Originally posted by: NotAMuggle
I don't get it you know. It looks like he does want to prioritise her sometimes, but only on his terms. Like romancing her is a priority for him.
But understanding her, legit talking to her & discussing stuffs like equal partners....not so much. It's not like he doesn't want to do that. It's like he doesn't even know he should be doing that.
Again, when she is upset, he tries to make it up to her with extravagant gestures... like the Asha school, previously Suhana maternity ward etc....but all these come AFTER she is visibly upset. No efforts to genuinely appreciate her, make her feel valued in normal times.
It's almost as if he doesn't know how to treat/behave with his wedded wife, his life partner rightly. Even after 10 years of marriage, he still seems to be stuck at the dating phase. Excited with the possibilities of romance like a boyfriend, but not mature or understanding enough to be a caring husband. He behaves like he is dating her, not like he married her.
I don't understand if it's just clumsy writing or Dev is actually supposed to be like that. Even if the writers are deliberately presenting him like that, I will still call it a bad writing. It made sense when he first behaved like that (pre-leap) owing to Ishwari's bringing up or his inexperience in the relationship department. But now, 10 years after marriage, of which 7 years was a separation phase due to this very approach, still the same approach makes him look like he is just stubbornly refusing to grow up.🤓
I consider S3 Dev to be poor writing. Writing a character whose skin you haven't gotten into, that's what this is. The writers haven't quite understood Dev inside out.
See, Dev ignoring Sona is not in his blood at all. He could be angry, loving, hateful, irritated, or passionate.. but ignore her? No way. But still, the season started with Dev saying idiotic things like, which husband will pay attention to his wife after years? See right there? Poor writing...because you know, which husband will pay attention after 50 years also? Dev will. It's just who he is. Sona is his obsession.
This season the writers are making the characters switch per episode. One episode, Dev is horrible, next episode, he has made up for everything. Then third episode, he does something horrible again, then the episode after, all good again. This isn't how a character should be written.
Also, the writers don't seem to have a lot of clue about the dynamics Dev shared with everyone else. If Asha was in the hospital, I simply don't see how Dev would think, "oh Asha Ma is sick and in the hospital, but I need to go to my seminar." Sorry, not Dev. If she hadn't been hospitalized yet and he had gone, and she got worse and was admitted later, that I can understand. But it's like the writers didn't know the bond Dev shared with Asha.
As for eating Sona's food, he should have eaten what she had made, but I feel the writers have manufactured a situation where he eats Sanjana's lunch. Otherwise Dev does like what Sona makes.. after the pills OD, she had made him soup, saying it was just the way he loved. He ate that. So obviously he has no issue with her cooking. This lunch in the office was just to increase Sanjana's interest in him.