Is Softness Misconstrued as Incompetence? Is Velvet Mistaken for Void? - Page 2

Calmness and softness is better approaches in life - be it to showcase one's leadership qualities or to mark your presence.

It is long-lasting and gives depth to one's personality. Aggression can make one shine for quick start but calmness and softness showcase one's confidence.

It gives one time to think properly, absorb things properly and make better impact.

Though the best is the combo of both. You cannot always be silent as well. In this world where noise is everywhere, one will not be heard if one does not speak when time be.

Little aggression is needed within - to have that determination to achieve it but execution should be done with calmness.

Seldom and thoughtful words are more impactful than regular aggressive noise. People tend to avoid aggressive people, while soft people's words are heard if people around know your worth.

My favorite is Rahul Dravid - Calmness but standing strong. People don't see you at start or you are not the buzz word but your name is long lasting and become an example on it's own. 'The wall'

I blabbered. Typed all in rush, not sure if I made sense 🙈

Not every battle has to be fought. There's a scene in the Mahabharata where Krishna says that where aggression usually fails, gentleness often works.

There are many instances where aggression is mistaken for arrogance or insecurity, while softness is seen as weakness or an inability to express oneself effectively. But I believe that’s just another stereotype.

Some people are naturally aggressive, forthcoming, and driven — they forge ahead with intensity. What truly matters is whether they have the tact --the ability to read the room, to adapt, and to respond with the right tone at the right time when the situation demands it.

The same applies to gentle individuals. It’s completely valid to be empathetic and calm. You don’t have to fight every battle aggressively, but it is important to stand up for what’s right and express your opinions firmly when necessary.

You don’t need to raise your voice to make a point. And you certainly don’t need to be aggressive to be right. Sometimes, quiet conviction carries more weight than the loudest argument and I learnt that from my mother.

Personally, I feel that quiet censure can be more powerful — it often leaves a deeper impact than aggressive shouting. It makes you feel like you've genuinely let someone down, which can be more transformative.

Sometimes there are times when aggressive people are not taken seriously because it's like yeh toh hamesha aggressive rehta hai, there's nothing new. It kind of becomes like wolf wolf situation. But when gentle people become aggressive, people sit up and take notice. So I guess it pays to be gentle sometimes.

That said, let’s not reverse the bias either. It is often assumed but not every outspoken person is aggressive or arrogant. Volume doesn’t always mean violence — just as calm doesn’t always mean passivity.

So yes, I think these are two sides of the same coin. As human beings, we need a bit of both — softness and strength — to survive this world.

Although it seems to me these days the one who's shouting over the others seems to get the attention, especially where 'power' is concerned.

Originally posted by: missFiesty_69

Not every battle has to be fought. There's a scene in the Mahabharata where Krishna says that where aggression usually fails, gentleness often works.

There are many instances where aggression is mistaken for arrogance or insecurity, while softness is seen as weakness or an inability to express oneself effectively. But I believe that’s just another stereotype.

Some people are naturally aggressive, forthcoming, and driven — they forge ahead with intensity. What truly matters is whether they have the tact --the ability to read the room, to adapt, and to respond with the right tone at the right time when the situation demands it.

The same applies to gentle individuals. It’s completely valid to be empathetic and calm. You don’t have to fight every battle aggressively, but it is important to stand up for what’s right and express your opinions firmly when necessary.

You don’t need to raise your voice to make a point. And you certainly don’t need to be aggressive to be right. Sometimes, quiet conviction carries more weight than the loudest argument and I learnt that from my mother.

Personally, I feel that quiet censure can be more powerful — it often leaves a deeper impact than aggressive shouting. It makes you feel like you've genuinely let someone down, which can be more transformative.

Sometimes there are times when aggressive people are not taken seriously because it's like yeh toh hamesha aggressive rehta hai, there's nothing new. It kind of becomes like wolf wolf situation. But when gentle people become aggressive, people sit up and take notice. So I guess it pays to be gentle sometimes.

That said, let’s not reverse the bias either. It is often assumed but not every outspoken person is aggressive or arrogant. Volume doesn’t always mean violence — just as calm doesn’t always mean passivity.

So yes, I think these are two sides of the same coin. As human beings, we need a bit of both — softness and strength — to survive this world.

Although it seems to me these days the one who's shouting over the others seems to get the attention, especially where 'power' is concerned.

His apparently apolitical, academic background made him appear as a mild, risk-averse, soft-spoken leader.

But many aggressive leaders listened to him with great respect, whenever he started replying!!

See the respect from madam Swaraj. She acknowledges the retort. Gone are the days

]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2mmfzEIxO2Y

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3h5eGUl6jSw