Ex bahu out of the house concept......

Keeping aside the regressive and jerk like behaviour of vanraj baa and Toshu......there is a very general demand in the society as well as in the forum that Anupama should move out from shah house.....but I ask why? Why only the bahu?

She served in that house and nurtured the family for 26 years....thinking it as her own...achanak ek husband namak prani usse bor ho gya and she is the one out of the house like a insect.....

Not only that if she goes to her own maternal house there are also beautiful people sitting in the name of brother's family......here I know anus family is shown good.....but this is generally not the case....she have to fight there too.....

And now people will say she can go and her career....but everyone knows this is not the easy task.....nor do everyone wants that.....many women in our society do want to stay in home......they can do any work inside the house but they won't go out......for them that's the best thing.....I have seen my own relative literally fighting with the female counterpart to introduce her to the outer world.....it's her choice to be a housewife......

My point why can't they say this....

" Yeah mera ghar hai.....main yeha rahungi.......apne man se chalungi.....kisi ko koi prob hai to darwaza khula hai.....aur tab bhi na mane to alimony main adha Ghar mag lo......"

But why to give the male easy way out....

Absolutely, she got her share of the house from Baapuji who treats her as his daughter, Anupama refused alimony from Vanraj. Though kavya instigated already that Anupama may find a man and move on so get back the 🏠 Vanraj thinks more about his pride that is dented.

Many women jointly take house loan and also pay the EMI yet you find the house registered only on the man's name.

A colleague went through domestic violence and moved out after 20 years of marriage. She did not get her share of the house they built together.

Women should be more assertive and careful in safeguarding their financial position. That by itself will give a spring in their step.

Originally posted by: khusboo2309

Keeping aside the regressive and jerk like behaviour of vanraj baa and Toshu......there is a very general demand in the society as well as in the forum that Anupama should move out from shah house.....but I ask why? Why only the bahu?

She served in that house and nurtured the family for 26 years....thinking it as her own...achanak ek husband namak prani usse bor ho gya and she is the one out of the house like a insect.....

Not only that if she goes to her own maternal house there are also beautiful people sitting in the name of brother's family......here I know anus family is shown good.....but this is generally not the case....she have to fight there too.....

And now people will say she can go and her career....but everyone knows this is not the easy task.....nor do everyone wants that.....many women in our society do want to stay in home......they can do any work inside the house but they won't go out......for them that's the best thing.....I have seen my own relative literally fighting with the female counterpart to introduce her to the outer world.....it's her choice to be a housewife......

My point why can't they say this....

" Yeah mera ghar hai.....main yeha rahungi.......apne man se chalungi.....kisi ko koi prob hai to darwaza khula hai.....aur tab bhi na mane to alimony main adha Ghar mag lo......"

But why to give the male easy way out....

I know what ur saying but this is a show drama , masala has to be there. And frankly speaking jabse Anuj ki entry hui hai show aur interesting ho gaya hai. Such a gentleman he is opposite of Vanraj, Anupama has never experience any romantic love i still think she is too immature and broken from inside, so broken that she needs someone and that someone will be Anuj. Even her ladla beta Samar had said mummy is alone all her life and prayed kanhaji to send someone in his mummy life. Anuj brirthday tithi is on Janmastmi a signal from Lord Krishna.❤️Show has become quite interesting now. Her best friend Devika is also working with Anuj now . Show's TRP has increased since Anuj's entry and youth is also now watching this show .

I get what you are talking about, but the type of personality you are relating the situation with is exactly opposite of Anu. You are taking about someone who would fight, demand and have a backbone!

With Anu's personality- her need to please everyone- even when those people are wrong. Safeguarding Baa's every BS even though it is wrong and hurting her. ( I know she replied back in last episode, but that was after Devika hammered some logic into her- without backing down - you know Anu was still putting fight there but kudos to Devika)

If she stays in the house, it would be so difficult for her to move on - because she puts herself and her own opinion last. Especially when it would come to second marriage. Do you think these people won't interfere when it would be brought up? Do you think Anu won't go around saying - Baa kya sochegi? Mere bachhe kya kahege? Who log khus nahi he- Mera parivaar khus nahi he.

