ABHI - Wonderful lover but failed husband - Page 3

Well said Krinya!

A lot of people mentioned that she left him in Khera's case. Has she had a choice? before she made a choice also blamed her that his hand hurt because of her. if she didn't make a deal Khera not going to operate and he might have lost his hand right.

Whether Khera is wrong or right when she made a promise she has obliged. That's what she did. Ab doesn't like her sacrifice as he doesn't want to lose her, at least his mom should appreciate her.

In Neil's death, even though she is responsible he could've asked her what happened. Instead just accused like other people.

Arohi said she went to Concert with Neil, both mom, and beta believed that and blamed her for everything. Ab went ahead and was even accused of 9 deaths and because of her, his family is not safe, etc., and threw the divorce papers.

Is divorce papers a toy? or is she a toy? whenever you want you to love her else throw her on the street. she will wait at the end of the street for you to come to take her.

Originally posted by: Krinya

Correctly stated..relationship is always a two way street..that's why abhinav and akshu worked out for 6 years. Without intimacy and without love.

If you noticed closely , in the 3 paragraphs it's about how akshu failed to live up to abhimanyus expectations, Which were all unrealistic and impractical . Everything is about abhimanyu..how akshu can't keep promises how akshu should live the way he likes how akshu can't be reckless how akshu can't make any mistake. Why akshu can't be selfish why can't she take care of herself why can't she do what abhimanyu says..his biggest issue with her.

When they got married he asked her to stay away from his family...well in a family it's impossible to keep distance like this..plus akshu was a newly wedded bride , she can't possibly understand their dynamics in a day week or month. If he was this touchy about it he should have made sure to maintain a distance himself , like move out with akshu and mummy .

In khera kaand , fine akshu left without informing, it was a part of her deal. But did abhimanyu try to locate her or look for a reason or did he assume akshu just left him ? Again..akshu didnt do what he wanted her to do.. aksju should be with him even if that means he lost his hand ..the core of his being..his profession..his logic is totally senseless.

In Neil kaand and babies kaand yes he made her promise to not step out but if it was a medical emergency she had to step out...she isnt cattle who will stand at once place when asked to.... whatever happened later , he wasn't a witness to it so he shouldn't have judged her so quickly and so harshly based on what others said ...he assumed akshu is a panauti to him and his family.

Abhinav loved her (not when he met akshu , he fell in love later ) , yet didn't expect anything from her in return of what he did for them.

abhimanyu married akshu because he thot akshu will be his source of happiness..For that , he also should have become her source of happiness..what did akshu gain in all of this ? Not even a moment of peace in the family..it works both ways Definitely.

Here we're talking about love and marriage of Abhira NOT a contract based relationship with terms and conditions and "boundaries that shouldn't be crossed" like Abhinav and akshara..

Abhinav and Akshara have NOTHING..they respect each other because they have NO solid human expectations from each other..akshara is blind to Abhinav's love feelings..she doesn't even see it forget about reciprocating it..Akshara doesn't even realize that Abhinav too deserves a NORMAL married life becoz Abhinav makes her feel he's okay with just being Abhir's father.. but Abhinav is clearly dreaming for something more.. you think this is "understanding" in a relationship?? NO...and Abhinav DOES expect love from akshara but he's not voicing it out becoz he knows he'll be rejected and akshara might distance Abhir and herself from him..HE'S SCARED of losing whatever he has right now..that is.. this fake family and tag of Abhir's father..

An arrangement will obviously be successful becoz it has no strings attached..no expectations at all..both Abhinav and akshara are playing a role which they have decided for themselves..Abhinav will be Abhir's father and Akshara’s namesake husband and Akshara will take care of household..that's it..

Comparing whatever Abhinav and akshara have with each other to love and marriage is an insult to real relationships..Abhinav doesn't even know the real akshara..her dreams, her passion, her true nature ..heck he didn't even know Akshara’s ex husband's full name that's why he couldn't recognize Dr Abhimanyu Birla in kasauli..

Let's wait for Abhinav to remove his goody goody mask and behave like a NORMAL human..a NORMAL husband..let's wait for Abhinav to express his REAL emotions infront of akshara..then we'll talk about Abhinav and Akshara’s "happy relationship"..

Which is just a lie and a facade..

Originally posted by: ayushisingh29

Let's wait for Abhinav to remove his goody goody mask and behave like a NORMAL human..a NORMAL husband..let's wait for Abhinav to express his REAL emotions infront of akshara..then we'll talk about Abhinav and Akshara’s "happy relationship"..

