.
Love do come after marriage but it can also came before marriage if you know the person you can feel in love with their personality.
parents should give their children choice on their like and dislike because end of it is their life, they will have to live with each other for rest of their life, they will have to bring up their children together. if their is no love and respect between the parents then there will be lots of difficulties in the house. Also it is GOD given right that man and women get too choose who they want to marry. They can't be forced. Its their right.
parents and family name should be taken into consideration but that shouldn't be just it, the people who are getting married to each other their liking and disliking is more important. Its not fare on the person getting married to someone when they want to be with someone else.

I fell really sorry for Hiten and Kehmi. I think they would have a grate married life together. There character balances each other out.



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Posted: 16 years ago
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i just hope that HHiten and Khemi are shown together !!!
I love thier chemistry and really really really really really really really
Wish that they are together !
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: HKM_1267

i just hope that HHiten and Khemi are shown together !!!

I love thier chemistry and really really really really really really really
Wish that they are together !




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Posted: 16 years ago
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This is a very good topic! Great job! šŸ‘

It's also a tough question to answer...for me both hold importance. Saying that, I will also say love is such that can happen anywhere with anyone at anytime. It's not controlled, so to say in an arranged marriage there is no love, is not right. I think making decisions out of your own will is what holds importance, be it arranged or love marriages. I saw own will because if anything goes right or wrong you can always say it was "my decision/my choice!" I am aware that there are many people, who are forced into marriages, but in these situations to make this marriage work or not work is upto the people in the marriage.
I hope my answer was sufficient, but if anyone would like to discuss more I'm more than willing too! 😊
Great topic once again!
Shweta
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Sabse balwan samay hai. Your wanting to know views reg love and arranged marriage .All this is neither here nor there.Marriage is about relationships and your own self. Beyond definition , set rules or compartments like love and arranged marriage. Whatever triggers off a marriage its success does depend on the trigger that is love or arranged. Marriage is completely on its own not dependent on these things.
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Equally important.

What is vital, is choice.

I am a firm believer in freedom of choice . And that once you commit, you should give your best to fulfill the said commitment..
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Most marriages fail because of communication problem.
Couples tend to fight instead of listening to what each other has to say. The second is trust and the third is money.
So it can either arranged or love marriage but you gotta have communication, trust and money.

Aside note the reason DM and Santu relationship blossomed coz they started to talk and listen to each other.

my two cents worth
Edited by fuzzyface - 16 years ago

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