Originally posted by: Zoya56
what's Your take on this forum members? Personally I don't agree with this. There can be respectful and mature friendship between opposite genders just like how it was between Sandhya and zakeer in diya baati but in Mihir Noyona dynamics there was this tangible feeling of emotional cheating when he always compared noyona to tulsi pre- leap.
I believe friendship is not dependent on gender or even age as a whole, it depends on simply whom we click with and can vibe with. If we can talk about anything with anyone and we can share a sense of mutual respect, understanding and acceptance with each other, allow there to be a healthy space for disagreements to not affect our equations with each other then yes, a healthy friendship can exist practically anywhere and between any two people.
That being said, when you make a friend your compass regarding family matters, an moreover put your spouse down repeatedly when it comes to those matters then you’re not supposed to be applauded or allowed to believe this is a healthy way of handling your relationships. All things have a place of their own including relationships - if we take offence at the idea of a spouse objecting to our friendships with certain people or our hanging out with them just because they don’t like them; then the friend also needs to know that a line must never be crossed.
You certainly shouldn’t humiliate your spouse by comparing them with a friend of the opposite gender, especially when the matter is about your kids.
Tulsi was practically a saint or stupid, idk, that she never doubted Noina and never called out Mihir for the way he had essentially forced his friend into their marriage. IRL, no spouse will handle this much interference and certainly not this much comparison with a friend from their partner. That’s a one way ticket to end your marriage for good even if you don’t cheat.
Because you have essentially done the same thing even without committing infidelity, let another person into your marriage.
Kumkum Bhagya
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