TERE BIN-Yumna Zaidi-Wahaj Ali DT# 78 " Ye sab jhooth nahi hai" - Page 22

Originally posted by: Moonks

I am not talking about MB here, it was a general statement with respect to any situation😆

I know...🤗

but I want to scrape the cakes foundation of that woman and her haughty behaviour.... she's soo engrossed in behayas story that she couldn't see the change in her own daughter...happens to those people who are always pointing out the faults of others... when u get too haughty...the fall is just as hard.

Both love and arranged marriages are gamble ! If all well then good but things get difficult especially for girls if things are going south!
if arrange marriages go wrong or fall apart at-least u have family support but in case of those who elope especially girls will be left alone if things go wrong ! Imagine u cut off all ties for a guy and his family doesn’t accept u and he is abusive ur left with no one to go back!

Two examples of both sides -
I have two helps one is in 40 , arrange marriage with grown up kids and her husband is one Romeo , he keeps having affairs doesn’t support her and kids and she is running around making ends meet. Says can’t even go back to village they will take me back but I will become burden and dependent on them and says have their emotional support and it keeps me going !

The other one is 23 years old, fell for wrong guy few years back , eloped and married against her family , the guy is useless and workless and mother in law has snt her to city
to work , she sends a major chunk of her money to thm. Can’t go back as my family won’t take me back and can’t even leave them as idea of being alone is scary !

Both are financially independent but still life played cruel game ! Life is such !

Originally posted by: Moonks

I don’t and won’t believe that Murtasim has kicked her out in the middle of the night until and unless I see it from my own eyes, he is not VI🐁 to do this to his wife, he is Murtasim, but he is not wrong in trusting MZ or Haya this time because he asked Meerub and she accepted before them he heard it from her, he is not wrong if he wants to separate, he has always said that she can kill him but shouldn’t do anything with others as she has right over only him and his life, she doesn’t have the right over others life and we took it wrong because we thought he is separating her from his family but no even as a family member she has no right to take any decision which harms them because in the end she will always be blamed and he knows this. Just for once think if Murtasim has said that I have all the rights on your life, to love you and hate you or to destroy you, how wrong it would sound to us, but when he has given those rights to her it sound romantic to us why?? Doesn’t he have any right over his life about which we have argued if he has asked the same from Meerub, but he never did and now when he asked just one thing from her about which he has no idea, some people are hell bent on making him toxic, why??

Agreed!! He is not toxic.. I dont why he is being called out like that

Originally posted by: Moonks

you are right, MB and Murtasim is not wrong in this incident, Mariam and Meerub is. And you get what you give, how can you be happy after hurting so many people, karma will always come to play it’s role, but the biggest reason is the lack of family support, You see those who have no one in the world will be treated harshly by the world and this happens in the case of elopement too, I don’t know about right or wrong but I know the time will come when parents will be supporting of their children, give them the freedom and space to do that, What we are seeing now is the start we have a long way to go and it needs patience, I have a simple funda that if your parents don’t do what you expect them to do, what you need them to do, Do it for your children, if you aren’t getting the freedom you want make sure to give it to your children, it’s only way to create a world you so want to live in.

Remember too much freedom is not good either.

I have seen both side of 2 extreme.

that’s what the drama show 2.

Maryam and haya too restricted

meerab not. (I don’t think meerab is someone who goes wild)

but in reality I have seen both extreme so there should be a balance where your children understand your POV and respect just like a parents should.

so it’s that balance hard to achieve.

Mostly what I have seen if a family is open, soft and at the same time free , that’s where kids thrive better.

In drama: I think murtasam like character will teach a child how to survive. While meerab will teach how to live.

So u need parents like this. ❤️

Originally posted by: Neha_J

Someone said Sabeena confirmed she will not get married in the show but we saw the bts:

What if MB forces MK to marry Haya but end time per MK says no or Meerub stops it or something happens and then they show Haya losing it and admitting to all her crimes???

