Originally posted by: asmaanixx
Their childhood animosity doesn't even make sense. It was always Shiva bullying Raavi because of her relation to Maami that too in agressive ways. Raavi never initiated an attack on him in the same manner.
But given the circumstance that they got married in, that dynamic had to change. Shiva's anger should have been with Dev while for Raavi it should have been an immense concern due to her suicide attempt. Raavi lashing out on Shiva would still make sense since it's for her to be mad at him than anyone else in the family because of respect and whatnot. Shiva, while he would be irked, he would still understand where she's coming from and should have helped her to move on from her trauma. It would be tough for him to open up and make himself vulnerable since he's not used to it, but he could still put in the effort to help Raavi.
Raavi didn't need violence, screaming and shout, or guilt-tripping behavior. What she needed was a safe space that gave her comfort, love, strength and support so that she could heal.
Yes, exactly. Shiva may have the right intentions but he loses his calm, oh so easily that it's futile. The dynamic post that could have actually been the two of them understanding each other? Because come to think of it, only he was aware of how much of her infatuation with Dev ran and his insecurity track could have been handled better too. Plus, Shiva is definitely protective of her and she is too given the childhood stories. The childhood animosity doesn't make sense but it's hard to erase history, so his nature was always to attack and she retaliated. To me, they are opposites in a lot of ways? Like he doesn't say a lot, and she speaks a lot and wish they added the childhood more because they definitely should understand each other more than others.
It's like you said, there was never really animosity and their lives revolved around each other, so post marriage it's like, now what? It seems like she was the only person he had around apart from the family. So they could have definitely made so many changes post marriage but they are incapable so :O