Originally posted by: sanfan
Priya… I hope you are not being deliberately obtuse with what I have written about my perception of the story.
I hsve never challenged your perception of the story… You have expected Ani to do many things jbecause you believe it to be the right thing…You are saying that Ani should not have allowed J to be exposed to the kind of insults she was in BH Priya…. What I expect from Ani isn’t the story…. The story is about what Ani is…if you saw Ani differently than what I write below.. well good for you.. I understood Ani is not a confrontational guy. He will avoid the confrontational path if there’s a way he can get the issue sorted out in way that gets the job done but douses any fires. It doesn’t matter if you think he fell in love with J at first sight. If I accept your thought that he indeed fell in love with J at the first moment, do you think he should have taken accountability for a stray thought and emptied out his thought to Arshi and decided his life’s course in that one moment..Ofc not… Love is a simple emotion but is pretty complex in how it’s lived…I know even you do not expect him to decide but you have held him responsible for everything that followed based on that one thought…Ideally, Ani should have conveyed to Arshi that J and he were forcibly married at a temple and then faced what followed…but for that Ani would have to be a different person na? In every serial perhaps where there’s a forced Shaadi trope the actions taken are circumstantial etc but in this serial it was personality driven and that was the most interesting thing to me. Ani did not accept the relationship that was foisted on him but yet his sense of responsibility for J did not allow him to shirk what came along… his methods may not to one’s liking but within that the character was able to convey the integrity of intention to me as a viewer…I know as time passed he wasn’t able to make distinction what was for love and what was for responsibility and the lines blurred….
For argument sake. - I am going to leave out what Ani could have done, bcos thats not how the story plays out, I'll stick to story - so nothing like why Ani did not send J to hostel or why J did not go to hostel instead of Tejas.
Prev para - Agree 100% - Ani is non confrontational - prefers to set right the immediate need than worry abt future repercussions. I did not expect him to initially tell Arshi then what story remains? Also agree that though ani's choices were wrong, I was able to see where he was coming from till aag episodes. The conflict - also the game he played to keep J safe made the timing for confession to Arshi pass by without his realization - and guilt kicked in.
Priya… you ignore all the things that Ani said or did after his complete acceptance of his love after the HA track; In his extreme anger he took his boldest decision ever.. It is true that the decision taken was uncharacteristic of Ani we know until then cos the Ani we know would have found a way for better closure for Arshi and himself and in that his quality of ends vs means ambivalence does come into play. But I understood that Ani too.. He was on the verge of losing his life and the life of suppression he had led until then was pressing for a release. Yet in the cold light of the day he sobered to convince J cos he knew that until she agreed their relationship will not see the light of the day. You are of the belief that J wanted Ani to leave Arshi of his own accord but she didn’t want the tag… yeh kaise possible ho ab tak story main toh clear hi nahin but let’s accept that for a moment cos Jhanak Rani badi sayani’s mind is maha complex 😂😂
J is complex. If Arshi leaves Ani or if Ani left Arshi for any purpose other than J, like her deceit of Ani regarding Shristi's ploys; disrespect of his loved ones - Appu, did not truly love Arshi, I believe there was a chance J would have accepted him, prior to the first marriage (aag time). I've said it before. After Kashmir night, I believe J would have supported Ani had he confessed he did not love Arshi to everyone. Why else did she go back to Calcutta?
Till K night J did not know Ani loved her. He never said it - he showed his desire for her, his haq over her but never said he did not love Arshi. When she left for Kashmire - Ani had just said he took her out for dinner to make her feel good. He came back home all ready to celebrate his bday with Arshi. While he said he did not know what he will do without her he never said anything abt leaving Arshi. J knew Ani wanted her to stay - but was not clear in what capacity. Post K night she cam back with Ani as she thought Ani loved her and only felt responsibility for Arshi. On coming back to Calcutta, given Ani did not remember what happened, and was still set on course to marry Arshi, J blew up on what seemed like Ani using J as someone on the side, seeminglt making true what Tejas always told J.
