Vanshaj {EDT #53} Rishton ki Mahabharat - Page 108

Even I am not the mod of this forum bro, I am sorry if my words felt like warning here except the post where people actually PMed asmita just to blame her cause that was really a warning

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/164625201

I edited off the follwing paras in bold cause i didn't want to escalate the situation further but i realised that it doesn't matter cause the good vibes i got from this forum was destroyed after this thread so here goes

Ok for the record i wasn't ganging up on anyone

She mentioned our names and i had to defend myself

Spandan's post felt wrong for me as well that's why i asked him to stop it ( he posted the same in GDT 5 page 106 or something and i posted that he shouldn't mention it)

I agree that what Spandan did was wrong i asked her to stay but she said that we were impulsive....we deserved that

I was just saying my peice

She could've directly tagged Spandan to ask him to stop spamming , also she said that we were wrong to assume things and get offended from her convo with Suyash bhai but she took offence to Spandan's post ( which was correct even i thought that the post was in a bad taste)

Di I'm not in any team , Arpi di was right , we are all here for entertainment, so i won't leave the forum.....i accept that i was wrong but i didn't do it intentionally

Also she made this post , for some context Asmita is the Kabir of the forum and she's Bhumi of the forum as per the forum.awards results , and she posted this with that intention , i didn't want to post it before for things to escalate further but i only realised the meaning of this post after reacting to it ( i might be overanalzying this but this definitely felt a bit mean) if my intention was to "gang up" on her or bully her i could've raised this issue before but i didn't

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/164611911

And she was going on about how she was having a convo with only Suyash bhai and we jumped in the convo....lol go look at her initial posts where she was throwing a fit about "strict moderation" , SHE TAGGED ME AND @MOONKS thinking that we would support her hypocritical stance and got offended when we stood up for newcomer Asmita and turned this into a blame game by cleverly playing a victim card , cause I'm not mad to jump into a parallel convo

If she wanted to have a parallel convo with Suyash she could've done it in PM itself , why spew all that crap over here? Just be nice over here and reveal your true colours to your inner circle....also her crap about "strictodetation" is nothing but MORAL POLICING WHICH IS NOT ALLOWED IN THIS SOTE!

Also her issue about spamming is one huge joke....in the initial days she was the one spamming about Neil in every thread pages after pages (Neil wouldn't have even gotten that many lines in the show till now)

Visit EDT 26 , she spammed about Neil and Yuvika one night stand which never happened in the show and shouldn't have been discussed in an EPISODE DISCUSSION THREAD

As far as bullying goes visit user @Bhara's thread where she made a passive aggressive post when she made a typo in Neil's name

Anyway what was her other point? Why couldn't i have reacted with 😡 emoji if i hadn't liked any of her posts or asked her to stop asking me to shut up?

Well she has admitted plenty of times that she never checks her notifications so what good will me reacting with 😡 emoji will do? And she is a grown woman who's elder to me....i didn't know that i have to school someone about COMMON SENSE by not replying them with "SHUT UP" . I thought that she's mature enough to know social conduct aur mai toh iski bachpan ka dost nahi hoon jo yeh iss tarah haq se mujhe "tease" kar rahi hai Her weak ass defense was "shut up is my love language" and everyone fell for that? Like give me a break. This is a pathetic excuse...am i on trial for not schooling someone about common sense which they should already possess? I give respect to everyone in this forum and i expect the same amount of respec from others , is that a crime now?

And i did react with emoji to her strict moderation posts....if she cared and valued our post reactions she would've tagged me and asked why i had reacted with that emoji and not play a victim card game out of it

And visit GDT 5 , i had posted in the most politest way possible that "don't use shut up posts agian" and she made a big issue out of that

Let me break this whole thing out to you ;

She tagged me and moonks in her "strict moderation" post assuming that she would have our support in this thing , that didn't happen

She went on a ego trip , it backfired and "apologised" begrudgingly

Then she kept silent for a day waiting someone to post something and she would use that to play her victim card....spandan did and she took that harmless post and tagged everyone stating that we were the reason she is quitting the forum

Strict moderation my foot! She has been spamming since day one about Neil and no one cares (neither did i cause i didn't count that as spamming) she thinks that any discussion about Neil is a worthwhile discussion (even if it's tangential to the episode and cannon) and any other discussion is spamming....go look at "vanshaj insults draupadi by and krishna in VastraHaran " thread , she was the one who triggered everyone over a petty tv show twist...this is after lecturing to us that this is a digital forum where people come to get entertained and not to hear rants and have heartfelt discussions (and yet she opened a thread titled "oasis of sanity" where she called this place a safe place where people can have heartfelt convos , you notice the pattern too don't you?

