What makes Anupama a terrible Female lead?? - Page 12

Originally posted by: Paru...

The final separation happened because he believed and trusted Ca's words over Anupama's. It happened as he called her children from first marriage as baggage and accused her of infidelity with her ex -husband. He even pointed that his marriage was a hasty decision.

Funny how people believe separation was because of one situation

Both Anuj and CA saw her abandoning CA again and again and again. No one needs to tell Anuj anything, he SAW her abandoning CA many times. So did all the audience. It's not one situation at all, but her entire behaviour during the 3 year marriage.

Accused her of infidelity? What? When did this happen? Kuch bhi.

Anuj clearly re iterated multiple instances of Anupama abandoning them. Not only that, he said these are just a couple instances that are coming to mind and I always thought Anu would move forward and start to give them priority but she didn't.

Instead of intersecting her behavior in the marriage with Anuj she left then for their Khushi and became a jogan. and then has the courage to ask kyu kyu kyu mujhse nafrat karti hai CA. Behen, tu chali gayi ..you didn't even bother to put your kid through therapy but you decided to put your cheater son through therapy and your abuser ex through therapy to mourn over sons loss.

Bhai, Kaun likhta hai aisi stories. Even amateur writers write better than this. But look, people even justify such non sensical stories !!

What rubbish! Anuj never had any issue with Anupama's grown up children. Infact he was the one who took their responsibility when Achche Pita backed off. I don't understand whether Maa bhakts are really this naive or they are trying to twist the narrative? Anuj was very vocal about Vanraj's interference in their lives. Remember that line "wo tumhari bua ka ladka nahi hai jo...."Numerous times he requested Maa to draw the line but instead of paying heed she did the exact opposite. Which women sneaks out at midnight to meet her ex? Hides his personal matters from her current husband and let's him abuse her new family? The protagonist terribly failed as a wife and mother and nothing can JUSTIFY her actions. It was never about kids. Kuch bhi....

On YouTube I saw more weird comments of Anupama fans. They claim Anuj questioned her character. I saw the episode again to check if I missed something. He never accused her of any affair with Vanraj, just said that since he is her first love and she has 3 kids from him, she is unable to shed her past baggage.

He also blamed himself saying that probably he should have given her more time before tying the knot. Maa interpreted this statement as "Anuj burdened by her baggage."

Well! Sometimes fights between married couples go overboard. But does that mean marriage is over! Do you file for a divorce the very next day, especially when you have kids?! You sort out, apologize, or try to arrive at a amicable solution! Only when differences become irreconcilable for extended periods, a couple separates!

Or yahan pe Anuj ne sach bola or respectfully bhi bola! Frustrated tha woh magar phir bhi woh sirf Anupama se realistic expectations rakh raha tha! When you remarry, your duties toward your ex are limited to co-parenting your kids! That's it!

Originally posted by: Harish111

No mother in the world is so obsessed with grown up married kids, even our own mothers are not. You can ask anyone on this forum if their moms are obsessed with them and interfere in their lives so much. All our mom's spend times with our dad's, not with grown up kids.

Grown up, married kids are not bagages, they have their own lives. If a mother interferes in their lives so much at that point, she is a bad mother.

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Thank you for putting it out loud and clear.

And here we have Onupama interfering in everyone's married life including Shahs, Vanraj-Kavya, Ankush-Barkha and the 3 anmol ratna.

On second thoughts, if she is so involved in her children's life how can she get offended or be bothered if her saas (Malati Devi) even spoke between her and her (then) husband Anuj?

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

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Thank you for putting it out loud and clear.

And here we have Onupama interfering in everyone's married life including Shahs, Vanraj-Kavya, Ankush-Barkha and the 3 anmol ratna.

On second thoughts, if she is so involved in her children's life how can she get offended or be bothered if her saas (Malati Devi) even spoke between her and her (then) husband Anuj?

You can see how Anupama took a strong woman like Kinjal, who Rakhi raised to be independent and turned her into a slobbering weak mess who claims she cannot take care of her daughter on her own. Look at how Rakhi took care of her even without a husband.

Originally posted by: Harish111

You can see how Anupama took a strong woman like Kinjal, who Rakhi raised to be independent and turned her into a slobbering weak mess who claims she cannot take care of her daughter on her own. Look at how Rakhi took care of her even without a husband.

True that.

Parents, ALL their life, yearn to make their children, strong and independent. To be able to stand on their own feet.

I can understand the mothers (especially of the generation gone by) who were mostly home bound and whose entire life revolved around their family, more so, their sons and would want to stay relevant and important in their children's lives and were insecure of children taking care of them in old age.

Today's parents are more aware and more exposed to the outside world and would rather have their life than interfere in their children's life. Ofcourse this cannot be a blanket statements bit a general observation.

But in case of Anupama, she meddled with practically everyone's married life. I mean who are you?

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

Have you read about Malaika Arbaaz, Hritik Suzzane, many TV couples, who have grown up kids and meet outside the house only for kids.

Had seen a video where Malaika and Arbaaz came to see off their son at the airport when he was going for higher studies, both didn’t exchange even a hello.

He married again and didn’t invite her nor didn she react to media on their marriage. Their son was present at the wedding that’s it.

Who does Holy rituals together with the excuse of kids? Only a wife can sit next to a man in any Hawan or Pooja. Ramayana is the best example. Wife nahi hai akela kare, jo present wife hai usse baithaye but divorced couple doing this together is an insult to such age old rituals.

And guess what, she will repeat the same pattern with Anuj now.

Nothing can justify Anupamaa’s two timing after divorce and second marriage and now after second divorce too she ain’t stopping.

In my family we don't do such rituals before wedding as it is not part of our culture. So i am not the best person to discuss about it.But here CA is just 12 years and still a minor to get married.So let us wait till the right time comes to discuss whether MaAn does these rituals together or not at her wedding .

Originally posted by: Paru...

In my family we don't do such rituals before wedding as it is not part of our culture. So i am not the best person to discuss about it.But here CA is just 12 years and still a minor to get married.So let us wait till the right time comes to discuss whether MaAn does these rituals together or not at her wedding .

Okay!

But what about her doing rituals with Vanraj after divorce? And its not about culture or religion, am sure every culture every State with different customs will have similar set of rules for a divorced couple.

Originally posted by: Dee-Dee

Okay!

But what about her doing rituals with Vanraj after divorce? And its not about culture or religion, am sure every culture every State with different customs will have similar set of rules for a divorced couple.

In our state, even if a widower's child, boy or girl (man whose wife is no more and hasn't re-married) were to be married, he cannot sit in the marriage functions and they will have to be performed by the next of kin (a still married couple only).

This is true for any Shubhakaarya.

Men and Women are equal partners and men are expected to respect the role and position of their better half.