Barrister Babau Episode Discussion Thread - Page 45

Originally posted by: Arcturus_S

When we discuss about attraction, we have to think about the era of the show too. It was hundred years back and then such marriages between a 12 year and 22 year old were considered perfectly ok, like the present day 18 and 21 years. Even reformers like Tagore did the same. He was 22 and his wife 12, when they got married and their first child was born when his wife was just 13. This was the prevailing social and cultural scenario of the historical setting of BB. Even the Child Marriage Restraint Act in 1929 made the marriagable age of girls just 14, an age which will come under present day POCSO Act. We cannot judge the characters completely based on the present day moral scale. When it is a period drama, we have to consider the historical era too while analyzing a character.

Anirudh is way ahead of his times. He had every opportunity to act upon his impulses but he chose another way. Instead of binding Bon to him, he had decided to set her free which was a great step at that time. He had openly told this to Bon that he had annulled their marriage not because he wanted freedom from her or their relation but because he wanted Bon to be absolutely free from all the social bindings and expectations.

I believe shipping actors and shipping characters are entirely different. Viewers have absolute freedom to say whatever they want about the characters but not about the actors. I consider Anirudh and Bondita separate from Pravisht, Aurra and Anchal .

Just putting down my views ; didn't mean to offend anyone

Ye saari cheezein isliye hi ruki kyuki they were wrong.... laws were made.....if we justify it sitting here....i pitty the reformers who fought for the change.

N us tym to bigamy bhi hoti thi to why was everyone pissed at Ani for marrying Mano....agr child marriage hota tha it was common ..ye hota tha...wo hota tha ...to Mano track se kyu problem h sbko?Wo bhi to hota tha na?

Originally posted by: Arcturus_S

When we discuss about attraction, we have to think about the era of the show too. It was hundred years back and then such marriages between a 12 year and 22 year old were considered perfectly ok, like the present day 18 and 21 years. Even reformers like Tagore did the same. He was 22 and his wife 12, when they got married and their first child was born when his wife was just 13. This was the prevailing social and cultural scenario of the historical setting of BB. Even the Child Marriage Restraint Act in 1929 made the marriagable age of girls just 14, an age which will come under present day POCSO Act. We cannot judge the characters completely based on the present day moral scale. When it is a period drama, we have to consider the historical era too while analyzing a character.

Anirudh is way ahead of his times. He had every opportunity to act upon his impulses but he chose another way. Instead of binding Bon to him, he had decided to set her free which was a great step at that time. He had openly told this to Bon that he had annulled their marriage not because he wanted freedom from her or their relation but because he wanted Bon to be absolutely free from all the social bindings and expectations.

I believe shipping actors and shipping characters are entirely different. Viewers have absolute freedom to say whatever they want about the characters but not about the actors. I consider Anirudh and Bondita separate from Pravisht, Aurra and Anchal .

Just putting down my views ; didn't mean to offend anyone

Okay, I wasn't going to say anything but I do find this kind of thought process to be wrong in regards to judging the difference in fiction and reality.

Hundred years back even if this was considered normal, it is not. The reason why all these kinds of child marriages were banned was because it is not normal. It shouldn't have been accepted then, it shouldn't be accepted even now in the form of fiction. Saying that because many people back then did it so it's normal for Ani to feel this way is wrong, that goes against the entire point of why Anirudh wanted to break this marriage, why he stood against CM. Uska moral compass yehi tha ke this entire thing happening to a child is wrong, forcing this child to be a woman at this age is wrong, viewing this child as a adult woman is wrong and he would never support it.

So far, whatever has been said here the basic idea that you are trying to put across is Ani was physically attracted or romantically, however you want to put it but he never acted on it due to the fact that he is morally correct man and he wants her consent and puts her free will above all else. When you view Anirudh as this man who can be physically attracted to a child, that's when you put a question mark on his character, on his morals, on his world views.

The entire SR track showed how traumatized he was by this idea.

