Piu di🤗!!! I've missed your analysis posts soooo much! They were one of the things that made me love this show despite its insane moments.... What's love if it isn't a little crazy, after all?
When I started watching this show, it was for the family bonding. I've never watched the pre leap episodes, and I still liked Gaura a lot. To me, when I see them, I don't need to see a love story or moments of passion. I see them 10 years into their marriage and behaving that way and I still get them. Because they have, as you so wonderfully put it, the Chemistry of Comfort. Whether that is a day into their marriage or 10 years into it, it's still the same thing I'm looking at and I loved that...
I agree with your point about people in real life wanting what Gaura have. As a twenty year old who hasn't experienced anything romantic beyond school crushes, I know that I want passion. I know that I want someone who will challenge me, keep me on my toes, but still be my rock in the midst of my storm. Who will love me and protect me with a passion that makes me fear if such intensity could possibly be good for anyone.
But I know that at the end of the day, I might very well choose comfort over this unending passion I hope for. Most people in real life do. And they do so happily. Sometimes I think that it has to do with humankind's fear of the unknown that a passionate relationship will eventually bring to you. Sometimes I think it's about struggling against the world all day and wanting to simply fall into your lover's arms once home. And sometimes it's about, "Isn't this enough?", and "What more could I possibly want?". Whatever it is, I understand it, and I love Gaura for this....
As for Dhara, her overbearing behavior and her harmonium, I think I might have a different opinion than most people. In real life, I've observed this happen a lot, and it's what I mostly attribute Dhara's overbearing behavior to. People learn from examples, from the people they see and the way they behave. Dhara had never had a maternal figure she was close to in her life. And then Suman became that for her after her wedding to Gautam. She might have been harsh with Dhara, but she was still someone where before there had been a vacant position in Dhara's life...
We all know how Suman behaves. How strict she is, how she wants every whim to be fulfilled, how she can be a paradox in herself, confusing all of us along with herself.... And this was Dhara's example. Let me provide an analogy here... Say a man would have refused his son a phone at all for fear of misuse and loss of complete control over his child. The son, now a father, who has been affected by this and knows that it was wrong would buy his son a phone, but would take care to have parental control, or know his passwords (whether or not he actually checks). Not conforming to the ideal situation but simply moving a step forward in the process towards it.
This is what I think happens with Dhara. She knows Suman's mistakes, but instead of moving to the ideal situation, she moves a few steps towards it. And then the Harmonium I attribute to Dhara completely, annoying, sometimes making me laugh till my stomach hurts, but all Dhara...
PS I believe that malli is a weakness of Indian women in general.. It holds more romantic connotation than the classic red rose does to most Indian women... Even in my flower avoiding heart, gajras around buns are the best...
For every malli poo lover on here... ❤️
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