Friendship to Jealousy. My problemo.

Well, lately, i have been feeling really weird. Its not really right to count friends and see how many you have or not. The quality of friends matter. I'd rather have 3 best friends, than 30 friends that i hardly know. But, like, I guess you could say Iam a competitive person. And I have low self-esteem. There was this girl who has been my good friend in the 6th grade; She was pretty, smart like the topper of the school, she had a social life, she was sweet and innocent, and she was religious. Basically, in my eyes, Perfect. I know, behind closed doors, there are many different stories that you've never known about the person. I admit. Soo, after a loong time, like 2 years, I talked to her on msn. I added her on Facebook. She was soooo different. More prettier, and Im not sure how her school or normal life was. I didnt really know how her personality was like. Probably the same. But, not as sweet and innocent as she was before. It was quite sad. But, you know how on facebook you could just randomly talk to your friend. Just drop by and say hi? Well, i couldnt do that with her. I dont know if it was because I was insecure of whether really talk to me much, since she has changed alot. I tried talking her a few times on msn and all, but she would never reply back. She would sign in as invisible sometimes, and it was easy to tell. I wondered if it was because of me. But then, like, she deleted me off of her msn. And like, i knew it. And I guess my jealousy took control. I felt like she had soo many friends. A life where she was busy. Whereas, im really protected, and I cant really hang out with friends or do much. I cant really join an after school activity, as weird as that sounds. She has like 200 friends on facebook, where as i had like 60. Its not really about that, but how in the world do i stop comparing myself to her?

1. You need to love yourself, and you really need to appreciate yourself.

Hmm... the problem here is that you compare yourself with others too much. Don't do that! Really, please don't do that!

I think everyone goes through that phase when we compare ourselves with others and think they are a lot more beautiful than us. and that they have a better social life and whatsoever.

That person maybe better at some things but she will definitely be worse in some other things. That's the fact of life. You can't be best in everything, but you've got to be great in somethings!

If she deleted you on MSN, then it's her loss not yours! And it's said that you should always be friends with people who respect you, otherwise that friendship is lost before it starts. Don't worry about it, she wasn't worth your friendship.

Boost your self confidence and start thinking about your strengths rather than your weaknesses. That's really important. I'm not asking you to ignore your weaknesses because then there's no room for growth which is essential. But try focusing on your strengths too! You don't have to be like someone else, In fact what makes you unique is that you're NOT like anyone else.

Please don't compare yourself with the girl. You are who you are and you should be proud of yourself! Social life doesn't matter that much - I'm sure of the 200 people she has friends on Facebook, she doesn't even know half of them that well. It doesn't matter. You have to find your true interests and pursue them.

All the best!

-Mahi