She also posted that she calmed down and we stirred up shit by posting that we weren't wrong....first of all i said that to Samiha cause she said in PM that Arpita is wrong and was apologising to her for no reason....Arpita seized that opportunity cause she saw that there was no unity among us in calling out her toxicity and made this shit up

She doesn't know what the forum members (including you) posted about her in my PM....you guys sent me messages saying that we were right and she's being arrogant , calling her names but took her side / stayed silent over here....this forum is filled with keyboard warriors who can write essays about what's right or wrong about a TV show but cannot stand up agianst a real life bully

What cracked me up was even @SoniRita was talking about moderation (she sparked the discussion in EDT 26 and she had qualms over "spamming") she doesn't even watch the show why does she care about the alleged tangential discussions by the way?(You sent me this in DM Preet di)and i know that it's agianst the rules to reveal DM convos but since no one is batting an eye at the rampant bullying and moral policing so i don't think anyone should have a problem with me revealing about YOUR description of Arpita in my DM / PM

You had no right to say we were ganging up on her without reading her posts carefully , then you would've known who was doing the bullying and ganging up....she posted that she was leaving the forum and i was trying to stop her by REASONING with her, how tf is that equal to "ganging up?" You're the one who's biased towards Arpita and you're trying to villanisw us

She couldn't even post a simple "sorry if this hurt your feelings" and continued spewing her crap to Suyash bhai in PM (she can't even pretend to be nice to anyone , she only nows to mask her passive aggressive posts behind cute emojies so that people don't realise that she's being mean BUT NOOOO she posted thst we were getting hurt for no reason when she was thebone who was plucking random.posts to form her twisted narrative.....the nerve of this immature person! She turned a normal post into "ganging up agianst a helpless woman , we wrrethe ones who were bullied) ulta hum log maaafi maang rahe hai iss se....Asmita posted thst some randos were troubling her in PM but she ignored the post cause it didn't fit her narrative but do see in a few pages where she would've posted "it's not right to go to bed without resolving a fight" (funny how that didn't occur to her when she tormented us for 3 striaght days) and asked Asmita about who PM'ed her , if she had cared so.much about trolls she wouldn't have ignored that post at first but only mentioned about it AFTER WE APOLOGISED (I'm emphasizing this cause she has said this multiple times that she doesn't read through every post in the thread AND YET she read Spandan's post over here and in GDT 5 to start playing her victim card) she wanted her apology and she got it

All her compassion goes for her fictional crushes , she has no compassion or even basic respect for real human beings

You might think that I'm being petty editing back the OG content in this post after 5 months, idc....when a bully like Arpita can unabashedly mock and bully anyone to satiate her ego why should i edit off my side of the story? Screw it , screw everything

Originally posted by: Moonks

Even I am not the mod of this forum bro, I am sorry if my words felt like warning here except the post where people actually PMed asmita just to blame her cause that was really a warning

Sorry I had completely forgot that you aren't the mod of this forum

And I completely agree those PMing Asmita in this way need to be told

Originally posted by: Pete15rogmourey

Wrong forum , sorry , please delete this post

Originally posted by: FlauntPessimism

I read it before you edited

I know but my points were not in coherent order , I'll post it agian

Originally posted by: FlauntPessimism

This is now getting overboard.. sorry to say last time too I wanted to respond but thought that you all have reached a consensus so decided to avoid..

I know I am not the mod here so I might get a warning for this post, and even get a bashing from both the sides, yet am making it because this forum is important to me(Shreya/Kusum if you want to edit this post/delete it kindly do after sometime since I actually want them to read this)

We have always claimed this is a fun forum and no one judges other, so now this issue that too because of such small disagreement is highly uncalled for.

You guys are right no one can force anyone to stay in this forum nor is anyone "most important member" here, the truth however is that all of us contribute to the fun elements here, especially the more active members which unfortunately are the ones deciding to leave..

I am sure Arpita's request was not wrong because she just expected us to behave in the way we should at the EDT, however the thing is our EDT has been like this for months, earlier we had only one thread here where we discussed Mahabharata, crazy theories, and even other shows, while I know "not having followed the rules earlier" is no reason for not following it now, but let's also understand that if we wanted to stop that, the first discussion could have been done directly with people who are currently contributing to it, instead when you said this to Suyash it did sound as a complain being made indirectly (though I am sure that wasn't your intention) however if someone did feel offended at it, that's very expected. So was the reaction that they showcased.

Later you people agreed to keep off track things out of ETD and it was followed for next 2 days and Arpita was the first one to follow her words.

Now for today again, whatever Spandan might have intended to convey, the post did come out as sarcastic take on Arpita, in fact not just that post, but even the later ones where he was saying it wasn't for Arpi.. this time Arpita being feeling offended was as natural as it was for you all last time, especially after she had publicly accepted that her words came out in a wrong way and that she was only explaining the issue to Suyash.

Also Pete and Asmi in this conversation seemed so uncalled for. It's not like you three are a group and Arpita is in the other group.

Guys I won't play the "it's no one's fault here" card now. It was the fault of both the parties.

Whether or not you want to stay in this forum is your decision, nor am I anyone to judge, but as I neutral party here, it's seeming out to me like you people just want to bring up a threat like "ok stay like I want or I leave"

I will really hope that this doesn't continue, and neither of you leave because as I said this is my favourite forum, I do connect with you all personally..

All the galis and tamatars are welcome but just couldn't refrain myself

Well a notification from YOU I will NEVER ignore because you deserve that respect from me actually from everyone out here.

