Originally posted by: NoraSM
Abhimanyu was slapped by his mother on white day, he didn't even touch Akshara and is called an abuser which is okay because he was aggressively throwing things around her but Akshara has done similar things in past, I remember she was throwing around bricks in anger in front of Abhimanyu
Anyway, What I don't get is that if we are against violence then why don't we speak against it when Akshara physically assaulted Abhinav and Abhimanyu in hospital during Abhir's surgery?
When her son was in pain, she resorted to yelling and abusing her current husband and an on duty doctor
Why is it okay for Akshara to resort to physical violence when she is in grief and she has done it multiple times?
Exactly!
Such outbursts have been shown for both Akshara and Abhimanyu.
The only thing is that Akshara was going through a miscarriage that day and she definitely needed to be looked after.
From Abhimanyu's POV - he couldn’t empathise with or understand her after he saw that she felt it alright to risk the most precious people to him to save the other kids(again, not saying their lives are not important) - herself, Neil and their babies - yes it was Neil's decision too towards the end but she played an equal part in it and even in convincing Neil - and when Abhimanyu had the outburst on losing 3 lives she kept on saying "I did nothing wrong" instead of saying something like maybe "I feel devastated too" or "I hoped it didn't happen this way" or giving him space to process his grief. Being selfless is nice but you cannot expect others to praise that selflessness esp when they have lost everything because of your desire to put others above yourself.
If Abhimanyu failed as a doctor to see her condition, Akshara too failed being a therapist to acknowledge the pain and loss he felt! She just keeps getting all the sympathy only because she is the FL, not because she is wise/mature or understanding.
I see Abhimanyu as someone who made bad decisions impulsively, but I do not see it as abuse since she has done it herself in anger and also leaving Udaipur and staying on her own were by choice and not because she had been abandoned by her family(Goenkas). Not claiming that Goenkas are great but they were there for her especially BP and if not, she wouldn’t have remained in touch with them.
It is such difference in their outlook that makes me believe that Akshara-Abhimanyu would have made each other miserable because no matter how much they love each other they wouldn’t be able to understand and accept the other's priorities.
Abhimanyu and Akshara have been on the extreme ends of selfishness and selflessness respectively.
Abhimanyu's divorcing her at that time - made her realise the importance of self preservation and she started becoming a little selfish which is evident in how fiercely she tries to protect her family now. Abhimanyu becoming a father figure to Ruhi and now father to Abhir will finally understand the importance of letting go and being selfless for the sake of his kids. At least this is what I like to believe that they are showing with this story which makes no sense most of the times and hopefully we can see both the characters grow.
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