Originally posted by: gayatherry88
It's not about changing yourself it's about accepting spouse views. Raghav is self made person, he worked both hard and smart work to build this empire so he is pride about it. What he said is absolutely right both are different persons and both are thinking is different.thats the marriage is also two different persons comes together with common ground on each and every Matter of the family. He can still runs his business own away but he shouldn't keep his wife on dark when there is possibility of harm which may occur to him and family also.. pallavi is also board minded person and she always given the chance to see him on different light so he should always think about it. She is different from him it's doesn't meant she should comes across about him from third person when she is always there for him to hear each and every thing. As of now he handled everything but right now he is family man so it's his responsibility to let her know everything. Share space should always be there to have a open discussion without lying and hiding then it's about each other whether to take it or not. Always hiding or running away won't help anyone. Same way pallavi also should understand him instead try to change him.
I totally agree, but I have some points to highlight. Pallavi is broad-minded, considerate, kind. empathetic but she will not support him in his illegal liaisons. What he does is clearly against the laws. Sure, Raghav is a self-made person and the pride which he has about his empire would be what any successful entrepreneur would have. But, he has learned money is power the hard way around. He will not be able to bear being poor because he has already been there. For Raghav, money is his weapon, dignity, obsession, everything. Before he did not care about anyone except his Amma and Sister, aur ab faraq itna hai ki ab Pallavi saari cheezon mein se sabse zyada maine rakhti hai uski zindagi mein.
Your point is absolutely correct, Pallavi was the first person to see the inherent goodness that was in Raghav par iska yeh matlab nahi she will support him in illegal methods. The previous time, that is, during Krishna Rao affair, he was genuinely not fully at fault atleast not to the extent they claimed he was. She could connect with him because she lied to her family too, about the shop running in profit. He tried to help his family but it backfired. Krishna Rao was shady and Raghav made the mistake of trusting him. But ab baat woh nahi hai. The way he runs his business is illegal. She is moral, ethical. And both are stubborn. They won't easily compromise with their ideologies because of their past and that's how they are made.
Yes, Raghav is a family man and he should be honest with his wife and not keep her in the dark. But how can he, knowing Pallavi will not accept his choice of work even for 1 minute. Yeah. he should not keep her in the dark, but do you really think Pallavi will accept his POV?
He will try all the tricks in the world to keep her unawares. I agree he will her lose her trust one day if he keeps us with it. Woh koyi mahaan kaam nahi kar raha hai, that he will announce to the whole world, what he does. By all means, he will try to be discreet.
The only point of contemplation is will Pallavi be able to change/reform his ways. It is not like he can continue to do illegal works and Pallavi will support him. She won't do that, and if she does, they are butchering her character.
@bold: That is the crux of the issue.
@italics: Gayu, the problem is yeh koyi chot moti baat nahi hai. Accepting a spouse's views comes in when the topic is harmless or at least legal. How will Pallavi accept her spouse's views that carrying a gun, and having multiple around your house is legal, bribing the police is okay, smuggling diamonds is okay, tax evasion is acceptable?