[Member Topic] How u deal with bullies, dominating & two-faced people - Page 5

Originally posted by: colossial2015

Kitna bhagoge.

Life ko face karna seekho.

It depends on the situation. If it's possible to remove myself from the place I would prefer that cuz you can neither stop the bullying nor remove bullies, so better to remove myself. Life is short, better to be in a place where you are understood or loved not in a place where you are misunderstood or bullied.

If in a place like job where I cannot remove myself, I would totally ignore the bullies.

Originally posted by: Newbird

It depends on the situation. If it's possible to remove myself from the place I would prefer that cuz you can neither stop the bullying nor remove bullies, so better to remove myself. Life is short, better to be in a place where you are understood or loved not in a place where you are misunderstood or bullied.

If in a place like job where I cannot remove myself, I would totally ignore the bullies.

Ignoring bullies would empower them.

Originally posted by: TheekThaak

Too much of Ekta Kapoor and Indian TV dramas in the system, clearly 😆

This is the corporate strategy to destroy business to close a business or take over. This is actually a career path.

Originally posted by: TheekThaak

Only if you had read my post with a little less arrogance, you would have realised that I mentioned that nobody is irreplaceable, not otherwise. You don't like to source your confidence and stability from your knowledge and skill, not my problem. I do and for me that very knowledge is the source of power. It is not arrogance, it is sheer respect for skills people possess in general, in whatever amount.

To add, nobody sources their confidence from one channel, everybody has multiple, some spiritual, some not. Here I merely mentioned one of the ways which has worked in my journey.

I remember reading something similar on quora who had great pride and confidence on their knowledge and skill. He/she had office friend who had similar thoughts. One day his friend dies. His office gets informed regarding this person's death. They held two minutes silence to grieve. Within few minutes HR posted that position open. Within few days that post was filled.

The author of that post recognised what skills he had he would be replaced like a cog in a machine. This person has a post doctoral degree along with more qualification.

Originally posted by: colossial2015

This is the corporate strategy to destroy business to close a business or take over. This is actually a career path.

That is the point. There are lawyers who defend criminals, there are also professions where you are trained to kill. Difference being one is you doing your job by putting your skills to use. The other points you mentioned initially sounded like things to do for personal vendetta, the latter as a motivation is never sustainable and can never be encouraged. Simple

Originally posted by: colossial2015

I remember reading something similar on quora who had great pride and confidence on their knowledge and skill. He/she had office friend who had similar thoughts. One day his friend dies. His office gets informed regarding this person's death. They held two minutes silence to grieve. Within few minutes HR posted that position open. Within few days that post was filled.

The author of that post recognised what skills he had he would be replaced like a cog in a machine. This person has a post doctoral degree along with more qualification.

The fact that you associate knowledge and skill to just one job and things like job replacement is laugh-worthy. Knowledge is much more than that, skill is much more than that. If I'm a kabaddi player and I don't respect it enough to gain confidence from it, then it is really of no point. You put a lot of your energies in sketching a career for yourself, be it comedy, sport or business. If that doesn't make you feel empowered, then that is that individual's choice, Idc.

P. s. Of course, if you die, you die. What kind of idealistic world are we living in where the dead are respected by keeping their posts empty. Things you read on IF 😆

Heck you die and even your loved ones move on to lead their own lives.

Originally posted by: colossial2015

Ignoring bullies would empower them.

The main purpose of bullying generally would be to get a reaction from you. When you don't react to their bullying they don't see the purpose of doing it so they would end up stop doing it. If you react to their bullying you would end up entertaining their purpose so it's like you are feeding their purpose.

I always ignore bullies in virtual world.. I don't have that much time to draft a response even.

I was bullied throughout my school life and nobody took a stand for me. Even my own parents didn't know how to deal with the situation. I did eventually move on, but it really affected my self esteem and confidence to the point that I still feel awkward in social situations and tend to avoid people. I like being alone most of the time.

Originally posted by: la_Reine

I was bullied throughout my school life and nobody took a stand for me. Even my own parents didn't know how to deal with the situation. I did eventually move on, but it really affected my self esteem and confidence to the point that I still feel awkward in social situations and tend to avoid people. I like being alone most of the time.

I was bullied in my school and college. I was mentally strong enough to ignore the bullies. They neither deserve your attention nor worth spoiling your mental health. I became such dheet after going through lot of ragging and bullying from seniors in college. I was not even in a position to remove myself from that place as you neither can escape college nor seniors in hostels. Only thing I did was to not get it into my head, ignore and move on.