Which is just a lie and a facade..

I also don't understand the topic was abhimanyu or abhinav.

Never mind. Talking of "normal human" couples , there r plenty who don't end up divorcing their spouse in anger due to miscarriage And death of a family member. Can't say abt the statistics but I guess most human marriages who claim to "love" , work out n not end up in divorce.

I didn't know that normal husbands suffocate their wives with expectations, order them around, don't listen to them, kick them out at their weakest and most importantly, keep divorce papers ready for emergencies. Which normal husband does all this. Abhimanyu and Akshara's relationship was never normal. It was based on just attraction and never developed or evolved. Abhinav and Akshu begave like normal people who live together and co-parent. They respect each other immensely, stand by each other through thick and thin and support each other completely. That is the sort of relationship that last a lifetime. Not the one AbhiRa had. Heck, that relationship could not even survive a year of togetherness.

Originally posted by: Siri918

When he loved Ak, he fearlessly expressed. Even though, she said no still never took his word back. while agreeing for mrg with Ar he told her he loves Ak and lifelong he will love her only.

When she said no also, he always felt the love in her eyes and make her feel his love.

He is always concerned for her and he fought with his family for her.

After marriage, he changed the total equation. Failed to understand her feelings, failed in understanding her sacrifice, and failed to understand nature.

he gave her a place in life but didn't give place in his family.

Even after 6 years, he can feel her presence but fails to understand her feelings.

Even after seeing her life and he didn't make a connection how can she have a kid with somebody else?

Abhi's biggest problem since he married her is him making quick assumptions and accusations any time there was an issue in his family and not giving akshu the chance to defend or explain herself.

My first post here and I was rewatching this season and hence felt like responding on this ..

like many of you said there have been issues with how Abhimanyu dealt with Akshara or the relationship right from the time of Tilak 1.0 .. without really having ever had a clear conversation With Akshara about his feelings and whether they are reciprocated , he put her in a very awkward position. When he started saying during tilak that they both were very clear about things right from the start and then started pressurising her to agree with him publicly at a very sensitive time for her family .. his complete lack of empathy and understanding of family dynamics is very evident right from there .. if they were in a relationship and she was standing mute he could feel betrayed and demand that she speaks .. but which normal girl who has only had some flirty conversations but no other interaction s, would say that yes she was very clear when her own sisters Rishra is breaking .. I think accusing Akshara of doing wrong by him or his family started from there itself

even the leaving arohi at mandap - he could have actually spoken to the g- family when he barged into Akshu’ s room and shown them proofs of Arohis lies and told them that he is breaking it off .. but it almost felt like he needed Akshara to say she loves him before discarding the other Rishta.. he could have asked her all the questions and made her majboor after breaking off the marriage decently there by sparing a public spectacle and without making Akshara a party to the extremely wrong handling of the situation. And poisoning an already fragile relationship between half sisters

Let us not even go to how he himself went with rishta for Arohi as if both mom and son only know one other girl of marriageable age in the whole wide world .. but I will forget that as the makers wanting the drama ..

the post marriage shenanigans have been spoken of by everyone .. and I agree .. I really hope they show that he realises and repents for his mistakes really ..

I hope to have a satisfactory resolution to the Abhira equation .. which may be too much to hope for ..

I came to IF just read this… read people are feeling what I am feeling … my heart is broken 😞 I feel pained every time manjari spits so much of hateful things about ak. This arohi is also no less . What about her darling brother

They blamed her for leaving now they are blaming her for coming back

So basically they want her not to exist

Above all this guy who claims to love her abhi … he is ok with every one blaming her

now manjari will want her khoon 🩸 her grandchild

Birla ka khoon 🩸

Everyone will blame her again for taking the khoon 🩸 from the family

Originally posted by: muskanp

I came to IF just read this… read people are feeling what I am feeling … my heart is broken 😞 I feel pained every time manjari spits so much of hateful things about ak. This arohi is also no less . What about her darling brother

They blamed her for leaving now they are blaming her for coming back

So basically they want her not to exist

Above all this guy who claims to love her abhi … he is ok with every one blaming her

now manjari will want her khoon 🩸 her grandchild

Birla ka khoon 🩸

Everyone will blame her again for taking the khoon 🩸 from the family

She will fight for child and so that how they treated her