Today on not without my family kya bebaasi hai yeh kya majbooriyan, hum paas hai phir bhi kitni hai dooriyan; jism tu jaan main teri pehchaan main; ro raha mera dil meri aankhen hai nam; yeh hai teri karam Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Ghum; na judaa honge hum kabhi khushi kabhi ghum🥺🥺🥺🥺
Disclaimer:, if you haven't watched Kabhi Khushi Kabhi Ghum, then perhaps my analysis will not be relevant for you today. Or perhaps wasn't even yesterday. That movie resonates with what I am watching on this show in many ways. Not just because KJo said that its all about loving your parents; but also about how the characters reacted to love, to parents, to family. Therefore, I am using it as a reference. You might still be able to make sense of what I say. However, if like me that movie was your first intro to Bollywood, as a kid, and the world of motherland storytelling (and my main man😍😍😍😍😍😍😍 for whom there will never be enough heart eye emojis in the world) then my analysis will make.perfect sense to you.
To those who will get irritated or annoyed with the comparison, please stop reading here. This analysis today might not be for you.
My poor baby. My darling Abhi. Firstly, regardless of what the nay sayers say, my darling is the karta dharta of this show which is most likely why he said yes to S3. This show is THE STORY OF ABHIMANYU BIRLA. That's why I call it my deewane ka kissa. Matlab every action and every reaction is based on what my Abhi does.
Anyways I digress:
1. Abhi comes to morning aarti and instead of calming him down, Manjari tells him that he WILL speak to Harsh and he WILL ask him to come. Respectfully. Like a son should to his father. Not like Dr Abhimanyu Birla and his sir or like sir to Dr Abhimanyu Birla. My baby is stuck. Stuck between what he feels he is doing to protect his future wife and what his mother expects from him. Why put him in this situation. I can see this from his POV. Why shouldn't he stand up for the woman he loves? Just like Manjari is standing up for her husband, he is also standing up for his future wife. For the girl he loves. Hand on heart, which girl here wouldn't want her husband to stand up for her. Isn't that what through thick and thin means? That's what Abhi is doing. He knows sir and he doesn't want his Akshu insulted. Yet, Manjari expects him to respectfully balance that love with Harsh's rudeness and meanness and accept that Harsh is Harsh, apologise and carry on. *slow claps* mate; you have managed to ruin my Abhi's happiness.
2. Harsh uncle is no less. He won't be pacified because he won't introspect. Everything must be about him. So his ego (like my Abhi mentioned) is hurt and he says he is uninviting himself from Abhi's wedding and won't come and Abhi can do whatever he wants. So Abhi must listen to this calmly. Abhi has no feelings? No emotions? He must quietly take all this and just carry on with life because Harsh has full rights to treat Abhi in whichever way, as per Manjari, as per the world because otherwise the world labels my Abhi as rude, arrogant, tantrum thrower, spoiled brat. More than anyone else needing therapy, it is Abhi. Abhi needs to cut off with Harsh. I believe that for someone's peace and mental health, it is important that we cancel people who do not bring us joy or happiness even if those people are our closest family. That is why I understood why, despite loving his mother so much, perhaps as much as Abhi loves Manjari, Rahul in K3G left the Raichands and moved away to another country. Now I understand what Abhi says when he says he is alone. Who is standing up to Harsh for Abhi? Nobody! Not even the one person who should have supported him.
3. Also Harsh won't stop his games will he? He calls Akshu to Birla Hospital and taunts her; gives her an earful. Any girl would be shook if her future father-in-law intimidated her to this extent. Yet, Akshu, ever dignified and composed, takes it all on the chin even though her eyes say she is hurt and almost in tears at the accusations Harsh throws at her. He knows Abhi would never have stood for this and would have protected his love at any cost, always and forever, so he smartly arranges it when Abhi is busy with some patient. I really dislike this man. How this man produced someone like Abhimanyu is beyond me. No wonder Abhi fell for Akshara. She soothes thr storm that his parents cause within him..I know there are people who question the love at first sight but imagine being as restless as Abhi must feel in that place; as turbulent as his mind might be. Imagine being on edge all the time and suddenly someone makes you feel at peace; like an oasis in a dessert; like an oak tree in the blazing sun; like the coldest ice lolly on a hot summer day and like all your restlessness finally found tranquility.
