Originally posted by: The_Best
Yeah the writing there is so much better than shown in the case of Mitali Rithik Munni. I just don’t connect much with why and how Ishiti loves Ruhi so much. But the Ashok being abusive to Ruhi makes sense as that’s how most stepfathers are. Shagun too likes her daughter, but she is more interested and influenced by Ashok which is how it’s most of the times. Didn’t know about Shagun being from a poor family. I haven’t got to that part yet. That makes sense then why she ran after a rich man
Ishita has always loved kids, she’s a dentist who specialises in dealing with kids; but she can’t have a single kid of her own. She’s been dumped by the guy she was in love with for at least a decade and obviously was on the verge of marrying. She’s lost her faith in finding romantic love because if the man who was in love with her couldn’t stand by her how can she expect anyone else to do so? So she’s not looking for a relationship, but she can’t change the person she is beneath who has always adored kids.
Ruhi is not someone she picked and chose, she was simply drawn to this adorable lonely child. It’s the same kind of pull as in love of the romantic kind we see usually, it simply happens to be maternal love here. What makes it easier for this to happen is that usually such young kids are not left alone to roam around even in the society’s compound - a parent, an older sibling, some guardian - someone is always around especially when a girl child is concerned. Ruhi would be found left to her devices or wandering around when no one noticed and she would inevitably find Ishita, in such situations the mom or someone would immediately go into panic and take Ruhi away inevitably after a point even if they know she’s safe with Ishita. That doesn’t happen here - she’s allowed to soak in that moment where she can indulge herself and that adorable munchkin. She gets to experience the joy of what it must be like to have a daughter of her own even if briefly. Ishita is only human and she doesn’t resist the little joys she can get to keep.
Eventually, Ashok makes Shagun file for Ruhi’s custody to hurt Raman and she goes along with it. In the court when she’s asked which parent she would love to live with Ruhi chooses Ishita over BOTH her parents, as a 4/5 year old she doesn’t even realise what’s being asked of her but she simply understands that she’s being asked whose company she likes more amongst her parents and the child picks a neighbour over both of them to their horror and shock. Raman ignores Ruhi as she reminds him of her mother and Shagun had left her as a newborn, so she’s not exactly been into the idea of being her mom forever now. Ruhi has found more joy and warmth in Ishita’s presence than both her parents combined so she picks to live with her and says so without understanding that it’s legally impossible.
Raman’s parents had been looking for a wife for him as it is, and he kept on refusing to marry again by ironically using Ruhi as an excuse till that point. In the years post Shagun he becomes rich and successful, has a makeover and therefore has plenty of marriage proposals sent but he always says that these girls/women want to be my wife but how many of them will want to be Ruhi’s mom? He doesn’t even meet anyone and his parents can’t make him as an adult in his 30s either. Here his dad sees the opportunity that allows them to do what they’ve been wanting for ages - to get Raman a wife who would be willing to mother Ruhi, and here even Raman himself can’t really say that’s not the case.
He immediately approaches Ishita’s dad and proposes their marriage. It allows Ruhi to live with her favourite person, Raman to get a woman he knows absolutely loves and adores his child as her mom and the two fathers see it as a good way for perhaps their kids eventually finding love and happiness of their own too. Ishita wasn’t getting anyone willing to marry her as she couldn’t have kids, Raman had kids but only the custody of one of them and he wanted someone to mother her more than his wife, as after being cheated on by his wife he obviously has become jaded and disillusioned by the concept of love and marriage itselt.
The marriage is a practical arrangement that is the result of an attachment formed between a woman who wants a child but cant have one of her own and a child who wants a mother but whose own mom has abandoned her. There’s no logic in the practical sense here but it’s the idea that these people fit together like pieces of a puzzle who had been missing each other until destiny brought them together. We can’t say we can’t find any logic in Ishita’s love for Ruhi simply because she’s not her child - Ishita feels maternal love for her - that’s it. It’s the most powerful, precious and purest love in the world and doesn’t require logic.
Tulsi says even now she loves Ansh - even after everything. She said it when Noina taunted her in the court’s premises not too long ago. To the world he’s a monster, even Tulsi herself acknowledges he was one and hence she even went and took the extreme step of eliminating him herself - but how does she stop loving him? How does she simply flush him out of her system when she knows she’s carried him in her body for 9 months, when she’s heard him call her Maa even if he was only manipulating her. By all logic she should hate him too, or at least be indifferent to him… but she can’t do that and she never will be able to so long as she lives because she’s a mother who does love her children. She hasn’t just biologically reproduced to earn the title of a mother, she’s done the work, worked the grind as we say and when that happens you can’t will the love away even if you wanted no matter what.
Ishita hasn’t given Ruhi birth but she’s subconsciously formed an attachment with her and even if she couldn’t call it maternal openly, she knew that’s what it was. She sees Ruhi as the only chance she’s ever had to experience the joy of maternal love, of having a child; the fact that Ruhi reciprocates her love and affection, absolutely adores her to bits and accepts her as a mom in a heartbeat when she finds out Ishita is going to be her mom just cements the deal. Ishita becomes her mom with all her heart and soul.
This is perhaps one of the most famous movie quotes ever and I am sure you know it. Now take it and just replace the words girl with woman, boy with child asking him to wanting and you get -
I’m also just a woman, standing in front of a child wanting to love her… and you have your answer.
idk why 
. The wolf and tiger story might very much be possible. However, after she achieved her end goal of marrying Mihir, then there is no meaning. You should not be given such satisfaction to this kind of victim portrayal.
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