Originally posted by: Thequirkyquill
I really don’t get the criticism anu gets on this forum. I think people keep forgetting she is a 20 year old. The power dynamics between her and Arya’s relationship and very uneven in the sense that any holds almost no power there. She is barely independent still lives with her parents who btw are pretty conservative and controlling. She is in a relations with a man more than twice her age. Her insecurities and fears of being used are really logical. Arya has made a lot of gestures for her but still has never once confessed his love of his intention to get married to her and now she is about to find out that this dude has been hiding a whole wife from her (regardless of whether the wife is dead).
Arya talks a lot about trust but hasn’t given anu many reasons to trust him. While I agree she does behave immaturely but that the most natural thing for a 20 year old. She wasn’t even an adult about 2 years ago. Why does everyone expect her to be the mature one in the relationship. Especially when Arya a grown man shows so little emotional intelligence and has practically no boundaries in his life may it be with Meera,zhende or Mansi
I'll talk of my POV here, other can give their 2 cents.
I understand that Anu is a 20 year old. But no 20-yr old has only love and marriage on their brain. She literally thinks about nothing but that.
She is supremely negligent and unprofessional, walks in and out as she pleases with no regards for rules or discipline of the office. Most girls of her age are focused on their studies & career, not marriage. Also, she refuses to understand Arya's hesitancy in verbalising his feelings, she knows that he loves her - he constantly demonstrates it thru his actions, but she is willing to give him time, but doesn't not understand what is stopping him.
Coming to Arya, he is currently the epitome of 'Nikamma kiya iss dil ne'! He has not yet proposed to her, bcoz he has not found the courage to reveal his past to her, not bcoz he wishes to cheat her. I agree he needs to be firmer in dealing with Meera & Mansi, but with Keshav he has a very different bond. Keshav has more right on him than even Harsh, so i don't think there are boundaries needed.
Wrt to AnuRya's relationship, yes there is a imbalance in terms of age and social class, but in my opinion, Anu holds all the power in their relationship. Anu has the power to reduce a successful & wordly wise businessman to a majnu who has nothing better to do than run around her, saving her & her family, attend to her whims and fancies...Anu has absolute control over Arya, she has the power to make or break him at her discretion.
Edited by Manasi_16 - 21 hours ago
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