I have always been a great fan of the fact that them both , strongly n vehemently stood their ground in calling the temple wedding a “desperate way out to the impending danger” and nothing beyond that, in the initial days!
For me no one should point a gun 🔫 at anyone and get him/her married, if they do, the stakeholders should rightfully call it a sham!
And when two practical, educated, thinking minds are involved, there should be no other way of interpreting it but just that - a forced way out!
So for me, this was a love story, that bloomed coz these two are innately very similar, it bloomed coz one of them was awed by how far some stranger went for her safety n well being and to some extent her career when she has never had a male figure all her life, caring and protecting her!
For the other one, who has always been a loner, amidst a sea of known people, putting forward his best foot forward always, to please everyone around him, she was a breath of fresh air, as she allowed him to be him! And understood him more than anyone else, hence she felt close and his apna!
There was the wedding as an undercurrent, as they both couldn’t forget the event, no matter how much their brains tried to negate it!
And this event not just made their relationship complicated, it did not let them move apart instead brought them closer sub consciously, where he became the sub conscious husband feeling “zimmedar” for J who he sub-consciously considered his wife! And she yearned to be his wife and do her wifely duties, despite the moral conflict that it would seed aka ditch her didi!
Despite all the wrong doings of Shrishti, Arshi n the BH evil clan, I am looking at the current situation as pashchatap that both Ani n J are undergoing for emotionally cheating Arshi! As with their love n longing for eo, they have indeed cheated Arshi.
However, if that be the case, the scales should balance out, so where is karma returned for Arshi, Shrishti n the evil clan?
Originally posted by: sanfan
Italic - I know it’s a sensitive topic but I am glut for punishment 😀😀
When I asked the question what is the sanctity of a relationship thrust upon by society… I meant Ani and Jhanak’s temple wedding.
I like to play the devil’s advocate on this issue because I find this concept of “forced wedding” an oxymoron of sorts; I mean ITV has almost aced this bond to Ultrapromax level…and in a country where there are more people usually marrying by bonds arranged by their families, I assume writers have been able to use such tropes because there is a general consensus that marriage alone confers sanction on such relationships. Once someone is married, kuch bhi ho… bas wahi bond maani jayegi… well it’s another thing that most makers use this trope to make sure the two people in such a bond girte padte fall in love..Even where the hero (not sure if they have tried with heroine) is in a committed relationship with someone else, he will finally only recognise the shaadi over anything else…
Now coming to Jhanakland, That temple wedding was to all intents and purposes a wedding that they both didn’t desire? It was a bond formed by the pressure from society.
They went to great lengths to hide that bond, not to submit to it. That they fell in love along the way is another matter. Yet even to each other, they used only euphemisms to describe it usually. Frankly, their secret wedding in any serial would have caused viewers to be sure they are the real deal and be certain that these two would walk into the sunset. Yet, the character trait of the ML and situational dynamics of FL ensured that this would be a moral dilemma that would stop the relationship from progressing…. To me in some ways, this is a first (?) of sorts where love ( in whatever shape or form) was being prioritised over a marriage ( in whatever shape or form). To add to that, they went in for annulment too… Then they went ahead with the wedding of the so called lovers which just stopped short of a few rituals before hell broke loose!! The FL took a stand of leaving the hell hole she had inhabited prioritising her mental health and well being over love. Today the Kolkata gang have given sanctity to that relationship which is considered to be of the supposed free will of the two lovers, where the free will of one is highly suspect, words notwithstanding..😜
All in all, an interesting situation from the perspective of a viewer who is purely looking at how the story is building…. I know if we get emotions, sensibilities etc involved it gets murky. is the writer trying to get the protagonists to face their worst fears not just voice them? Will their love be strong enough to shine through to prove that all the sanctity in a relationship is derived from from only the heart’s desire? I don’t know and frankly I don’t even know if I will like what they will show.
For my own sanity, I am just skimming through episodes now… but I have to say they have the story poised at a difficult point..It’s a risky move but you never know 
wanted to tag Vira but as she has expressed her desire not to be tagged for now, not doing that
All views, counter views welcome 😊
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