Shipping actors and characters are completely different but the ideology that it's fine if they show in this fictional set up that there is this tension between a child and an adult but in real life if this happens, it's wrong. She is a 12 year old child. That's just a very weird mindset to have. It's wrong if they show it in fiction, it's wrong if they show it in reality too. It was wrong 100 years ago, it's wrong even now.
Anirudh kare ya koi bhi kare, kitna bhi ache se dikhaye. Galat hain for a man to be attracted physically to this child.

Originally posted by: Chumu

Hmm par bondita toh anirudh sea teenage crush tha kyo ?apki baat bhi sahi hea but agar Sochiaagar batuk bondita sea attracted hota toh vo obviously galat na hota par anirudh ka usse attracted galat toh hea par jo bhi hea anirudh bondita soul mates hea

Soul mates hain, pyaar hain, wo sab hai inke beech. He saw her as the ideal partner due to her thoughts, her personality, her nature, the soul that she is. He wanted to push her to achieve that heights he knew she could. That is not wrong but trying to find physical or romantic attraction that you see between a man and a woman in their scenes preleap is wrong.

Mujhe bahut dikkat hua tha preleap isse hi... I did not like those scenes at all because it implies the wrong message. The man Anirudh is, the kind of devta manush they have made him to be, it isn't right for him to have been attracted to her in that. Even if biology, history, chemistry sab usko explain kar bhi de.. it is still wrong. Anirudh's moral compass is the STRONGEST that I have ever seen in fiction and in real life, he would not even entertain such a thought in regards to Bondita, if you are saying he did then that really puts a question mark on his morals.

Only difference is that he has the sense not to act upon the wrong. But that's not the case, Anirudh ke dimag me aaj tak nahi aya kuch bhi galat karne ko.

Originally posted by: Unnatiiii_17

Means having a mentality of a criminal is correct but being a criminal is wrong?I would never support a woman to be in a relationship with a man who has mentality of getting attracted to a kid...how u find it morally correct i'm unable to understand....why a man with morals even look at a kid like that...?

I absolutely i can never agree with someone who is okay with a man being physically attracted to a kid..No questions asked👍🏼

See Piyu.... Morals are different from hormones. Always.

Hormones, feelings and emotions cannot be controlled. Who we are attracted to is a matter of hormones. Would you say a lesbian is wrong for being a lesbian?

Morals are controllable and dictate your choices. Ani knows that it is morally wrong to pursue a relationship with a child. So he didn't do it. CC morally thought it okay, so he agreed to marry Bon.

A kleptomaniac isn't wrong until he steals. A criminal only becomes a criminal when he commits a crime.

Ani is only wrong if he acts on his desires. That he didn't is what sets him apart.

Originally posted by: .Rinnie.

Soul mates hain, pyaar hain, wo sab hai inke beech. He saw her as the ideal partner due to her thoughts, her personality, her nature, the soul that she is. He wanted to push her to achieve that heights he knew she could. That is not wrong but trying to find physical or romantic attraction that you see between a man and a woman in their scenes preleap is wrong.

Mujhe bahut dikkat hua tha preleap isse hi... I did not like those scenes at all because it implies the wrong message. The man Anirudh is, the kind of devta manush they have made him to be, it isn't right for him to have been attracted to her in that. Even if biology, history, chemistry sab usko explain kar bhi de.. it is still wrong. Anirudh's moral compass is the STRONGEST that I have ever seen in fiction and in real life, he would not even entertain such a thought in regards to Bondita, if you are saying he did then that really puts a question mark on his morals.

Only difference is that he has the sense not to act upon the wrong. But that's not the case, Anirudh ke dimag me aaj tak nahi aya kuch bhi galat karne ko.

Originally posted by: .Rinnie.

Soul mates hain, pyaar hain, wo sab hai inke beech. He saw her as the ideal partner due to her thoughts, her personality, her nature, the soul that she is. He wanted to push her to achieve that heights he knew she could. That is not wrong but trying to find physical or romantic attraction that you see between a man and a woman in their scenes preleap is wrong.

