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Originally posted by: Ashane25

I am thora spiritual (not so religious) for me second marriage and that too having kids is sin....not an admirer of western culture....it's tamsi for me....even Christianity considers it adultery.....

I don't wanna argue, alright if you are comfortable with such open mindedness....

Western culture allows people to live for self instead of appeasing other people. It’s not a crime to move on or re-marry provided if there’s a legitimate reason.

There’s no need to remain in a relationship which is plagued with abuse — both physical or emotional, where there is no mutual respect and trust.
@pink : it is adultery only when you have an relationship outside your marriage, that is you are in an relationship with someone other than your partner while married — it can be emotional or physical. That’s an extramarital affair. After the due process of divorce, people are allowed to move on in all religions as far I know.

Originally posted by: Rosh4rose

It is all depends on individuals ...People must have the courage , freedom and financial independence ( both male & female) to move on...It has nothing to do with culture ...Western culture has good points too...Christianity consider it sin when some one make relationship out side marriage , That is a " sin" any ways...It is better to go separate ways and live happily ...But problem arises if the subsequent marriages also fails 🤔.....

First a person must decide whether to marry or not ...then decide are they really fit to raise a child or not

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Originally posted by: missFiesty_69

Western culture allows people to live for self instead of appeasing other people. It’s not a crime to move on or re-marry provided if there’s a legitimate reason.

There’s no need to remain in a relationship which is plagued with abuse — both physical or emotional, where there is no mutual respect and trust.
@pink : it is adultery only when you have an relationship outside your marriage, that is you are in an relationship with someone other than your partner while married — it can be emotional or physical. That’s an extramarital affair. After the due process of divorce, people are allowed to move on in all religions as far I know.

Yes one our friend was suffering in an abusive marriage one day night she walked out after an abuse , put up night at her working place , filed for divorce after few days got back her children with police help ....She was getting abused on daily basis police in this country was very supportive ...Even though ex husband refused to attend court granted her divorce at the third sitting ....She had support of her family , boss and friends ...She didn't want any child support she wanted to live in " peace "...He tried many tricks to get her back . But she didn't and now she is happy with her life children are doing wonderful in the their studies & happy ....

She is too scared with past refused to marry once more enjoys her life as a free woman without any fear ...It is better to break away if that marriage offer more trauma than happiness

Originally posted by: Rosh4rose

It is all depends on individuals ...People must have the courage , freedom and financial independence ( both male & female) to move on...It has nothing to do with culture ...Western culture has good points too...Christianity consider it sin when some one make relationship out side marriage , That is a " sin" any ways...It is better to go separate ways and live happily ...But problem arises if the subsequent marriages also fails 🤔.....

First a person must decide whether to marry or not ...then decide are they really fit to raise a child or not

Agree bold part completely....

Originally posted by: missFiesty_69

Western culture allows people to live for self instead of appeasing other people. It’s not a crime to move on or re-marry provided if there’s a legitimate reason.

There’s no need to remain in a relationship which is plagued with abuse — both physical or emotional, where there is no mutual respect and trust.
@pink : it is adultery only when you have an relationship outside your marriage, that is you are in an relationship with someone other than your partner while married — it can be emotional or physical. That’s an extramarital affair. After the due process of divorce, people are allowed to move on in all religions as far I know.

Divorce isn't an issue if cruelty, adultery and abandonment is involved, widow remarriage is fine....not in case of kids it's considered wrong....In Bible it's considered se***l immorality by many..... I am Hindu it's an alien concept as marriage is sacred union of seven births....

Most of the religion and cultures see seperation as sin from roots, even though Islam allows still it's the most disliked act.....only modern society and laws follow..

In westerns they get physical in adolescence and every second wedlock ends, leaving behind trauma for PPl involved especially kids....even second marriages fail alot so I respect Sanatan Satya....It's not like they have the best social structure, 10M+ suffer from DV every year and every minute around 25 persons get r@ped plus other abuse....their living for self is the reason every 4th child is fatherless....

I can follow in other stuffs but not values from them...

Originally posted by: Rosh4rose

Yes one our friend was suffering in an abusive marriage one day night she walked out after an abuse , put up night at her working place , filed for divorce after few days got back her children with police help ....She was getting abused on daily basis police in this country was very supportive ...Even though ex husband refused to attend court granted her divorce at the third sitting ....She had support of her family , boss and friends ...She didn't want any child support she wanted to live in " peace "...He tried many tricks to get her back . But she didn't and now she is happy with her life children are doing wonderful in the their studies & happy ....