Haya should not get married to anyone. Murtu toh bahut dur ki baat. She is a snake. Kisi ki sagi nahi hai.

Hopefully, she rots alone wherever she is. 🤬🤬🤬

Originally posted by: CherryOnTheTop

Haya should not get married to anyone. Murtu toh bahut dur ki baat. She is a snake. Kisi ki sagi nahi hai.

Hopefully, she rots alone wherever she is. 🤬🤬🤬

Originally posted by: Sofna

When is MB's karma coming for the way she's treated Meerab from the reveal of her identity, telling adoptive parents to bugger off w/out consoling and calming the child they brought up from birth, and all that happened thereafter with the marriage, at the first sign if trouble throwing her fil out if the house ?....

Oh, I forgot... she has a snake by her side....🤪

I don't want Meerab to reveal ANYTHING about beHaya

I want mother and son to hear it DIRECTLY from the horse's mouth that when the time comes she'd even sacrifice MB for her fanaticism

Didn’t it hit already?
Son’s marriage life is puzzle and he is worried every living moment his wife will leave him . What else worse can happen to a man who was so self assured to live like that? If not she suggest leave her , what does she think leaving meerab will solve everything? Get another one and he will move on like nothing ever happened.

and now her daughter, the girl will never be able to look up at her own self in mirror . She had worst trauma and now MB will think let me get her married , all things will fall into place

It’s just MB doesn’t find her kids issue problematic like she never found it was wrong to force meerab to marry KMK. People like her are we have been thru so much and survived so u shld also. They think marriage and children are solution to all problems in world

Originally posted by: Winterberry

Both love and arranged marriages are gamble ! If all well then good but things get difficult especially for girls if things are going south!
if arrange marriages go wrong or fall apart at-least u have family support but in case of those who elope especially girls will be left alone if things go wrong ! Imagine u cut off all ties for a guy and his family doesn’t accept u and he is abusive ur left with no one to go back!

Two examples of both sides -
I have two helps one is in 40 , arrange marriage with grown up kids and her husband is one Romeo , he keeps having affairs doesn’t support her and kids and she is running around making ends meet. Says can’t even go back to village they will take me back but I will become burden and dependent on them and says have their emotional support and it keeps me going !

The other one is 23 years old, fell for wrong guy few years back , eloped and married against her family , the guy is useless and workless and mother in law has snt her to city
to work , she sends a major chunk of her money to thm. Can’t go back as my family won’t take me back and can’t even leave them as idea of being alone is scary !

Both are financially independent but still life played cruel game ! Life is such !

And we hear/read these stories on a daily basis.🥺

The common factor is the level of suffering women undergo either way.💔😭

It's one of the reasons, after being at home bringingup my children, that I chose to return to studies and pursue counselling and psychotherapeutic skills.

To help support women to understand what a powerhouse they are in themselves and as soon as that belief becomes embedded in their identity that's when their r/ships shift.

I truly want to get into the homes and help those who's second language is English. The burden, weight, suffering and sacrifice they endure on a daily basis is inhumane.

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Originally posted by: FireSafireFiree

Remember too much freedom is not good either.

I have seen both side of 2 extreme.

that’s what the drama show 2.

Maryam and haya too restricted

meerab not. (I don’t think meerab is someone who goes wild)

but in reality I have seen both extreme so there should be a balance where your children understand your POV and respect just like a parents should.

so it’s that balance hard to achieve.

Mostly what I have seen if a family is open, soft and at the same time free , that’s where kids thrive better.

In drama: I think murtasam like character will teach a child how to survive. While meerab will teach how to live.

So u need parents like this. ❤️

I have seen so many examples in real life also, kids who brought in a strict environment turns sneaky. They learn how to fool their parents. They know how to dodge them, many times these take some foolish decision like Mariyam did.

On the other hand, kids with lenient parents are very “sharif”. They do not manipulate their parents.