Sasu ma is like ma own mom?

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Posted: 16 years ago
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It is often said daughter in law is considered alike a house's daughter.
We have had many debates on this, here is a different outlook.
Do daughter in law's or son in law's consider thier in law's house as thier first home or like thier parent's house?
Feel free to add more to this one, please don't cross question me, am just trying to get food for new debates seeing an active section...lols getting into the old time mood of spuring new topics.😳

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Posted: 16 years ago
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lol from the title i thought you were talking about yourself, and that if you should consider your saas as your mom😆.

No I don't think the bahus and jawai's consider their parents in law as their own parents. There might be some cases but, the blood relationship always comes first.

Though they do and should give them the same respect as they would to their own parents. But it's like this if your saas says something bad to you most likely you will feel bad about it but if your mom says it to you you wouldn't feel bad. So from the outside it might seem like we treat them the same as our parents but from the inside their are always differences and they might not be big but they do exist!
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: Gur.N.cool

lol from the title i thought you were talking about yourself, and that if you should consider your saas as your mom😆.

No I don't think the bahus and jawai's consider their parents in law as their own parents. There might be some cases but, the blood relationship always comes first.

Though they do and should give them the same respect as they would to their own parents. But it's like this if your saas says something bad to you most likely you will feel bad about it but if your mom says it to you you wouldn't feel bad. So from the outside it might seem like we treat them the same as our parents but from the inside their are always differences and they might not be big but they do exist!



yup,
guru ji ought to know everything about this topic , even if he doesn't have first hand experience,
why guru ji ? 😆 ...just kidding 😊

Originally posted by: raj5000

It is often said daughter in law is considered alike a house's daughter.

We have had many debates on this, here is a different outlook.
Do daughter in law's or son in law's consider thier in law's house as thier first home or like thier parent's house?


I certainly don't know anything about this 😆

And , what i say is purely on what i think right now , and is subject to a lot of changes in future .....for sure 😆

Anyways, at this point of time , i think it is obvious that they wouldn't feel as if they are in their parent's house ........however ,i have often heard people saying that "ladki ka sasural mein man lag gaya" , so i guess its more about having a good understanding with your in law's rather than comparing the two homes. I think even if they do consider it as their parent's house , it is bound to lead to disappointment on one side or the other. Its best to treat them separately, and give both the homes their due importance.

In pure filmy style, is comparison se sirf vinaash ho sakta hai, vinaash...aur sarvnash😆


Edited by clodpolish - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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depends on each individual.
sometimes yes and many times no....
i find very rare cases where DIL equals real daughter and MIL is same as real mother.
JayKish thumbnail
Posted: 16 years ago
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There is many concept on the topic in different societies. The concept differs from society to society. So, we can't bound it in single way.
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Posted: 16 years ago
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No way ! His mom is his mom my mom is our mom 😃😆 j/k
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Posted: 16 years ago
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I don't believe that blood relation is what is all. I believe people loves a person more on how much he had spent time with him/her or how much he/she knows him, rather than the person being his blood relative.
Coming to the topic, NO I don't think a completely new person can take the place of your own mother (That's totally impossible!!!). Only if a person have never seen his/her real mother (maybe his parents died at the time of their birth) then maybe the person can accept the mother-in-law (though, that is kinda difficult, too 😆). Otherwise no one can take the place of the person who had given birth to you and had grown you up.
Ahh Raj, you made me remember a very fav. serial of mine with this topic : "KSBKBT". Though very few people can be like Tulsi in real life LOL.
P.S. Is my avatar visibe? Can you people see it? I am having trouble seeing it. Is it inisible to you people?😕
Edited by PhoeniXof_Hades - 16 years ago
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Posted: 16 years ago
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well I feel that as in any relationship it takes two to build it .It can never B a one sided affair. & as for relationship with ones MIL ..well though i havent got any first hand exp of dealing with her ... There R three in this relationship , & not just 2, The Hubby, wife & good ol Ma in law - lets forget other relatives at the moment. These 3 have a very close role to play in the success of DIL-MIL or SIL-MIL relationship. It s natural for a mother to feel somewhat threatened by the arrival of her DIL /SIL as the yrs of undisputed relationship she faced with her child is about to change. The DIL /SIL wud in turn feel apprehensive if she perceives that the spouse is giving all attention to the mother & neglecting her.
So I wud say that here the spouse has an imp role to B well balanced & keep both happy. ( yeah that wud B some tight rope walking 😃 ) Only then can the sasu ma B like ones own ma
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Posted: 16 years ago
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@ POH - sorry forgot to mention , ur Avi is visible to me 😊 If its not visible to U , check ur settings to C if the option 4 viewing avi & siggy banner is on ! Hope that helps
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Posted: 16 years ago
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Originally posted by: raj5000

Do daughter in law's or son in law's consider thier in law's house as thier first home or like thier parent's house?

For DIL ,I think they try to think like that way.....😊
SIL most of the case....no chance😆😉😊

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