The issue of consent is being raised pretty directly in the current track but it was also woven in throughout the story if you think about it.
Adi maintained in the beginning that he didn't accept the forced marriage with Imlie cuz it didn't have his consent. And Imlie accepted the fact that him not giving consent to it means he cannot be forced to nibhaao this rishta. Her acceptance of the marriage was always something she maintained out of her own belief- again a stance that she never FORCED on him....it was hers alone to maintain.
All along, Imlie supported whatever Adi CONSENTED to....whatever he CHOSE out of his free will. When he said his choice was to remain with Malini, Imlie accepted that and supported his marriage with Malini as much as she could even at the cost of her own pain and heartbreak.
Consent is not a STATIC thing....it changes with time and circumstances. In the beginning, Adi didn't feel consent in his marriage to Imlie so he didn't accept it....but over time he realized that he was indeed in love with her and that is when consent came into the equation....it was now his choice out of free will....the marriage now had his consent and that is when it gained validity in his eyes which it didn't have before. Imlie respected his consent in either circumstances.....again, there was never any FORCE involved from either side to make anyone accept something without their consent. And that is why this relationship blossomed MUTUALLY and grew into the deep bond it now is.
Meanwhile, in the case of Malini, we are seeing that she never really understood the concept of consent. Her entire relationship with Adi has been based on guilt trips....she has COERCED consent from Adi for a long time so she was not able to understand why she lost it after a point. No doubt, at one point Adi was with Malini out of his consent....and again, that is fine cuz there was no forcing involved (it's open to debate if general coercion can count as some kind of forcing) but on a general level, the time he spent with Malini was willingly out of his consent.....but that was THEN, not now. As I said, consent is not STATIC.....it changes based on a person's will. Adi may have consented to be with Malini at that point in time when he hadn't understood what love really is....but once he did understand that he loves only Imlie, from that point on, Malini did NOT have ANY consent from Adi anymore. He made it clear that his consent and his choice is only for Imlie. So after that, for Malini to now FORCE consent from him is WRONG, period. You cannot force consent out of someone NOW just cuz you may have once had it in the PAST. A human being has free will that they can exert at any point of time as they see fit.....they are not objects that you can press a button and demand the reaction you want. That is what Malini doesn't seem to get.
Anyways, I don't know how clearly the writers will explain this in the coming days but for those who saw the signs all along, the matter of consent is clear. A marriage cannot exist without mutual consent. Adi previously gave that consent to be married to Malini but that does not mean that consent can never change. It has changed now with Adi realizing what he really wants in his life so his consent is now fully ONLY for Imlie and no one else. Forcing consent from him is a violation of him as a human being, period. That is why Malini is only coming up empty no matter what claim she is using to force consent from Adi or just forcing herself on him in anyway.
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