Originally posted by: joliefemme
Let me try and put across my perspective. You may not like it but feel free to ignore.
Yes, Pallavi didn't have the drugged kheer that night but she willingly chose to stay back in D house. How much ever she was upset with Raghav, he is her husband at the end of the day. She should have not promised VD to stay back to treat Mandar indefinitely without consulting Raghav. There she was at fault despite her noble intentions and complete honesty.
Raghav willingly got into a drinking session with his ex who harboured feelings for him. But tell me one thing can you blame him for drinking with the ex, did he know she would take advantage of his drunken state? She was his friend who literally destroyed her life for saving his. He held a grudge against her for such a long time and he felt relieved that was not the case. Hence he indulged in a stupid drinking game till he was sloshed. If there was an ex who was positive most of us would not have found his actions questionable. There are so many people who are friends with people who like them, it's not like everyone literally stays away from friends because they have one sided feelings right.
While it was utterly stupid of him and a huge huge mistake, I don't see him as doing this intentionally to hurt Pallavi. Here he was a victim because Esha closed in on him. Right now he's hiding because he thinks he slept with Esha, if that were not the case, he would have come as clean as P did.
Also, I don't know how many people observed in the Mandar drugged kand. After Amma and R left and Aayi promised to be near Pallavi, she literally left the next second and a drugged Pallavi was with Mandar alone in the room. You can go back and check, I know coz I was literally screaming into the TV at aayi for being so careless about it. I'm not blaming Pallavi here but the circumstances are literally the same. If Mandar did cross the line and Pallavi didn't remember, she would literally be in the same state as R or lost as to what happened.
I agree totally when you say that R is at fault for hiding this from P because it takes away her agency to decide. While I understand his actions, I don't condone them. That is precisely the reason why he will give an agnipariksha and lots more and P was back in his life without as much as a sorry (because she wasn't at fault).
As far as emotional cheating goes, Esha is emotionally manipulating Raghav and the idiot is falling for it. But he's not emotionally cheating on Pallavi. According to me what qualifies as emotional cheating is when you have feelings for the other person, Raghav here only feels for Pallavi and not Esha.