4. So Akshara does what everyone expected, she goes to Abhi to try and explain that he isn't being fair to Harsh uncle. Akshara, you are his peace and tranquility. How I wish you wouldn't do this to him because it is you, he is protecting. The harsh, caustic words that Harsh said to you, those are the words this man is protecting you from. Please don't put him in this position.
5. What angered me was when he told her and rightly so, that she knows nothing about his family. I wanted her to say "toh bolo na Abhi; batao mujhe. Tum bataoge nahin toh main kaise tumhe samjhungi. But nooooooooooo🙄🥺. What do I hear? "Mujhe nahin jaan na". This man went out of his way to understand you and your trauma. He begged chota mendak to tell him and tolerated his tar tar for the real scoop. Yet, you straight off tell him you don't want to know.
Yesterday, I said Anjali in K3G always supported Rahul. Always. She knew he was doing it for her. As much as she loved her motherland, as much as she was upset that they left without Yash's ashirwaad; she knew that for her love he did that. Remember what Yash told Rahul before he married Anjali? That he must respect the Raichand name. That no ordinary mohalle ki ladki can tarnish the Raichand name. That this girl's status and background was not fit for the Raichand family. That this girl, Anjali wouldn't understand their traditions or culture or rituals or ethics or principles. That this girl would adhere to their values. How could Rahul ever think that some girl from Chandni Chowk would be part of the Raichand family and Rahul tells him that he just fell in love. That day how Yash's words must have hurt Rahul. Then he disowned Rahul and took away all rights from him as Nandini even didn't say anything to Yash. Anjali even tried to stop him but Rahul was firm.
So why? Why isn't Akshu supporting my Abhi? Why? Why in 2001 could Anjali support Rahul but in 2022, Akshara can't support Abhi and listen to his story? Why won't the TRP aunties 20 years later let Akshu support Abhi? Why? Why won't motherland sabhyaata and sanskaars let Abhi cancel Harsh? Why? WHY?
Even then I remember dadi and nani telling Rohan that Yash's ego and Rahul's stubbornness broke the family.
6. I understand the fear that Akshara has. I understand she worries that her new family have to bless her new relationship; but at what price? Is she ready to lose Abhi? Does she want him to suffer and to pine for her and a relationship that he wants so badly? Has she ever thought that he must be feeling so alone;, so lonely?
7. Manjari!!!Only if this is a plan Manjari has to separate those two from the Birla family, will I forgive her. She has single handedly ruined my Abhi's happiness. The precap has broken my heart. Abhi has waited for this day for ages. Akshu is waiting for him. Tilak will repeat itself. Akshu will break if he doesn't show and he will die because he can't show up even though he loves her so much. I dislike Manjari for putting him in situation because she knows everything about Harsh and his twisted, stupid ways. I am angry at Akshara for not listening to him and not supporting him. My heart is broken after the precap. My Abhi waited for this day. He wanted this day to come with all his heart. He prayed to Mahadev for every minute of every day for this and Manjari won't let him have it. Nope. I refuse to blame Abhi. Manjari knew she would have him when she said she wouldn't go. She also knew Harsh knew that if he refused to go then she wouldn't go and Abhi wouldn't go. I hope these two are happy I hope they understand how he must feel when the biggest day of his life is here and he will have another action replay of what happened the first time. So much for unconditional parental love. Congratulations naysayers and negative folks, you got what you wished for.
Balaji damaadji fans, i hope you enjoy your show on March 14th.
8. Dr Jalkukdi, I have no sympathy for you. You never loved my Abhi. You just wanted him for your own selfish reasons. I don't care about your stupid crying. You have chota mendak. I have bigger problems.
This isn't my usual happy review. I know. Yet this is it.
Sad face to the maxxxxxxxxx!!!!!😭😭😭😭😭😭
Edited by Stardust91 - 3 years ago
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