Mujhe bahut dikkat hua tha preleap isse hi... I did not like those scenes at all because it implies the wrong message. The man Anirudh is, the kind of devta manush they have made him to be, it isn't right for him to have been attracted to her in that. Even if biology, history, chemistry sab usko explain kar bhi de.. it is still wrong. Anirudh's moral compass is the STRONGEST that I have ever seen in fiction and in real life, he would not even entertain such a thought in regards to Bondita, if you are saying he did then that really puts a question mark on his morals.

Only difference is that he has the sense not to act upon the wrong. But that's not the case, Anirudh ke dimag me aaj tak nahi aya kuch bhi galat karne ko.

I don't doubt he saw her as his future partner possibly, but I don't think his feelings as such were motivated by physical attraction but rather because of shared values and ideals that they had.

The only reason they were much more comfortable after marriage annulment and were freely hugging and stuff was because the thought of "pati-patni" rishta wasn't there and so ani felt more at ease about being around bon.

We saw ani's changing feelings only after the leap when he remembered adult bondita and how her physical Aproximity affected him. He wasn't imagining choti bon in those scenes except for the cute recall scenes which had nothing to do with romance or physical attraction.

Originally posted by: Ashley_m

See Piyu.... Morals are different from hormones. Always.

Hormones, feelings and emotions cannot be controlled. Who we are attracted to is a matter of hormones. Would you say a lesbian is wrong for being a lesbian?

Morals are controllable and dictate your choices. Ani knows that it is morally wrong to pursue a relationship with a child. So he didn't do it. CC morally thought it okay, so he agreed to marry Bon.

A kleptomaniac isn't wrong until he steals. A criminal only becomes a criminal when he commits a crime.

Ani is only wrong if he acts on his desires. That he didn't is what sets him apart.

Originally posted by: Unnatiiii_17

Wahi naa agr aisa kuch hota jb usko wo ladoo khilaya tha tb na krta wo kuch.....wo socha bhi ni h aaj tk Bon ke baarein mein aisa kuch....even post leap he has not initiated any kind of physical intimacy with her...uska aise character question krna ....pains me😞

I understand. Even thinking about it is wrong for someone like Anirudh, Uske morals, uske thoughts, uske actions, har ek cheez me this guy has shown purity and such honesty. They have created this man, not according to normal human standards 😆

Honestly, they have not. Main Bon ko bhi ek hadh tak normal samjh sakti hoon but Anirudh isn't normal, he is like 1930s incarnation of Lord Ram with his every action and behavior. I'm not simply hyping him up this way, if you have seen the show from the start then you know ke it is not humanly possible for a man or even a woman to be the way Anirudh is, he is too good even for fictional standards.

Originally posted by: .Rinnie.

I understand. Even thinking about it is wrong for someone like Anirudh, Uske morals, uske thoughts, uske actions, har ek cheez me this guy has shown purity and such honesty. They have created this man, not according to normal human standards 😆

Honestly, they have not. Main Bon ko bhi ek hadh tak normal samjh sakti hoon but Anirudh isn't normal, he is like 1930s incarnation of Lord Ram with his every action and behavior. I'm not simply hyping him up this way, if you have seen the show from the start then you know ke it is not humanly possible for a man or even a woman to be the way Anirudh is, he is too good even for fictional standards.

Originally posted by: Unnatiiii_17

Sorry I'm unable to agree with all this....being sexually attracted to any female ,male whatever who is not a kid is completely okay for me👍🏼i won't ever judge that...or whatever they do or think....but being attracted to a kid creeps me out..I can't say a man is not wrong if he thinks like that....n Ani it was never there he was never romantically interested in her pre leap....he hasn't seen her that way... even post leap he has not initiated any physical intimacy with her...he still treats her like a kiddo....it was very much evident in yesterday's episode and precap....I don't know why you are trying to find a romantic angle pre leap

No I don't think post leap he treats her like a kid he is attracted towards her definitely post leap and think of her as his woman already otherwise he won't try to seduce her but regarding him treating her as a kid in yesterday episode I don't think so it was just their typical rasogulla thing which is obisoly won't go away as this is their memory of their happy moments