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Posted: 1 years ago
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I see Anuj and Anupama being called a cheating couple but I don’t see Anupama as cheating.

If Shrew knowing Anuj loves Anupama is still forcing, manipulating Adhya, and arm twisting Anuj into marriage and that is okay, then Anupama having feelings for her ex-husband is also okay.


If Shrew can be forgiven for her machinations (the cockroach thing to surface as her doing amongst other things) just because she was with Anuj these past few years and just because she is desperately in love with him, then Anupama having feelings for her ex with whom she lived as his wife is totally acceptable too.

One cannot switch off feelings is what I read, Shrew cannot be blamed for feeling the way she does, she is educated, young but she cannot control her emotions for Anuj and so she should be forgiven her despicable clinging on to Anuj, her emotional blackmail, her nastiness to Anupama, and her using Adhya to keep Anuj away from Anupama. Anupama on the other hand is to be blamed cos she is older and not in the throes of youth, should exercise constraint with her emotions towards her wayward daughter and her ex-husband both of whom she loves.

Shrew is alone and needs emotional support, her parents are dead (is that Anuj’s fault?) but she has no one except Anuj and Adhya (something amiss here, a young educated pretty woman with not a single friend, reeks of a character flaw perhaps?) so it is okay for her to manipulate Anuj. Anupama is alone but it is her own fault that she is alone (she has multiple friends but that is a character flaw as she is a loose woman who knows how to attract people, lol), and even though she does not cross the line with Anuj, her being friendly or comfortable with her ex with whom she shared a life as his wife in every sense,and whom she still loves, makes her a home wrecker even though there is no home to wreck except in Shrew’s own delusional mind and Adhya’s wishful thinking.

Anuj has to remain tied to Shrew cos she stayed with him these past few years. So I guess no divorce even if a couple fall out of love and the man or woman want an out? They are not married but I guess he has no way out cos Shrew loves him, he is to remain indebted to her for eternity, shackled to her cos she is alone in this world and is dependent on him for her happiness.


Still hoping against hope that Shrew is reclaimed to be the bubbly, confident, fair, clear headed character she was introduced to us as initially and that she bows out of the messy triangle in which she does not rightfully belong with head held high and without being smeared with the stench of the cockroach incident. Beggars cannot be choosers and viewers can but lament.


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Posted: 1 years ago
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Thanks, well written.

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Posted: 1 years ago
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Because Anuj and Shruti are still engaged. Anuj hasn't broken the engagement. An engagement is a sacred vow, a promise Anuj has made to her. Any real man will not betray the promise without breaking the engagement


And it's common to fight for someone you love and try to change their mind. If people just gave up as soon as a vamp came into a relationship and troed to steal your husband/fiance, half of the relationships in this world wouldn't have happened.


I think this shows exactly the kind of damage this show spreads, people don't understand what engagement or marriages mean, they feel these are just time pass and words and not what they actually are - sacred vows and promises.


Even legally in India such live in relationships are under law which gives Shruti rights (I know they are in America) and Anuj and anupama are breaking the indian law.


It's hilarious that a show which was about justice for an abused cheating victim now has its fans rooting for lead couple to cheat on partners and calling the victim wrong. But then the morality of these fans is like the leads, they change based on who is doing something and not on what is being done.

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Posted: 1 years ago
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🤔By that Logic, what Vanraj and Kavya did was absolutely right too.

OMG, now what is the cause we were ALL fighting and what was Anupama, a victim of?

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Posted: 1 years ago
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If Anuj wasn't able to move on,he shouldn't have got engaged to Shruti in the first place. How conveniently people forgot he went on his knees to propose to her even when she was willing to leave. Shruti wasn't staying with them on gunpoint. Anuj's actions are completely egregious. No man, I repeat no man in this world is naive enough to not understand the feelings of a woman they are living with. He USED her and has still kept her as a BACKUP in case things doesn't augur well with Sanskaripama.

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Anuj and Anupamaa are both doing emotional cheating with shruti. As much as i dont like shruti as a character the flaw here is in anuj. I won't even talk of anupamaa as it's all done too many times to count.


Anuj in my opinion should never have commited to shruti when he knew his heart belongs to someone else ( unfortunately for him it belongs to a lady who never had him in her priority list when they were married)


Even now he time and again keeps promising her marriage but his face becomes like a tortured men when shruti comes close to him.


He can be a good friend to shruti for adhya as she loves her for the emotional support she provided to her in last 5 years when her own mother was on sanyas mode. He should have explained to adhya that he can't give big commitment like marriage to shruti and at the same time should have tried to maintain distance from anupama as that causes trauma to adhya.


I would be insecure too if my fiancee keeps having day dreams with his ex on songs like jeeye to jeeye kaise like seriouslysmiley11

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Exactly! It's nerve racking to read a CHEATER being glorified as a DOTING FATHER who is coerced into marriage by a scheming woman. I mean com'on, getting engaged to Shruti was not a compulsive act rather calculative I would say. That man is pretty clear in his thoughts. Despite Aadya's repeated requests,he is still maintaining proximity with Shahs. He is trying hard to get back with Anupama BUT has kept Shruti on a STAND BY in case things doesn't unfold as per his wishes. It's so obvious. Why it's difficult to understand?

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Originally posted by: Jefen

Thanks, well written.

Thank you!

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Originally posted by: Harish111

Because Anuj and Shruti are still engaged. Anuj hasn't broken the engagement. An engagement is a sacred vow, a promise Anuj has made to her. Any real man will not betray the promise without breaking the engagement


And it's common to fight for someone you love and try to change their mind. If people just gave up as soon as a vamp came into a relationship and troed to steal your husband/fiance, half of the relationships in this world wouldn't have happened.


I think this shows exactly the kind of damage this show spreads, people don't understand what engagement or marriages mean, they feel these are just time pass and words and not what they actually are - sacred vows and promises.


Even legally in India such live in relationships are under law which gives Shruti rights (I know they are in America) and Anuj and anupama are breaking the indian law.


It's hilarious that a show which was about justice for an abused cheating victim now has its fans rooting for lead couple to cheat on partners and calling the victim wrong. But then the morality of these fans is like the leads, they change based on who is doing something and not on what is being done.



I don’t see Anupama as cheating.

Anuj is sailing with his two feet in two separate boats, not done and not kosher, his behavior. He should break off with Shrew if he still hankers after Anupama which he does. Yes, his behavior is not above board and if he didn’t make it clear to Shrew he doesn’t love her, I would say he is the worst of the worst.

Shrew is bad for emotionally manipulating Anuj to stay with her, but he is worse to be engaged to Shrew and go after his first and only love. He is doing it to appease his daughter and he did it previously out of convenience, both okay reasons, I guess, if he had not seen and gotten re-enamored with Anupama.

It is not wrong of Anuj to feel his old love re-ignited, but if he wants to act upon that love he is feeling and cannot squash that love, he should definitely break it off with Shrew and not lead her on or at least not be coerced by Shrew and Aadhya into keeping up this complicity.

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Posted: 1 years ago
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Upma knows that Anuj is engaged to Shru still she is leading him on by flirting with him,hugging him,accepting the saree given by him,falling in his arms n having eyelocks with him,praising his cooking skill yet has no shame in doing all the things she never did when she was married to him..If this is not cheating then what does all this shit is called as ?

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