Pandya Store|Episode Discussion #87|Hotstar and its Kaands - Page 40

Originally posted by: milkcakejamun

Lol, I tried it and I can't even find the domain in the US 🤣

this is exactly what I was talking about 🤣

Originally posted by: sunsaathiyaa

this is exactly what I was talking about 🤣

Interesting....I've tried it with vpn and it's only a few times when it's crashed

Originally posted by: Shadow_kira

Interesting....I've tried it with vpn and it's only a few times when it's crashed

yep, that's true ❤️

Originally posted by: Shadow_kira

Interesting....I've tried it with vpn and it's only a few times when it's crashed

Lol, never mind, got it to work 🤣 I somehow misspelled the name

Originally posted by: ItsmePriya

Is the precap Suman mummy's dream🤣

How is Dev feeding food to Rishtha after his high pitch yelling🤪🤪

Omg, that's a TURUuuu louuuuu

Originally posted by: Transference

Hi ML. 🤗

First of all, take a big hug! I talk from a space of complete love, empathy and dignity,; hun I love you, you know that and lots of strength to you 🤗

I agree with all the points that you make here. I am operating from a space of personal experiences. I have been a sole caregiver and have maintained the household from class 7th onwards for my Ma and my grandfather later. Unfortunately, he passed away just 4 days before my wedding. So, we had a wedding and a funeral simultaneously. But, that's another story.

My Ma’s disability started slowly and then finally bedridden when I was in 12th. I have burnt my fingers, and trust me; Adult diapers are for emergencies only.

My Ma, despite being mobile again, can't walk fast and wears it whenever she is alone in the house or going out to the markets.

The point I am making here if destigmatising the usage of medical support or care. I carry oxygen Cans with me and invite curious eyes everytime.

I do not deny Rishita’s wrongdoings. But, she was guilty, and she was fervently apologising till a point when she got frustrated too.

Many people aren't cut out for patient care. My sister is a live example. She was petite and could barely help Ma physically; neither she could bear the stench of urine etc. Does that make her a bad daughter, and I would have ended up lashing at her?

The best possible situation would have been to comfort her and tell her it's okay, Rishita, but sometimes you have to be more careful. I don't particularly like Dhara, but I felt she deserves peace and house help, and so does Rishita need not be bummed for a mistake she did.

No, right? It's okay not to know things and yet be dealt with caution and not hurled with accusations.

I agree Rishita has her la la land, but she can't be hung for that.

I forget to keep the food in the fridge all the time, but I can't be killed for that.

Anyway, 🤗I tagree with all your points, hun. Much love to you again 🤗

I hope 🙏 everything becomes better for you! More courage, strength and love.

Thank you🤗 I am actually back to normal now. It was a one time episode, and now when I feel like I may get such episode, I do the Epley maneuver and Epleyit helps! But those few hours left me in a completely different state.

No offense taken and appreciate the other perspective. Here's my attempt at distinguishing how your situation is probably different from this. I don't mean to demean/disrespect your personal experience at all.

I agree with your point on distigmatising adult diapers. And can understand it for your mom's situation. Also, glad to know she's doing better. Lot sof respect to you for that. My mom and brother took care of my paternal grandmother in her last stage as they were the only ones on India my Maasi's took care of my Nani. It is very taxing. They barely had time to sleep and take care of themselves with how much care and attention is required. Adult diapers were the way to go as they were bed ridden. I am not against it at all. I am just saying that as someone who was mentally normal and could sit using rails and help, I just wasn't comfortable using bed pan and let alone adult diapers. Since Suman can do that, it shouldn't be too much of an issue. It seemed like she needed help opening the bathroom door (which Rishita can do) and wheel her and help her sit on the toilet. Rishita could go out of the bathroom until Suman wanted to wash her hands.

In regards to why I can't support Rishita today is because I couldn't relate/understand.

• Your sister wouldn't take 💯 responsibility or would voice her concerns around her limitations if she were to be in charge, so you'd be prepared with alternative means. Rishita didn't do that. Sure she has her defense of not knowing. But it is her mistake of being in la la land to not know what care a handicap person in her family requires. And her being defensive about it rubbed me the wrong way. I was fine with her and supported her intil that scene.
  
• It's okay to forget to put food in the fridge. But her expression was of utter shock like she'd never heard of such thing. Knowing her defensive streak today, if she forgot to put the food up, I'm sure she would have voiced it. It's one thing to forget it and another to not know basic things. But that's a minor issue.
• I felt she knew her fault and I was on her side until she came into the Kitchen. She should have just let the situation be and let it simmer down. But instead she started that conversation on her own by going to the kitchen and became all defensive. She could have waited to present her case if Gaumbi said something to her. And her claiming that's she's not to be blamed and shifting her guilt on Dhara wasn't done. She was at fault, unknowingly, and she was sorry. She should have accepted it and moved on with lesson learned.
  

Apologies if I have offended you in anyway. That wasn't the intention.Lots of love!🤗

Originally posted by: milkcakejamun

Lol, never mind, got it to work 🤣 I somehow misspelled the name

Great!! I had another suggestion ready too 😆 was just checking if it still worked 😆

Just asking!!!. Can they have the door lock for the bathroom door in the middle instead of it being at the very top? Will somebody in the house think about it now?

I still have lot of my subscription money left with Hotstar, they are not going to give it back and I am already paying a subscription for Hulu, which is now going to upload the episodes a day later after it airs in India. This sucks!😕

Disney, I knew was always greedy but didn’t expect them to do this with desi content😕