Parineeti says she was too ‘poor’ to cut cakes on birthdays as a kid - Page 4

Originally posted by: IAmLuvBolly

To be fair she’s saying her maternal grandparents would pay for her business flight to Nairobi. She was a poor child in Ambala but would fly to Nairobi every summer on her rich grandparents’ dime.

Wish her rich grandparents would’ve sent her bday cakes too..so she wouldn’t regret cutting a rasgulla years later

Originally posted by: DheeJattanDi

Not defending her here. But that's because she and her brothers are technically not their responsibility? I send my nephews nieces nice gifts and tickets to come visit me all the time, doesn't mean I am going to fully sponsor their lives 😬

Buy them bday cakes along with gifts..what if they become famous in future and mention that their aunt sent them tickets n gifts but not a cake 🎂

Just kidding 😀

Originally posted by: DheeJattanDi

Not defending her here. But that's because she and her brothers are technically not their responsibility? I send my nephews nieces nice gifts and tickets to come visit me all the time, doesn't mean I am going to fully sponsor their lives 😬

Nephews and nieces are different from grandkids......the grandparents literally live for their grandkids......do you think a Dadi or Nani will live a luxury life while their grandkid is cutting a rasgulla on their birthday because they couldn't afford a cake?? Only if they are lousy grandparents....

Originally posted by: Kyahikahoon

Wish her rich grandparents would’ve sent her bday cakes too..so she wouldn’t regret cutting a rasgulla years later

She may have exaggerated the rasgulla thing or explained things out of context. But just because there’s one extended family branch who’s very well off it doesn’t mean no one in that family will face financial hardships. Specially when you don’t even live in the same country. People are very good at hiding their money issues from family. Then there’s also the cultural pressure on a man to be a good provider. I suspect most men wouldn’t show vulnerability in front of their wives’ parents by asking for cake money. Family dynamics can be tricky between in laws to begin with it, add to it rich in laws and a son in law who’s struggling in a highly patriarchal culture.

I’m not saying her rasgulla birthday story is true. I’m just saying just because her maternal grandparents paid for her to fly somewhere doesn’t automatically negate her other stories.

I am not sure of pareenti parents economical situation via her cousins in childhood

But i have seen such scenario in india around me where 2 siblings very rich one middle class another lower middle class barely surviving kind. Like if there are 4 siblings 2 brothers go abroad are super rich millionaires a sister is married to middle class family in india and another brother is almost lower middle class. here the 2 brothers abroad own bungalows both in india and abroad sister too has own house while another brother lives in smaall old tuta phuta house with his famly having hand to mouth existence. This i have seen in india quiet often in families.

Why did the one brother remain poor? May be he did not get a good job in india low paying job, may be he did not study much only 10th or diploma, may be he was eldest had to stop studies go to work at 18 or 19th after 10th or 12th so his parents and younger siblings do not go without food and schooling. Many such reasons are there

Also its not like always siblings help other poor siblings or their kids economically or in other ways. Nowadays(nowadays means from 1990s only) its all about me, my wife my kids even aged parents do not count in family. To each his own

I am not sure about praneeti how rich her parents grandparents are but its possible her parents could not afford to hold birthday partys or buy expensive cakes rather they only spent on education and books than on birthday cakes and partys

I have seen scenarios where parents have expected elder or middle son or daughter to study like 10th or 12th and send to work to meet house hold expenses and sponsor education of other 2-3 siblings to school colleges. Of course once siblings study of the other sibling money they will just move out abroad or other big city for jobs and not bother to help that one sibling later on once hey are well off

Parents usually sacrifice one kids future for family or other siblings upbringing or education in india i have seen this often

Also in middle class i have seen if 2 siblings there parents spend 80% money on one child send him abroad(usually the son) and make him do MBBS, MD etc or BE Mtech etc abroad other sibling they do not help go up in life they just do basic bsc, bcom and work in india

So praneetti is not all that wrong to say that they did not have birthday partys

Think of amir khan and his brother and sister. Parents helped amir khan move up in life not his other brother and sister in life.

