TERE BIN - Yumna Z-Wahaj Ali DT #31 "Miya-Biwi ka personal matter hai" - Page 84

Originally posted by: Nephy1

I don't know.

I just saw their review and got carried away.

I have given up all hopes on meerub's character regarding love.

I don't think she can love murtasim.

He is the person who is indirectly responsible for her misery,and its difficult to behave nicely with such person,pyaar toh bhut door ki baat hai..

In real life,in such situation,I wouldn't ever expect girl to accept the guy ever...

But it was a show where I sat for a love story so losing my interest.

Upar se when I see murtasim and his efforts I start to feel bad for him

But I think writer will never show meerub in love in the way we expect or used to..

If they will ever show it which I highly doubt than it will be very subtle from meerub side..

Intense love will always be murtasim's forte

Meerub will one day just accept him and his love.

Pyaar karne mein aur kisi ke pyaar ko apnane mein farak hota hai.

Sometimes people just accept others becoz they get attention and love like no other not becoz they love them..

Their story is mostly like that.

I've lost all my hope in meerub's love for murtasim.

Mein khud ko aur dukh nhi de sakti..

Isliye mein ye hope hi nhi krne vali ki meerub kabhi pyaar bhi kregi.

Ek din vo uske pyaar ko apna legi bas..

I can't read between lines anymore..

I am done.

Mere se nhi hoga yeh are iske action yeh matlab tha vo matlab tha..

Mein bas vo hi manungi jo vo munh se bolegi..

Initially I was angry ki she is not ready to make any effort but than she also want murtasim to keep bound in loveless relationship.

But someone commented here ki but living like that is murtasim choice so who am I to feel bad🙄

I feel exactly same. I don’t know why I feel, she never love him wholeheartedly. There is times I fell she will always be cold towards him.

Pta nahi aise kyu lgta hai mujhe.
Then I also feel Meerab is not wrong after happpened with her but then efforts make him he deserves better.

You have penned it well. I feel same but I was not able to put it into words.

Originally posted by: CherryOnTheTop

No body expect Murtasim in that family actually cares about Meerab. What she feels doesn’t matter to them.

Anybody in her position would have gone into depression.

Sad but true.

She has lived a full life with parents, friends, social life, education, independence and now she has only one role to be a wife.

For all his majesty KMK world is small. Now her whole world is shrunk to one man. How does she expand her existence beyond this man without making him feel like he will lose her?

Originally posted by: CherryOnTheTop

I feel exactly same. I don’t know why I feel, she never love him wholeheartedly. There is times I fell she will always be cold towards him.

Pta nahi aise kyu lgta hai mujhe.
Then I also feel Meerab is not wrong after happpened with her but then efforts make him he deserves better.

You have penned it well. I feel same but I was not able to put it into words.

Yeah..

We are feeling this way becoz at many instances when are brain said to us ki okay this is it now after this she will become soft with murtasim but in turn we encountered same cold meerub on our screens..

And it happened repetetively..like a cycle..

And everytime we got disappointed somewhere so now our brain is making a block to prevent disappointment and stopping us from making any kind of assumptions for meerub's behaviour which will again put us in emotional.distress..

Cognitive thinking...based on behavioural.memory😆

We have lost hope actually from meerub's character.

Becoz we want her to love murtasim but than she doesn't than we get disappoimted and find logic being homo sapiens and when we look for logic we come across the thing ki it is impossible for her to fall for such guy whom she held respomsible for her whole life misery so ultimately we reach to conclusion that she will never fall in show also😁

Thats why i said take it as its coming otherwise we will start disliking her as well as murtasim's character also for his undying patience and ultimately humein unke pair se hi chid hone lagegi and we will loose our connect with them as characters as pair as well as story...

Just because people r not feeling for female character.It doesn't mean that they r misogynistic.In real life,I support females when it comes to vs male.But in this drama, Sorry to say i don't feel sadness for meerub when drama goes on. Later when I really ponder hard then I feel for her but not at much as people here r talking abt.I do not relate to meerub even when in reality there is a girl i know which went through the same issue.I still feel really bad for her but here I m not feeling a thing for meerub.Initially in first 11 episodes, I felt bad for her that's it.

Originally posted by: Winterberry

For me it's not about country.

It's about mindset.

If a married woman meeting her male friend is unacceptable for Pakistan people

Then how a male lead sitting on the same bed with other woman and getting fed by her is acceptable for them. Wasn't it murtasim entertaining haya for them.

If that is their culture where rules only for women then I just pity.

I agree we watch this show for different reasons but I just want to point out the things I mentioned. Because entertainment plays huge role in influencing people.

And I saw writer interview, she didn't mention anything about maa begum supporting meerab for education. May be I missed it.

