Originally posted by: lagjagale
I don't entirely agree with this. First they showed Abhir-Nav bond as being much stronger than Abhir-Ak bond, infact mostly it looked like Ak just gave the responsibility of parenting to Nav. There were no proper scenes for them until they wanted to do Ma jaap and show how similar Abhi and Abhir are.
Second, I don't think a kid needs his mom to accept his dad, for him to call him dad. Ak has already accepted Abhi as Abhir's father multiple times now. She is coparenting with him. They show Abhi's position very clearly now. Ak isn't even angry with Abhi anymore. So there is no real reason for Abhir to still be holding back.
And the dada-docman thing was just heartbreaking for everyone. Its one thing for Abhir to say no to calling Abhi dada in the beginning itself. He should have said that he doesn't feel that way about Abhi yet. And waited to call him that on his own. But to start calling him dada, use that to show off to Akshnav when he was angry with them, and then to just say I don't want to anymore? That makes no sense to me.
Labels don't make relationships - something neither Ak nor Abhir seem to understand. If Abhir was already calling Abhi dada, there was no reason for him to revert to Docman. Nothing really changed in their relationship either way, except for Abhir accepting the truth that Abhi is also his father. Now Abhir is happy to accept Abhi as his father in front of the world and whenever it is convenient for him, but still sees Abhi as a friend?
At this point, it seems more like a commitment issue for both mother and son. They want to keep Abhi on the leash, have him do his duty as Abhir's father, but not give him any actual recognition, incase this whole thing doesn't work out for them. Its a way for them to leave if they want to. Just like for Ak, when she did not want to emotionally invest in Nav cause she wanted to leave the option open to leave whenever.
I guess when they introduced Nav they had to show the result of those 6 years and also AbhiN was relevant to the story only because of Abhir. And I agree they showed little too much but it was to establish that Abhir was Nav’s entire world. Infact, I always felt that Nav needed Abhir more. Not the other way around. Irrespective, they had great bond but they have also shown how Abhir reacts to Ak being in problem or pain or if anything happens to her. But they showed it less. It is Ak who overinflated the significance of the relationship saying how their relationship is the best beta-papa. Illusion!!! I am just saying it was this emotion that Abhir was sensitive to.
Abhir is like Abhi. If anyone troubles or is a reason for his mom’s pain, he disconnects from them. So even though Abhi is trying his best to prove to him he also loves him, Abhir remains disconnected because of Ak. Same way Abhi hated Harsh because of Manjari and never acknowledged that Harsh loved Abhi in his own way. Only after Harsh demonstrated to Manjari that he is sorry and she accepted that apology that he softened a little bit.
I genuinely felt that Abhir called Abhi Dada because he asked him to, but Abhir felt nothing so he wanted to let go later. He did use Abhi to hurt Ak and AbhiN but he did that more with actions.
For Ak, I think it is lots of fear and some anger (because he left her but I think she is done with this anger). Being with Abhi destroyed her and he is still capable of doing it. she is scared of going back to him. She married AbhiN straight after giving birth because she needed a shield from Abhi for two things. One so that Abhi doesn’t take away Abhir from her and other that she herself doesn’t surrender. Now she knows Abhi wont separate Abhir from her but she is still scared of the second one. If Abhi really fights for her, it would be hard for her to resist him. She couldn’t after leap 1. If anyone knows who Abhi truly is at an emotional level, after Manjari its only Ak. She knows how good Abhi is. She always said that from the start and she wants that part of him because in the past he treated everyone else better than this wife. So maybe she thinks not being wife is better. Given her abandonment issues, she has not come to terms with the way her marriage ended. But they didn’t show a lot of stuff, so it is disappointing for a viewer. One watches dramas because you get well fleshed out characters and here, we have no access to Ak’s thoughts.
All this is because I am trying to understand Ak and not annoyed with her as much as others. But I also skipped lot of Ak-Nav scenes. Only saw Abhi scenes so maybe I don’t have full view. She was the most sensitive and sweetest character before leap, naïve and careless but still. It cannot just go away.
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