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Originally posted by: SnowWhite_97

Phir bhi boys shadi ko punishment kehty hain 😬 I wish I was a boy mein bhi apni life full enjoy kr sakti🤔

Bro ek age ke baad life me enjoy karne ke liye kuch nahi hota, Chalti rahe yahi bohot hai, ladka ho ya ladki sab majboor hain sab par zimmedari hai..

Zindagi se ummeed thodi kam rakhna hi behtar hai

Originally posted by: austen-eliot

Best of luck! 🤣

Na karu kya, bhag jata hu, kya bolti hai janta??

Originally posted by: SnowWhite_97

sabhi cheezon ky liye Apny hubby ki permission lena yeh baat Mujhy pasand nahi hai 😑

Husband se bolo husband ban ke rahe baap na bane.. Nalayak permission denge

My God, what a bleak outlook 😲 I mean, that age is like what after 50? 60?

And if it's true, in that case better to be single - kam zimmedari rahegi...

Originally posted by: ViSions

Bro ek age ke baad life me enjoy karne ke liye kuch nahi hota, Chalti rahe yahi bohot hai, ladka ho ya ladki sab majboor hain sab par zimmedari hai..

Zindagi se ummeed thodi kam rakhna hi behtar hai

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

Because it is the nature of the institution. It doesn't matter what we think. By nature and structure, marriage is an oppressive institution. Oh, I am going to make sure I don't end up as the loser and I won't shouldering responsibilities I don't want. 😂

I don't agree that it's oppressive. It restricts, yes but all social institutions do.. Every relationship has these limits and restrictions. One just has to decide if it's going to work for them or not.

I think it's okay to be single and old..and it's also okay to be young and married. There could be issues in your marriage when you're 23 or even 33.

Many of my cousins got married at 24 or 25 and they give me gyaan about how difficult it would be for me if I didn't marry at the "right" age..I will have problems adjusting..I'll have problems conceiving etc. But I would never want to get married only because I'm getting older..or it's the right time to have babies or everyone around me is getting married.

My brother got married at 33 to a girl who was also 33 and they had a baby 7 years later and they're happy. They took their time and didn't let the pressure get to them.

Everyone is different and it's not necessary that everyone should get married in their 20s, have babies by late 20s or early 30s and then retire by 60.

Originally posted by: austen-eliot

I think marriage actually confers and safeguards a woman's rights.. So it's safer than live-in.. If it doesn't work out, the option to leave is always there.. And it's easier in this age.

Exactly. I agree with this. There is more acceptance in the society for a married woman than unmarried women. Exactly why women prefer getting married. See, ultimately it's social conditioning and patriarchy, not a choice. Because women don't have the choice because if we had, none of us will get married, I honestly believe.

This is an arranged marriage? Do you think the future Mrs. Visions is also having such thoughts?

Yes bhag jao - it could be a win-win scenario! 🤣

Originally posted by: ViSions

Na karu kya, bhag jata hu, kya bolti hai janta??

Originally posted by: austen-eliot

I don't agree that it's oppressive. It restricts, yes but all social institutions do.. Every relationship has these limits and restrictions. One just has to decide if it's going to work for them or not.

Yea. Wholeheartedly agree all institutions are oppressive. I am not an anarchist. I support institutions that bring in justice.

Talking about every relationships, I can't do anything about the relationship I have with my parents or siblings. But why would I knowingly choose marriage to make myself more bound especially in a world that is so patriarchal.