She is too scared with past refused to marry once more enjoys her life as a free woman without any fear ...It is better to break away if that marriage offer more trauma than happiness

More strength to her. I hope she is able to gradually recover from the mental and physical trauma she must have gone through one day.

@b: my sentiments exactly. Why should someone stay in a marriage when it serves to be nothing but trauma ?

Marriage is a holy union sure but for that, two people have to love, respect and trust each other. If the core essence of the relationship is missing, what’s the point of being in one ? Masochistic tendencies or just because it is expected of us ? Dikhave ke liye ?

Sorry I’ll go ahead and tell that if two people fall out of love and want to call it quits, they should be able to, not be in a relationship where both of them aren’t interested in upholding it. But that’s just me and if that makes me too “liberal” so be it.

Originally posted by: missFiesty_69

More strength to her. I hope she is able to gradually recover from the mental and physical trauma she must have gone through one day.

@b: my sentiments exactly. Why should someone stay in a marriage when it serves to be nothing but trauma ?

Marriage is a holy union sure but for that, two people have to love, respect and trust each other. If the core essence of the relationship is missing, what’s the point of being in one ? Masochistic tendencies or just because it is expected of us ? Dikhave ke liye ?

Sorry I’ll go ahead and tell that if two people fall out of love and want to call it quits, they should be able to, not be in a relationship where both of them aren’t interested in upholding it. But that’s just me and if that makes me too “liberal” so be it.

I have seen a lot of marriages which over the years become unfunctional ...Both parties are not happy etc ..If it so better to go separate way

Originally posted by: Ashane25

Divorce isn't an issue if cruelty, adultery and abandonment is involved, widow remarriage is fine....not in case of kids it's considered wrong....In Bible it's considered se***l immorality by many..... I am Hindu it's an alien concept as marriage is sacred union of seven births....

Most of the religion and cultures see seperation as sin from roots, even though Islam allows still it's the most disliked act.....only modern society and laws follow..

In westerns they get physical in adolescence and every second wedlock ends, leaving behind trauma for PPl involved especially kids....even second marriages fail alot so I respect Sanatan Satya....It's not like they have the best social structure, 10M+ suffer from DV every year and every minute around 25 persons get r@ped plus other abuse....their living for self is the reason every 4th child is fatherless....

I can follow in other stuffs but not values from them...

Ashane bro,

You’ll definitely agree that Pati agar Parmeshwar jaisa ho toh saath nahi sattar janam bhi nibhayenge shaadi. Par agar pati yadi haiwaan nikle toh sattar ghante bhi nibhane ki zaroorat nahi hai. Parmeshwar ne yeh bilkul nahi kaha ki shaadi ko nibhane ke liye zillat aur takleef bhi sehni hai.

@b: if you happen to have kids and husband abuses you, does that mean you should remain in that marriage solely because you happen to have kids ? No religion preaches that.

Or if your husband passes away and you happen to have kids, does that mean they should remain unmarried ?

@red : if my partner and me don’t see eye to eye, don’t want to be together, isn’t it better that we separate instead of cheating or putting up an act for some random 3rd person ?

@green: yahan toh sab structured hai, phir kyun a 3 month old baby se leke 75 year old lady is raped ? Men are not also not spared.
We shouldn’t be able to see these things day in and day out right ? Kaunsa dharm hai jo kisi ke upar zabardasti karna ya haath utana manya karta hai ?

At least, they don’t kill the female kid in womb because she is not lucky for the father/parents.
Problem ideologies mein nahi, log mein hai.

As far as second marriages are concerned, it depends on individuals. There are plenty of cases where it is successful. You are entitled to your opinion and I’m mine 🤷🏻‍♀️

Originally posted by: Riddhi2Saini006

It might be my introverted nature but Neil ke cousins kuch zyaada hi loud and intrusive hain. I just want tejaswini to ek baar sunao them (later) for not having any sense of space

They are loud and some of them don't know when to talk what. First yash said that vahini prank hua and then Nandini said that every girl prepares their lines before marriage for the ookhane ki rasam. Teju was like what the hell!!

Originally posted by: Rosh4rose

I have seen a lot of marriages which over the years become unfunctional ...Both parties are not happy etc ..If it so better to go separate way

Yup I agree.

Hey IF! 4 shabd.