Originally posted by: mango.falooda
plus him holding on like this is actually unhealthy -- the way he phrases it is what leads to criminal behaviour. I watch too much crime shows (running joke in DT was my mention of crime patrol) but many crimes/hurts are committed when people hold on to someone because they claim they have to love for their own life, for their survival.
years back in office, a girl broke up with her boyfriend because she found him too much. he then emailed everyone on her team (he somehow had their email addresses because she had once included him in a joke forward along with the team) with all sorts of details of their relationship and cursed her. at the same time, he said she was his life and he was fighting for his survival etc and how they all need to scold her to come back to him or some nonsense. the girl was bawling, the manager told her to go home and then held a team meeting and told them not to discuss it further. however, this was too strange incident and news spread to other teams including mine. so the whole office ended up chatting about it.
since he is ML, he won't be criminal and so he comes across as someone with no sense of respect and self-dignity. when he felt guilty about the ONS, he was constantly on tip toes around her making sure she wasn't uncomfortable. now it is like he does not care what she feels because he is only focused on his own feelings and does not care what it looks like to others. it is not fun to watch such selfishness. that is creepy second lead/villain behaviour.
if he wants to love her from a distance, then he can but he should not be telling her that he will not change his mind for his whole life etc -- thats emotional pressure and blackmail. that is what many of us feel uncomfortable with. she has rejected him 3 times now; he needs to back off and stop with the love declarations.
as for him, getting destroyed by katha -- I want it to happen!
Yesss what you descrobed about that girl incident happened in my country three time but with the girl being killed 😢💔
So none of us could support it had we don't know viaan and the whole story of WHY HE IS SO ATTACHED TO HER (that's the other point) if the show has drawn viaan as a psycho patient or a man with criminal intentions.
And you said it the same in the bold sentence 💯
In the ONS era he was guilty that's why he was behaving like that (redemption track)
But now he isn't guilty to love her
and he doesn't mind rejection as it's her right.
About self-respect i think viaan doesn't consider it like that, he considers her worthy of his trials and feeling her fear from being FREED from her past ( he feels it in the hospital scene and even in lonavala trip)
If katha told him she rejected him out of ONS issue, i think he would back off directly (that's my imagination)
I know it's her decision and she doesn't even need to justify the reason of rejection if she wanted
But the way she rejected him still giving him the abolility to hope as like ( when she could forgive me earlier why couldn't she loves me someday) i don't know if i explained it well
He will try manytimes ( you will remain counting i guess 😂😂😂) till he eventually back off at a certain point where he would feel guilty again
I don't know it will come with batman revelation or other fight between them.