Yes I’ve heard this for many years about Dev not being a perfect person and that’s what made his character interesting etc. No one asked for a perfect or ideal man. He was completely entitled to be a wuss and break up with Sonakshi.
My issue is with showing/ normalising obsessive, stalkerish behaviour as ‘intense, angsty love’.That is not love. That is dangerous behaviour that can make a woman’s life extremely scary and uncomfortable and cause her to live on the edge. First of all, it’s not even deep love if it took him a second to cast her out of his life. He made a choice between mother and girlfriend, fine. But then stalking and guilt tripping, creating problems for her fiance etc - no way can this behaviour be labelled ‘love’. It was more like he was jealously guarding a possession that no else should have, even though he didn’t want or couldn’t have it. Dog in the manger attitude.