[Member Topic] How u deal with bullies, dominating & two-faced people - Page 3

@Natkhatpyare : Very good advice dear, I would like to read such essays, even longer :0)

The biggest struggle I guess is what you know (that they r weak from inside) and how you feel (about them which weighs ur heart down, irks u and makes u sad or fearful or angry) but I guess that's the test as well from the Almighty, we all r test for each other, infect.

@ffkhan: Agree been str8 forward and a real wish to set them str8 won't work. They r human and hard- wired, won't change easily, everyone has their own journey, so tael dekho, tael ki dhaar dekho.

@Gul_9: very true, but iss dil ka kya karain that wanna see a perfect life. Maybe they should not teach us the fairy tales in our childhood. But going through tough times n tough people, uskay baad ki seekh ka mazaa fairytales say bhi zyada hai, with wisdom as an added bonus :)

Originally posted by: TheMinion

By blocking them

Teri toh😆

I was hurt by them and became suicidal at a point. I am still more into nihilism, existentialism and hate most people and their two faced or dominating or manipulating and deceiving attitude and I hate myself for being so weak that I let others affect me.

I confront and fight with people. I have become more aggressive. But I also avoid and cut off from most people and keep to myself. I was introvert anyway so avoiding others is not a big deal for me. I keep myself busy in things and work I like. I totally block, delete and cut off from people who are even slightly irritating.

I do not let them cross further limits with me and try to find ways to make myself more and more independent, self reliant, self sufficient, self validated so that I do not even have to look at others let alone rely on them or tolerate them.

I would ignore them in that setting and leave that setting if I can. If you can’t like it’s your family or work environment then focus on yourself and get financial independence so you can be far from them and better deal with them. Having said I know it’s hard even if you are away from them and such experiences bother one.

You cannot control other people’s reactions, T. All you can control is your reaction to their behavior towards you. Everyone is you and I pushed out. I am sorry you are going through this and I send you loads of good vibes.

Originally posted by: Gul_9

By giving them a taste of their own medicine!

Dishing out to them exactly what they give.

Because if you don't do it or won't speak up for yourself it only emboldens them to continue with the toxic behavior. They need to be put in their place and taught lessens in their own language.

Otherwise the bullying never stops.

And if you're someone with their heart in the right place, then trust me, it may take some time, but karma strikes as well ...not instantly but eventually for sure!😌

I always confront any kind bullying because if you don’t speak up for yourself people think you are push over and they keep going at it just cause they think they can get away with it. If confrontation doesn’t help then remove those people from your life. If those family, friends genuinely care about you they don’t be harassing you in the first place. About work you can always contact your line manager or approach HR if it doesn’t get resolved I guess you can go to fair works.

Originally posted by: wat_up

along with taking self defense because some bullies can be dangerous

At this phase of my life, I will forgive them, and hope for forgiveness myself.. Distance myself if I could and If I couldnt, then every hardship teaches you something, and the best thing is, it brings you closer to God. A hardship that brings you closer to God is any day better than an ease which makes you turn away from Him.. And do know that God promise not once but twice, with hardship there would be ease..

I had to deal with a very toxic and manipulative person in my team once at workplace. HR and manager overlooked his toxicity. I was in a very bad place and the only way I could deal with it was remove myself from the situation by quitting the job. There was no tactful way of dealing with that person. I don’t know if I have to do it again if I could deal with that person better. That thought scares me to be stuck in a situation like that again. Sometimes you are really stuck with no choice at hand and all this advice is of no help.