From the comments, I agree that Anupamaa is acting very dumb in calling Shah house her 'mayka' and she is also dragging choti Anu into the madness and toxicity especially after knowing that those people don't like her and use very bad vocabulary in front of her.
However, my point was, Pakhi knew that Vanraj did not like her going to the Kapadia house, especially since Adhik was there. Instead of yelling at him, why is she blaming her mom? She knows that Anupamaa can give many lectures but if Vanraj insists on taking his daughter back, she can't do anything about it. Also, the things Pakhi was talking about that Anupamaa causes fights everywhere- I could agree with the part that because of her mahanta and interference, Kavya is not getting her due as the Shah bahu and Vanraj's wife but how could Pakhi comment on things she wouldn't be knowing about like Baa-Moti Baa and Anuj-Ankush? She was behaving like a mohalle wali aunty and using such cheap vocabulary. She even insulted Anuj who had only been nice to her at this point.
Pakhi and Toshu always used to be ashamed of their mother and would hardly spend time with her. Now why are they acting entitled to all her love and acting as if they are very hurt by the distance between them? Did Pakhi ever choose to live with her mom after the divorce? She fights for her right to have a boyfriend but keeps quiet when her family character assassinates her mom and herself tells her mom that it was better when she was treated like trash. How can all this be justified???