I know that late night comment sounded otherwise and I have explained and apologized for that several times already as you mentioned.

But today I am genuinely hurt exactly because of those reasons that you mentioned. Pete Asmi both were seriously uncalled for because it was completely between Spandan and Me. Also today I wasn't wrong. THANK YOU for being the ONLY ONE who voiced that out. I will always remember this.

Happy Makar Sankranti Di

Preet di, if you get offended by this then I am sorry in advance but your post at one point felt like Pete, Spandan and Asmita, gang bullied Arpi, but they did not, I haven't read all the messages but whatever I have read and whatever I know about them I can say for surety that they did not, no matter how bad they looked throughout those post that wasn't there intention, spandan is just 17, he may not always put his point forward like all of us and as his friends pete and Asmita said what he could not, but whatever he wrote he apologized for that, he is literally a kid, we can't expect him to think like us, just put yourself in his place, how bad he must have felt when his words were taken out of context? I was on a break when he came and all of your words made me believe him, made me believe that he is funny and almost I don't know the exact word but he is like this only and I accepted that fact without reading his posts because you all talked like this about him then suddenly something changed, I don't know what but his age, his funny way all were forgotten all of a sudden and why? We don't know, he doesn't know, he never said he was right, he accepted his mistakes but the question is, were his mistakes that big that no one could look above them? That those mistakes warranted no forgiveness? That they needed to be bring in every comment and post and situation??

And asmi's mistake? What was her mistake? Defending a friend she felt was wronged that she was subjected to abuse?? Blamed for Arpi's personal choice?

And don't we know pete? Why would he bully or mocked his friend? They realised where they went wrong and they apologized, there was nothing wrong in feeling bad or getting hurt over your friends words, they all were hurt and had right to say that

And Arpi, I agree you were hurt so there must be something wrong with them and you tried to move forward like them and something went wrong amongst you, but didn't they deserve a direct complaint from you for all the things they did wrong? They calls you di, and you all four deserved better than what happened, I know you may hate me for saying this but as their elder, handling this in a better way was something you should have done, may be they also expected more from you like you did. And pete, spandan and Asmi, didn't Arpi deserved that respect from you, that you could sort it out in a better way, you all call her di, so as a younger one you should have tried to see her views also, I know you tried but you should have tried harder, you call each other your family and this isn't how a family behaves, may be like Spandan she needed you on her side, none of you were ready to understand each other and here you all went wrong, I won't lie I expected much from Arpi but may be she expected the same from you, I want to say to you all the please keep yourselves at each other's place before getting to a conclusion

I am sorry for overstepping my boundaries, I may be wrong but I am no where giving my judgement but saying something I feel I should, I know I am not making sense but may be you all can make it sense

Kusum, with due respect I am not ready to take this you are the elder one card here

As I have already mentioned, I have explained enough. But why always me? Just because I am elder? That's not fair!

Preet Di didn't mean bullying, she clearly saw me alone explaining my stance against them that's why she called that out

Originally posted by: A_for_Arpita

Kusum, with due respect I am not ready to take this you are the elder one card here

As I have already mentioned, I have explained enough. But why always me? Just because I am elder? That's not fair!

Preet Di didn't mean bullying, she clearly saw me alone explaining my stance against them that's why she called that out

I know you were explaining your point all alone, but we got you bro, we got your point and your hurt

Di I'm telling this for the last time i did not defend Spandan

Arpi di said that she was quitting the forum and i was shocked so asked her to stay back

I didn't threaten her , i saif "please consider staying"

I DIDN'T CONDONE SPANDAN'S ACTIONS

maine khud usse sunaya tha

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/164623438

I apologised to you , then yoi brought it back up when you mentioned that "sometimes people don't listen" that hurt me so i was honest with you....i did not intend a fight , all of you know me for 6 months am i that spiteful?

I wasn't supposed to assume things from Suyash bbai and Arpi di's convo....doesn't the same hold for Arpi di when she took offence to Spandan's words today ( he WAS wrong even i admit that , i apologised and yet I'm getting the tag of ganaging up on her?)

Arpi di was sad and hurt because of our mistakes and was aaying that she wanted to leave? Was i supposed to let her go? I was feeling guilty that i hurt someone for the first time and i was apologising ,

And Arpi di mentioned all our names in the post she made today so i was defending myself , i have no right to defend anyone but myself.

I'm sorry that i hurt you Arpi di but trust me i wasn't ganging up on you

When Ananya came out with her problem in EDT 5 0 you said this was the success of the forum that we are so transperant....i was being transperant with you that's all i saw that something was wrong .....my words would've been wrong but my intentions weren't

I even shared about my medical issues in page 132 of this thread saying that it was my insecurity and it wasn't about you....i didn't mean any of this to happen

I'm sorry

I tried to be polite , apologised to you and had a fun discussion with you in NeiVika AT 4 page 130-149 yesterday....i did not want you to leave ,

I'm tired of this fight , i sobbed for 10.mins after reading your goodbye post....I'm sorry if i had the knee jerk reaction but please come back , this fight isn't warth losing your friendship