Unfortunately what Ani would have done after J left for Mumbai after shoot was never shown as J’s death news came and Ani lost his sense of purpose all over again. The reason I consider Ani’s dialogues while asking Arshi to stay on post J’s death clever by half by Leena is let’s us think that Ani is a flipper and she uses this ruse in the story to keep that alive but the Ani shown to us by then had grown by leaps and bounds and that was shown after J was found alive and he stayed on that path until the baby announcement.
Rekha you are calling it clever. It is Leela's angle ruse whatever it is - but that is Ani flipping in the story like whiplash. Which is why he gets bashed. While we saw Ani grow leaps and bounds we also witnessed him say these horrid things. We got a monologue of why he says these things - he feels sorry for Arshi. OK feel sorry - I get it. J is gone - and you are ok to settle down with Arshi for her sake rather than be single and pine. Dont say things like I will die without J. That is inciting to the audience. Maintain the stance - you'd rather have J but if not J and she is gone and left, you prefer to nibhaoify your zimmedahari than stay away from Arshi. I will never fault it. Its not wrong. Its how you love and your tolerance for responsibility. I agree that Ani did not want anything more than emotional comfort from Arshi. But when J comes back he pulls back. Its looking very selfish. You made a choice to accept Arshi for emotional support. When your love came back stick to it. OK - you decided love is under danger so I need to support love and let zimmedhari go. But when the zimmedhari increases with his baby, he lets love go furthermore without warning her that she is in danger. Whatever nonsense Leena is writing for Ani - its making him look real bad. I agree he is not a bad person and has no affinity for Arshi. His issue is his bad decision making his impulsiveness and his over developed sense of guilt, his inability to understand he cannot make everything right. Something has to give. You choose the one that you claim is your highest love to sacrifice, hurting both in the process. Unless he is a masochist there is no other explanation, especially when the hurt he deals out as a result of his choice is more painful to his love and only assauges his guilt in the long run.
Choice of marrying Arshi when he knew he loved J - made J homeless and ensured an unhappy life with Arshi. Arshi would have gone to her parents found another guy.
Asking J to forfeit competetion made J have no means for a living and depend on Guruji and Aditya. Arshi would have survived with all her comforts.
Asking J to marry him, made BH almost entirely turn against her.
Marrying Arshi to take responsibility, with no recollection made J feel he lied all along, furthermore he never gave her the comfort of knowing he lied for her. Now J's life vs. his baby not yet in the world.
I am reacting exactly as Leena wants me to react based on how she is shaping the story.
Ani was never in a position to have an adult like conversation with Arshi cos the moment had long passed and it’s not as if Arshi wasn’t unaware of what was happening. They say once the moment for a deed passes by… every step you take beyond its time will hang heavy and this was what happened between Ani and Arshi. Arshi was firmly ensconced in her high chair of acting as if only a certain set of words spoken in a certain combination and time will cause her to leave else all was hunky dory in her world.Ani being the soft guy in his sanest moments wouldn’t hurt anyone so he always kept restraint and found himself in a predicament at life’s worst moments. Leena’s writing of Arshi is the funniest.. she kept tripping the leads in her grand design to keep Arshi relevant Ani has asked Arshi to leave in 100 different ways but Arshi waiting to hear magic words spoken at a Muhurat time is the clincher of deciding who Ani is!! This is not a character sketch but cleverness by half
Underline 100%. agree. Ani lost his moment and is suffering the consequence of his actions. I feel sorry for him as he is a nice guy. But until he fixes his mistakes, he will not be able to make anyone else happy. He cannot fix J's mistakes - that she has to work on by herself. Both need to work on their issues. Till they are able to - I'm ok to see the new story unfolding. I first did not like bhabi sequale to jijaji. But that aside, I'm ok to see how they feel to be somewhat in the others spot this time around.
Its almost the opposite.
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