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Originally posted by: ViSions

Yaar jaldi ka matlab ye nahi ki baal vivah hi kar lo, phir bhi 23-24 is the best age to get married.

Meri do badi behen hai ek ki shadi 23 me hui ek ki 28, Dekh hi raha hu kiski life kitni smooth hai.

I'm sure my husband thinks the restrictions are all on his side and I'm having a lark.

It’s the perspective of the two sides na. Compromise toh dono ko karna padta hai and if both understand this about the other it's good and easy. But if the girl is going to be thinking that she's got the short end and the guy thinks she's better off and he's bearing the burden then conflict toh hoga hi..

So Eka since you have a great BF and you do see yourself marrying him in some time it'll be good if you don't start off by thinking you're going to be the loser in the marriage and the guy's going to get everything and you're doing it only for him.

Originally posted by: Intoxicator

Austen - we're probably irritating you with our bakwas on this topic! I'm fully willing to concede that marriage is like some foreign country where no matter how much you read about it or see it on tv, its reality will not become apparent till one actually goes into that state...

(I have a couple of friends who married young and every time I visit them, I do feel a little envious - they seem to have it completely together and are such a team. I just don't know if that's perception or reality...)

See. We might be irritating her or not. But austen, if your marriage is happy and amazing cool. Amazing for you.😍

But no, I will keep opposing everyone who tries to sell me marriage as something good. I am not taking it. 🤣

Originally posted by: SnowWhite_97

After shadi girl ko apny husband ky ghar rehna hota hai 😾 I wish I was a boy😑

Isiliye bhi to shadi ladko ke liye blessing hai..

Originally posted by: austen-eliot

I'm sure my husband thinks the restrictions are all on his side and I'm having a lark.

It’s the perspective of the two sides na. Compromise toh dono ko karna padta hai and if both understand this about the other it's good and easy. But if the girl is going to be thinking that she's got the short end and the guy thinks she's better off and he's bearing the burden then conflict toh hoga hi..

So Eka since you have a great BF and you do see yourself marrying him in some time it'll be good if you don't start off by thinking you're going to be the loser in the marriage and the guy's going to get everything and you're doing it only for him.

Because it is the nature of the institution. It doesn't matter what we think. By nature and structure, marriage is an oppressive institution. Oh, I am going to make sure I don't end up as the loser and I won't shouldering responsibilities I don't want. 😂

Originally posted by: Intoxicator

Austen - we're probably irritating you with our bakwas on this topic! I'm fully willing to concede that marriage is like some foreign country where no matter how much you read about it or see it on tv, its reality will not become apparent till one actually goes into that state...

(I have a couple of friends who married young and every time I visit them, I do feel a little envious - they seem to have it completely together and are such a team. I just don't know if that's perception or reality...)

Reality hai.. Marriage is good, really with a good man who loves and supports you. It's cliche but it's better getting older with a loving partner than getting older alone yaar. Fact.

Originally posted by: ViSions

Isiliye bhi to shadi ladko ke liye blessing hai..

Originally posted by: austen-eliot

Reality hai.. Marriage is good, really with a good man who loves and supports you. It's cliche but it's better getting older with a loving partner than getting older alone yaar. Fact.

Originally posted by: Ekahriz

This I agree. But you can still grow together without being tied down by something like marriage, right? Why is it necessary to be legally bound?

It is also true about it becoming difficult finding someone. All my friends find it really difficult to meet guys now itself, even after graduation. University period is the best time to find people, I guess.

I think marriage actually confers and safeguards a woman's rights.. So it's safer than live-in.. If it doesn't work out, the option to leave is always there.. And it's easier in this age.

Originally posted by: ViSions

Kar raha hu, abhi feb me karne hi wala tha lekin postpone ho gayi(bach gaya)

Best of luck! 🤣