Originally posted by: Lodestar
Yes once again my expectations of happy ending got chopped because apparently reality main first love relationships mostly do not work & the OTP apparently fell in that category despite the strength of the foundation of their relationship😆.
The ML BYJ gave me solid Adi vibes because he supported the FL's career so much, was so protective about her, never moved from the platonic stage until FL wanted to & eventually ended up being a reporter with a passion for it. The FL was also such a straight forward go getter, never give up type. Frankly their relationship had to end only because the writer decided it had to end. When you built their relationship on such strong foundation then the dissolution of their relationship also deserved the same level of execution.
KK ji welcome🤗.
My main gripe is that after following NHD's storyline from the start, we needed to see the love life of current NHD- good/bad because now I am feeling that it was not given a proper conclusion. I have watched & loved many shows where the first love is not the only love in the leads life despite how good their relationship was. But all of them showed how the love that stayed was the best for them.
Also I personally think the one who got short changed in the relationship was BYJ.
I am not saying that he was right in any way to take such a big decision of staying in NY for a longer time without discussing with NHD. That was such a big move that would definitely impact their relationship that it needed to be discussed beforehand.
BYJ was having a difficult time emotionally & mentally in NY. I just think that NHD the one person throughout the story who has always been unafraid of losing or fighting for what she wants gave up too quickly. If he was not responding to her calls & she was feeling he was distancing himself, I think she should have discussed it with him on call or better yet face to face. She could afford to go to NY at some point after BYJ delayed coming back. I mean couldn't she get a week of break & go meet him. Then I could feel that yes she gave her best fight to save their relationship. Just giving up without a fight was out of character for her.
NHD herself was in a good space be it her fencing, her relationship with her mother or her friendship with KYR & gang. So why was she so hesitant about confronting BYJ & giving him a piece of her mind. Why suffer silently? It just didn't make sense to me.
Here again the point of equality comes into play that you & AY were discussing. If the situations were reversed & NHD was going through mental upheaval & BYJ broke up only after trying to support her emotionally from afar wouldn't he be labelled a jerk of the highest order who abandoned NHD in times of trouble for her & not doing enough.
Also the narrative being from NHD's pov skews the reality into showing audience that it was only BYJ's professional commitments which contributed in the failure of their relationship. Their entire dating was planned around NHD's schedule. BYJ was not shown feeling that NHD is not giving enough time for them at any point of time. He truly supported her career. He made a career change by shifting from sports department where he has already established himself. That was not an easy change but he did it because he never wanted to be in a position to hurt NHD the way he had to hurt KYR.
I feel that NHD just gave up at the first big problem that their relationship faced. If NHD had expectations from BYJ then shouldn't BYJ be allowed to have expectation of understanding from NHD. He saw that he was hurting NHD & as expected he stepped back.
All are claiming that breaking up was a mature decision but I think it was a hasty one even if it seemed to be the correct one. What NHD actually needed was sensible advice from someone who would understand their situation neutrally. Her mother is a big no no for this. Maybe KYR could also have guided her as she was also dealing with long distance relationship, best would be KYR's mom who actually had a successful marriage through various ups & downs.
In the end BYJ got burdened with the blame of the relationship failure when both were at fault.
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