Originally posted by: Gundamwing

She has lived a full life with parents, friends, social life, education, independence and now she has only one role to be a wife.

For all his majesty KMK world is small. Now her whole world is shrunk to one man. How does she expand her existence beyond this man without making him feel like he will lose her?

Only by communicating with him. Only communication can save their relationship.

Originally posted by: Nephy1

Yeah..

We are feeling this way becoz at many instances when are brain said to us ki okay this is it now after this she will become soft with murtasim but in turn we encountered same cold meerub on our screens..

And it happened repetetively..like a cycle..

And everytime we got disappointed somewhere so now our brain is making a block to prevent disappointment and stopping us from making any kind of assumptions for meerub's behaviour which will again put us in emotional.distress..

Cognitive thinking...based on behavioural.memory😆

We have lost hope actually from meerub's character.

Becoz we want her to love murtasim but than she doesn't than we get disappoimted and find logic being homo sapiens and when we look for logic we come across the thing ki it is impossible for her to fall for such guy whom she held respomsible for her whole life misery so ultimately we reach to conclusion that she will never fall in show also😁

Thats why i said take it as its coming otherwise we will start disliking her as well as murtasim's character also for his undying patience and ultimately humein unke pair se hi chid hone lagegi and we will loose our connect with them as characters as pair as well as story...

Absolutely correct ✅

Originally posted by: pickachu

Just because people r not feeling for female character.It doesn't mean that they r misogynistic.In real life,I support females when it comes to vs male.But in this drama, Sorry to say i don't feel sadness for meerub when drama goes on. Later when I really ponder hard then I feel for her but not at much as people here r talking abt.I do not relate to meerub even when in reality there is a girl i know which went through the same issue.I still feel really bad for her but here I m not feeling a thing for meerub.Initially in first 11 episodes, I felt bad for her that's it.

But atleast don't character assasinate her when male lead didn't get such backlash for doing more than 'just meeting' things with haya who acts as his wife 24*7.

Originally posted by: Nephy1

Yeah..

We are feeling this way becoz at many instances when are brain said to us ki okay this is it now after this she will become soft with murtasim but in turn we encountered same cold meerub on our screens..

And it happened repetetively..like a cycle..

And everytime we got disappointed somewhere so now our brain is making a block to prevent disappointment and stopping us from making any kind of assumptions for meerub's behaviour which will again put us in emotional.distress..

Cognitive thinking...based on behavioural.memory😆

We have lost hope actually from meerub's character.

Becoz we want her to love murtasim but than she doesn't than we get disappoimted and find logic being homo sapiens and when we look for logic we come across the thing ki it is impossible for her to fall for such guy whom she held respomsible for her whole life misery so ultimately we reach to conclusion that she will never fall in show also😁

Thats why i said take it as its coming otherwise we will start disliking her as well as murtasim's character also for his undying patience and ultimately humein unke pair se hi chid hone lagegi and we will loose our connect with them as characters as pair as well as story...

The thing is I feel we have no right to how meerab feels. I started this with a blank slate. I got hooked when they had that first conversation on the balcony in episode 12. We need a lot more of that. They need to clarify where they stand to each other.

Getting back to Meerab, all I hope for her is to be happy and have autonomy. And that should never be compromised due to her fear of her shelter and needs being taken away by the ones who claim to love her. This is something I know I would always want so would any other human being especially every girl or women.

We want her to love murtasim because we love him. What if she was in love with someone else who was not as almost perfect as murtasim or not good as him. We'd have to respect who she'd love. That's very hard.

I believe our well wishes for meerab should not depend on her love for murtasim or lack of it. It should be that she's having that decision making freedom while having a safe place and having the ability to make ends meet in a dignified manner.

Just my 2 cents.

Originally posted by: Alizba63

The thing is I feel we have no right to how meerab feels. I started this with a blank slate. I got hooked when they had that first conversation on the balcony in episode 12. We need a lot more of that. They need to clarify where they stand to each other.

Getting back to Meerab, all I hope for her is to be happy and have autonomy. And that should never be compromised due to her fear of her shelter and needs being taken away by the ones who claim to love her. This is something I know I would always want so would any other human being especially every girl or women.

We want her to love murtasim because we love him. What if she was in love with someone else who was not as almost perfect as murtasim or not good as him. We'd have to respect who she'd love. That's very hard.

I believe our well wishes for meerab should not depend on her love for murtasim or lack of it. It should be that she's having that decision making freedom while having a safe place and having the ability to meets ends in a dignified manner.

Just my 2 cents.

Hmm..

I am just going to watch the show as they serve..

Bas not going to put my expectations,assumptions or anything.