Have you ever been in love in your life? - Page 9

A couple of times. Young, puppy love is also powerful. Love is absolutely powerful but more than that, love & relationships are deeply transformative!!!!!

And then I fell in love in Uni with for a friend & batchmate but he led me on. I don’t ever keep in touch with exes (though this chap was no ex.) I don’t see the point of it at all. I’ve been in extremely few relationships too. Currently in a relationship & fingers crossed.

Originally posted by: Gul_9

For me, this is the best worst proposal.

Ryan's lame ass half hearted proposal to Kelly from The Office. 🤣

https://youtu.be/AHMpAVf8wps

"I want to marry you, Kelly Kapoor. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but someday and probably." 🤣

OMG HAHAHAHA. 🤣 My superficial ass would’ve still been kinda flattered x offended if Ryan was hot. 😭

Originally posted by: FingerFetish

🤣

https://www.instagram.com/reel/Ckhd2tjBid1/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY=

This video clip can heal anyone from any sort of heart break🤣

Originally posted by: ffkhan

So the bold part is basically the explanation for most of the cases where guys suddenly back off (that they find no chemistry, no sparks and all). I'm glad that you’ve communicated with him and found out that answer and now all the confusions are clear. And no, you are not dumb in any way for how he treated you. If anyone is dumb, then it's him for treating you like that. You did the smart thing that you communicated.

Since that you’ve gotten all your closure so it's time for you to totally walk away from him. Coz linering on such guys are never gonna change them, in fact quite the contrary happens. So cut him out from everywhere. Then give yourself time to heal, spend time with yourself more and more, do meditate and read books, spend time with your loved ones who truly care for you. Lift up your self-esteem again.

Trust me, life is beautiful, it's just we ourselves who make the life so complicated by keeping such non-deserving people inside our head for longer than they deserve. But sooner or later we realize what's worthy for us and what's not, and then we start enjoying our life again. Hope that happens for you too. Hugs.🤗

Yes, it took me the whole day yesterday to process things, and i was honestly sad but I know it will be all right after few days. I have unfollowed him from all my social media accounts. Life is beautiful but unpredictable at times, the moment i feel sth exciting might happen it ends in a completely different way, so next time I will just ensure I do not raise my hopes over small things, especially in case of men.

Originally posted by: SteFanSalvaTor

So here’s the full story..

2.5 years ago we were introduced through a common friend and we texted few times and after that he told me he’s romantically odd so he doesn’t see anything happening between us. I was like okay. I unfollowed him from my social media too.

2.5 years later, like two months ago he followed me and texted me, he started showing interest and gave me attention and after few days took my cell phone number, we started getting to know each other over texts and call. Then we met, it was just after my birthday so he brought gifts for me too. After that we bonded better, and things continued well, god conversations and all.

Last week the last thing he texted me was he cooked a delicious dinner for himself to which I replied with a general delicious and yummy comment. After that he just stopped texting or calling, it’s a week now?

I mean what’s this behavior? We didn’t even fight, nothing happened, he just stopped contacting. If he’s expecting me to contact then I’m not doing it, he was the one to approach, he should have been more responsible. I’m very very annoyed right now.

This is like reading about myself.

I can't speak for this guy but then again I can't speak for myself either.

I just don't have it in me to keep texting incessantly - i struggle to be in touch. I click in person and when I am in the moment , I love getting to know other person. I am sure in that moment they think they mean the world to me ( I am a good listener too ) and truth is - in that moment they do mean a lot to me. But once that interaction ends , I struggle to keep the flame alive ( especially if they are also really into me ). Even as I am typing this , I have several unresponded texts waiting ( hey what happened, please reply , I don't know what went wrong , please tell me and then I won't disturb you) - I just don't know what to tell them.

Sometimes I get anxious about how this affects my Karma. It is not like I am going out of my way to hurt people's feelings but I end up doing it regardless. I try to make it clear in the beginning itself that I am not looking for anything serious but the initial high ( when I am at my utmost romantic best ) gives the wrong impression and I end up hurting feelings. Besides, my parents are getting impatient with me now , they want me settle down , get married and have kids - I don't want any of it. Human beings are so complicated. I think I am gonna be single forever.

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

Wow

I wanted to give him benefit of doubt but he sounds like a jerk. I honestly think he is trying to keep you interested so he can use you as a final option. I think he may be seeing other people too. An wants you as failsafe. Thats why he only randomly makes contact.

Yes. This is also true unfortunately.

Originally posted by: ffkhan

After reading her full story, I have been thinking the same.

If they two practically dated, like doing couple stuff, then he was the one who took advantage. And even if nothing happened but he showed interested in her while keeping her at the bay, then also it means he was enjoying her attention only.

In dating terms it's called submarining, where the guy keeps disappearing and then reappears out of the blue when he needs 'supply' again.

Submarining - never heard of this before. But it describes it perfectly.

For introverts this should be an option without judgment pls. We don't want commitment and relationship drama. But even we need "supply" sometimes. The hand gets boring after a while.

Originally posted by: --Pro.vo.King--

Human beings are so complicated. I think I am gonna be single forever.

Hi-5 buddy. Embrace my life and adopt 4 cats. Our cats can even be friends.

Originally posted by: --Pro.vo.King--

This is like reading about myself.

I can't speak for this guy but then again I can't speak for myself either.

I just don't have it in me to keep texting incessantly - i struggle to be in touch. I click in person and when I am in the moment , I love getting to know other person. I am sure in that moment they think they mean the world to me ( I am a good listener too ) and truth is - in that moment they do mean a lot to me. But once that interaction ends , I struggle to keep the flame alive ( especially if they are also really into me ). Even as I am typing this , I have several unresponded texts waiting ( hey what happened, please reply , I don't know what went wrong , please tell me and then I won't disturb you) - I just don't know what to tell them.

Sometimes I get anxious about how this affects my Karma. It is not like I am going out of my way to hurt people's feelings but I end up doing it regardless. I try to make it clear in the beginning itself that I am not looking for anything serious but the initial high ( when I am at my utmost romantic best ) gives the wrong impression and I end up hurting feelings. Besides, my parents are getting impatient with me now , they want me settle down , get married and have kids - I don't want any of it. Human beings are so complicated. I think I am gonna be single forever.

You are literally, legitimately the male version of me. I know exactly what you are talking about! Is your birthday anytime between July 22 to August 22 or January 20 to February 18, by chance? I have a theory.

Also, good to see you back, Provoking!

Now when I look back at my life, I’m convinced that the psychotic obsession I had for my uni crush was probably in fact my first love. I have a lot of regrets with that one. I wish I gave that a chance.

My first and only relationship with someone I loved ended up turning into years of gaslighting, being controlled, and suffering from mental abuse. I went from being confident to a distorted shadow of myself. My self esteem and self worth had hit rock bottom because I was constantly convinced that I was lacking and not good enough. I even started believing it and was always in a constant state of stress. I have a vivid memory of being curled up into a ball, wailing on the phone and begging him to stop with the harsh words but he showed no mercy.

I’ve had a taste of love and I’m sorry I’d rather stick to my one sided love for SRK. At least he won’t hurt me so long as he stays alive in real life and movies. My true love is all four of my cats. They make life worth living for me ❤️