Mandira brought up karan alone without any financial support from mihir and still he became a decent, respectful person, and has strong values. I already mentioned karan was a disturbed man, busy only with business and lost in nandini's memory . Tanya raised the children .A mother who has doesn't tell her kids any sanskar . Therefore I don't agree with you that a mother raising children alone cannot give her children good values on her own. Secondly The responsibility of the upbringing is primarily the mother especially when she is a house wife . All the women in sn were house wives except for tanya everyone else children have good values and upbringing. What was tanya doing at home ? When manthan speaks badly to the elders in the house even baa tanya never corrected him , she would always find faults in baa . She never scolded bhoomi for her mistakes . Would any mother hugs her daughter if she told her she was going to be an unwed mother ? It was tanya who did that. Tanya was insecure of nandini so she wanted to prove to bhoomi that she was the one who loved bhoomi the most . Tanya taught bhoomi to call her maa and nandini massi maa . Whenever bhoomi badmouthed Tanya cried to manthan abt how nandini has come between her and Karan, she proved him so much that he went to kill nandini. When bhoomi is scolding nandini tanya kept quite, why not tanya tell bhoomi nandini's sacrifices, later karan told bhoomi abt all sacrifices nandini had made and what ansh had actually done to her . In many instances karan angry with manthan but tanya is there who always saying save you son. And same as bhoomi she gives her credit card to her without telling karan. I admit karan karan didn't spend quality time with kids because he was hardly at home but tanya spent the maximum time with the kids she was at home all day . It was her duty to inculculate good values in her children and to teach them to respect elders , and the distinction between right and wrong . Manthan was onto drugs, smoking, flirting with girls in college , misbehaved with baa karan scolded him but tanya supporting him. Karan scolded bhoomi when he found out she try to kill tulsi , when he knew abt her pregnancy but tanya supported her.
I don’t agree that the responsibility for how Bhoomi and Manthan turned out can be placed entirely on Tanya.
Not all mothers are the same, not all fathers are the same, and not all children are the same. Every family dynamic is different, shaped by personalities, emotional maturity, and the environment created by both parents.
Comparing Mandira raising Karan alone with Tanya raising Bhoomi and Manthan as if the outcomes should be identical oversimplifies a very complex process.
Mandira’s parenting may have worked but that doesn’t automatically mean every mother, under every circumstance, can compensate for an absent or emotionally unavailable father in the same way.
It’s already established that Karan himself was a deeply disturbed man emotionally unavailable, largely absent, and consumed by his past with Nandini. That absence matters. A father’s emotional disengagement doesn’t become irrelevant simply because the mother is a homemaker. Presence is not just physical; it is emotional involvement, guidance, and shared responsibility.
Also Mihir didn’t even know Karan was his son until much later. So even though Karan knew Mihir was his father, Mihir was neither physically nor emotionally available to him during his formative years. That kind of absence leaves a lasting imprint. The same cycle then repeats itself - Karan, while physically present in the house, was emotionally unavailable to his own children.
From a child’s perspective, emotional absence can feel as damaging as physical absence. Children don’t analyze intent; they respond to behavior. When a parent is distant, distracted, or disengaged, children naturally assume they are being ignored or unloved. That sense of emotional neglect shapes their insecurities, choices, and behavior.
I agree , Tanya made serious mistakes - over-indulging Bhoomi and Manthan, defending Manthan blindly, enabling bad behavior, projecting her insecurities, and failing to correct disrespect toward elders. Those criticisms are valid. But acknowledging Tanya’s failures does not erase Karan’s responsibility.
Didn’t Karan see that the kids were being disrespectful? As a parent, wasn’t it his responsibility to step in and correct them? Parenting doesn’t begin only when things go out of control. Ignoring problematic behavior while expecting one parent to handle everything is itself a failure of responsibility.
Karan chose emotional distance, remained largely disengaged, and stepped in only when situations had already escalated. Parenting is not just about reacting in moments of crisis; it is about consistent presence, boundaries, guidance, and emotional availability.
Blaming only Tanya also reflects a broader imbalance: when children turn out well, both parents take credit; when they don’t, the mother is often singled out.
Tanya may have failed in many ways but Karan’s absence, emotional neglect, and inconsistent involvement were equally damaging. Bhoomi and Manthan were shaped by both parents the values they absorbed, the behavior they witnessed, and the emotional environment they grew up in.
Parenthood is a partnership. It cannot be reduced to who stayed home longer or who earned more. When children struggle, responsibility must be shared and in this case, the failure was collective, not individual.
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