Think of anil kappoor and boney kapooor versus sanjay kapoor situation

Same things happen in almost every house hold where parents put maximum effort on one or two kids rest are just given basic education and necessity

This is very very common in india house holds where one works in usa/UK is millionaire another sibling barely meets needs in india. Also even if sibling brother wants to help his wife and her family do not allow to help other poor siblings. Wife only wants hubby to help her siblings to go up in life not his own siblings.

Maybe the theme based and cream cakes were not so famous then n Ambala when she was young .

Imo, a very important observation as it reflects something that westernizing (and valueing money over feeling of togetherness) has changed in the bigger picture of family dynamics in India.

Indian family dynamics aside..this is what wiki says about Pari’s early life.

Chopra was educated at Convent of Jesus and Mary, Ambala.[14] In an interview published in The Hindu, she revealed that she was a very good student and had always wanted to become an investment banker.[8] At the age of 17, Chopra moved to England, where she received a triple honours degree in business, finance and economics from Manchester Business School.[8][15] She used to take orientation classes for new students at the university.[16] While studying, she worked part-time for the Manchester United Football Clubas the team leader of the catering department.[17] Chopra is also a trained Hindustani classicalsinger with a B.A. Honours in music. She used to perform on stage with her cousin, Priyanka, and their fathers in her childhood.[18]

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I am not sure of pareenti parents economical situation via her cousins in childhood

But i have seen such scenario in india around me where 2 siblings very rich one middle class another lower middle class barely surviving kind. Like if there are 4 siblings 2 brothers go abroad are super rich millionaires a sister is married to middle class family in india and another brother is almost lower middle class. here the 2 brothers abroad own bungalows both in india and abroad sister too has own house while another brother lives in smaall old tuta phuta house with his famly having hand to mouth existence. This i have seen in india quiet often in families.

Why did the one brother remain poor? May be he did not get a good job in india low paying job, may be he did not study much only 10th or diploma, may be he was eldest had to stop studies go to work at 18 or 19th after 10th or 12th so his parents and younger siblings do not go without food and schooling. Many such reasons are there

Also its not like always siblings help other poor siblings or their kids economically or in other ways. Nowadays(nowadays means from 1990s only) its all about me, my wife my kids even aged parents do not count in family. To each his own

I am not sure about praneeti how rich her parents grandparents are but its possible her parents could not afford to hold birthday partys or buy expensive cakes rather they only spent on education and books than on birthday cakes and partys

I have seen scenarios where parents have expected elder or middle son or daughter to study like 10th or 12th and send to work to meet house hold expenses and sponsor education of other 2-3 siblings to school colleges. Of course once siblings study of the other sibling money they will just move out abroad or other big city for jobs and not bother to help that one sibling later on once hey are well off

Parents usually sacrifice one kids future for family or other siblings upbringing or education in india i have seen this often

Also in middle class i have seen if 2 siblings there parents spend 80% money on one child send him abroad(usually the son) and make him do MBBS, MD etc or BE Mtech etc abroad other sibling they do not help go up in life they just do basic bsc, bcom and work in india

So praneetti is not all that wrong to say that they did not have birthday partys

Think of amir khan and his brother and sister. Parents helped amir khan move up in life not his other brother and sister in life.

Think of anil kappoor and boney kapooor versus sanjay kapoor situation

Same things happen in almost every house hold where parents put maximum effort on one or two kids rest are just given basic education and necessity

This is very very common in india house holds where one works in usa/UK is millionaire another sibling barely meets needs in india. Also even if sibling brother wants to help his wife and her family do not allow to help other poor siblings. Wife only wants hubby to help her siblings to go up in life not his own siblings.

That is extremely harsh reality of life. One child gets all the support and other child gets the bare minimum.

This from her own interview. Nothing wrong in speaking about childhood struggles. But there shouldn’t be different versions of childhood.

Why did you choose to study abroad? A family tradition of sorts or a larger goal in mind?

I have been travelling right from the time I was a baby. As a family, every year we used to take long holidays and travel all over the world. By the time I was 17, I had seen half the world and I wanted to go and explore living in the UK all by myself. I also aspired to get a job in one of the best banks in Singapore, London, New York or Sydney. I chose the UK because it turned out to be a place for the kind of person I was. Hence, no family tradition but a personal choice.