I am letting it slide because it is show - but most people are complaining as it setting a wrong example. This show is doing quite well so it is their social responsibility to not show something so wrong. They completely moved on from emotional trauma - such case causes. It leads to some serious mental medical conditions. It is not simple as what they are showing!

She is practically a free maid, who is also supporting the house financially, paid 20 years of his sasur's tax with taking personal loan and still can't make any independent decision without interference from his ex-husband and ex-sasuma.

Originally posted by: piyu008

I get what you are talking about, but the type of personality you are relating the situation with is exactly opposite of Anu. You are taking about someone who would fight, demand and have a backbone!

With Anu's personality- her need to please everyone- even when those people are wrong. Safeguarding Baa's every BS even though it is wrong and hurting her. ( I know she replied back in last episode, but that was after Devika hammered some logic into her- without backing down - you know Anu was still putting fight there but kudos to Devika)

If she stays in the house, it would be so difficult for her to move on - because she puts herself and her own opinion last. Especially when it would come to second marriage. Do you think these people won't interfere when it would be brought up? Do you think Anu won't go around saying - Baa kya sochegi? Mere bachhe kya kahege? Who log khus nahi he- Mera parivaar khus nahi he.

I am letting it slide because it is show - but most people are complaining as it setting a wrong example. This show is doing quite well so it is their social responsibility to not show something so wrong. They completely moved on from emotional trauma - such case causes. It leads to some serious mental medical conditions. It is not simple as what they are showing!

She is practically a free maid, who is also supporting the house financially, paid 20 years of his sasur's tax with taking personal loan and still can't make any independent decision without interference from his ex-husband and ex-sasuma.

I totally agree jitna bhi boli hai wo Devika ne thodi fatkaar lagayi isliye boli she is too too weak and i will call her emotional fool. kai housewifes hoti hai but they are too too smart unko duniya ka pata hota hai zarrori nahi ki agar aapne job nahi ki to aapko duniya ka kuch pat nahi rahega . Anupama ko sirf doosre kya sochege ye dikayi deta hai i think shaadi ke baad se uski yahi habit bani hui hai.

Note - Many housewifes are smart and kuch job karne ke baad bhi smart nahi ho paati its all mindset. Anupama ka dimag itna logo mein uljha hua hai ki uske dimagg mein koi nayi cheeze lagta hai jaati hi nahi hai. Kabhi bhi practically nahi sochti jyada emotional mind ko bekaar hi karta hai.

Originally posted by: piyu008

I get what you are talking about, but the type of personality you are relating the situation with is exactly opposite of Anu. You are taking about someone who would fight, demand and have a backbone!

With Anu's personality- her need to please everyone- even when those people are wrong. Safeguarding Baa's every BS even though it is wrong and hurting her. ( I know she replied back in last episode, but that was after Devika hammered some logic into her- without backing down - you know Anu was still putting fight there but kudos to Devika)

If she stays in the house, it would be so difficult for her to move on - because she puts herself and her own opinion last. Especially when it would come to second marriage. Do you think these people won't interfere when it would be brought up? Do you think Anu won't go around saying - Baa kya sochegi? Mere bachhe kya kahege? Who log khus nahi he- Mera parivaar khus nahi he.

I am letting it slide because it is show - but most people are complaining as it setting a wrong example. This show is doing quite well so it is their social responsibility to not show something so wrong. They completely moved on from emotional trauma - such case causes. It leads to some serious mental medical conditions. It is not simple as what they are showing!

She is practically a free maid, who is also supporting the house financially, paid 20 years of his sasur's tax with taking personal loan and still can't make any independent decision without interference from his ex-husband and ex-sasuma.

That is what I am saying......rather than character development....and up with a spirit where you say wrong wrong ...and right right.....people are suggesting moving out from the house.....

Why can't people understand.....the family which she is holding on is very dear to her.... though some rougeu material is present over there.....still moving out rather would be a huge punishment for her.....

Originally posted by: khusboo2309

Keeping aside the regressive and jerk like behaviour of vanraj baa and Toshu......there is a very general demand in the society as well as in the forum that Anupama should move out from shah house.....but I ask why? Why only the bahu?

She served in that house and nurtured the family for 26 years....thinking it as her own...achanak ek husband namak prani usse bor ho gya and she is the one out of the house like a insect.....

Not only that if she goes to her own maternal house there are also beautiful people sitting in the name of brother's family......here I know anus family is shown good.....but this is generally not the case....she have to fight there too.....

And now people will say she can go and her career....but everyone knows this is not the easy task.....nor do everyone wants that.....many women in our society do want to stay in home......they can do any work inside the house but they won't go out......for them that's the best thing.....I have seen my own relative literally fighting with the female counterpart to introduce her to the outer world.....it's her choice to be a housewife......

My point why can't they say this....

" Yeah mera ghar hai.....main yeha rahungi.......apne man se chalungi.....kisi ko koi prob hai to darwaza khula hai.....aur tab bhi na mane to alimony main adha Ghar mag lo......"

But why to give the male easy way out....

I dont think it is a problem that she got a part of the house. This wasnt some charity done to her or something done out of goodwill and generosity. She only got what she rightfully deserves and has a right to.

The problem is that there could have been different things done with this issue. She could have created pressure on the shah family to buy her share of the house. She could have rented out her own space while she left to go and live separately.

Its common enough in western countries that a couple buys a home together and then decides to separate. The couple generally uses some or the other way to amicably resolve property issues.

Claiming her right to the house didnt had to involve compromising with her self respect and living with ex in-laws, ex-husband and his new wife.

I see no issues with a lady finding happiness inside the home. Every individual is different. And if she is doing her household chores out of her own free will and is happy doing that then she is just as much of an empowered woman in my eyes as a woman who goes out to work between strangers.

The problem here is that anupama isnt being given the CHOICE. Choice and consent and important in every aspect of a relationship.

Agar anupama ko Bapuji sahi mai beti mante hai toh shah house mai pure sanman ke sath rakhe and apne kameena beta bahu ko ghar se nikale jaise dadisa and bhairon ne Anandi ko ghar mai rakkha tha and Jagdish -Gauri ko Nikala tha!

And agar woh apne bête and nayi bahu ko nahi nikal sakte ghar se toh anupama ko mukti de de!

Beti ko aise uski sautan ke sath rehne ke liye koi pita majbur nahi kar sakta!

Vanraj ke toh mazze hai nayi biwi bedroom mai and ex-biwi hukum chalane ke liye !

Ghar ka ek kona kisi ke naam par karne se kuch nahi hota! Dum hai toh sacchai ka sath de kar apni nayi bahu and purane bête ko ghar se nikal kar dikhao!

Originally posted by: khusboo2309

That is what I am saying......rather than character development....and up with a spirit where you say wrong wrong ...and right right.....people are suggesting moving out from the house.....

Why can't people understand.....the family which she is holding on is very dear to her.... though some rougeu material is present over there.....still moving out rather would be a huge punishment for her.....

I think no one is here asking Anu to leave her relations with family. Remember resort episodes- she was living in different room and was still maintaining her relations. That is realist too. Staying in this madhouse is hurting her more than keeping her happy.

There is saying that - A frog in a well cannot discuss the ocean. It is quite apt on Anu. Changes are always hard and everyone fears them. But they are needed. Most people signed up for her journey, where she could grow, breath freely, fly without limits. But this family is acting as weights that are pulling her down.

Why a single independent woman should fight for her basic rights every damn time when there is simple easy way of moving out of the house.

Originally posted by: piyu008

I think no one is here asking Anu to leave her relations with family. Remember resort episodes- she was living in different room and was still maintioning her relations. That is realist too. Staying in this madhouse is hurting her more than keeping her happy.

There is saying that - A frog in a well cannot discuss the ocean. It is quite apt on Anu. Changes are always hard and everyone fears them. But they are needed. Most people signed up for her journey, where she could grow, breath freely, fly without limits. But this family is acting as weights that are pulling her down.

Why a single independent woman should fight for her basic rights every damn time when there is simple easy way of moving out of the house.

I really think Anupama jab apne comfort zone se bahar niklegi tabhi wo kuch kar payegi warna uska mental state itna weak hai abhi. And sorry but mujhe lagta hai wo cheeze bhi kabhi kabhi bhool jaati hai means its hurting to say but usko panic attacks to aate hi the na she is not behaving normally aur kya pata uss ghar mein rehna uske mental state ke liye theek nahi ho aur ye baat usse abhi na pata chal rahi ho. Par jis tarah se wo karti hai its not normal.