Barrister Babau Episode Discussion Thread - Page 44

Originally posted by: Ashley_m

First thing, CC did not intend to wait for Bon to grow up. If Bon had not run away, CC would have gotten his SR with a 12 year old. Ani on the other hand was not just waiting for Bon to 'grow up'. That would be grooming. He simply freed her to make her own choice, while knowing that for Ani there would be no one else. Sending her away and the no-contact clause was part of the whole thing. He wanted to put some distance so that Bon's eventual choice was not clouded. And most importantly, her choice would be accepted.

Second, as a biology graduate I will tell you, attraction is never a choice. What you choose to do about that attraction is a choice and tells you what kind of person you are. Thakur, CC, and Ani all found a 12 year old attractive on the hormonal level. But the way they behaved was different. Thakur chose to act on his lust and molest her. CC chose to marry her and gain his husbandly rights. But Ani, who actually could have acted on those emotions and no one would have objected, chose to not pursue any kind of romantic relationship with Bon until she grew up and chose him.

Because while attraction is not wrong, acting on it would be wrong.

This is just my opinion, so if yours is different, we can agree to disagree.

Originally posted by: Smiley.6

Ginni...🤗🤗

Sab Log Manaye shok

Kahein Ye Jog Hai Mere

Mann Ka Koi Rog

Par yeh toh mera pyaar hai...Mere Pravi ke liye...😆

Kya baat hai Mishrain...🤗🤗

Tera khel khatam.....doctor ki jarurat hai tujhe...

Originally posted by: .Rinnie.

Prabhu ki leela aprampaar!

I love you too Ginni! 🤗🤗

Haan sab Prabhu ki maya hai kabhi dhoop to kabhi Chaya hai...

❤️

Originally posted by: Unnatiiii_17

Attraction is never a choice😆this is the argument you wanna give ...seriously....it's not about attraction it's about a man getting attracted to a kid...how on earth do u justify it....just by saying he didn't act on it.....i am not a biology student ...but i know this getting attracted to a kid is gross and sick....it is pedophilia that's what we call it when a grown man are interested in a kid...i don't know what kind of man u think Anirudh to be...u were the one who protested that day about shipping AnVisht and today u r outright supporting a 22 yr old man falling for a 12 yr old...i don't know what to say....it might be okay for uh that a man has feelings for a kid...i'm sorry i can't justify it will the statement that attraction is not a choice...it is like supported all the men who are interested in kids

Okay again coming from a Biology perspective. Pedophilia is a disease when you Routinely get sexually attracted to a kid. This is a disease that needs treatment. When I protested shipping AnVisht I simply said openly shipping them would affect them in a wrong way. Pravisht liking Anchal is not wrong, him being in a relationship when she is underage would be wrong.

And yes who you are attracted to is never a choice, it is a chemical reaction on the molecular level. All the LGBTQA+ labels are all dependent on these reactions. However actions are always a choice, because your conscious brain gets involved. All the men who are interested in kids are wrong because they choose to act on their desires. Had Anirudh chose to pursue a relationship with a 12 year old when he was 22, it would be wrong and I would never support that.

Child molesters and predators are also wrong, not because they are attracted, but because they act on this attraction.

Still, we can agree to disagree, just putting some facts on the table.

Originally posted by: Unnatiiii_17

Attraction is never a choice😆this is the argument you wanna give ...seriously....it's not about attraction it's about a man getting attracted to a kid...how on earth do u justify it....just by saying he didn't act on it.....i am not a biology student ...but i know this getting attracted to a kid is gross and sick....it is pedophilia that's what we call it when a grown man are interested in a kid...i don't know what kind of man u think Anirudh to be...u were the one who protested that day about shipping AnVisht and today u r outright supporting a 22 yr old man getting physically attracted to a 12 yr old...i don't know what to say....it might be okay for uh that a man has feelings for a kid...i'm sorry i can't justify it will the statement that attraction is not a choice...it is like supported all the men who are interested in kids

Yeah bhi sahi bola apnea 🤣 anirudh ko samjhna thoda mushkil hea but obviously I don't think ki usko kuch attraction nahi tha thoda sa tho hoga hi par bhir vo bad gaya as bondita grow up vo elbow brush , talwarvaazi, and all yaaad karta tha koi feelings kea barrre mea pochta toh aur uska vo letter " bondita yeah dushmani hamme ek nahi honne degi " 😂 matlab kya ? Aur phir kaka ka kehna ki hamme ehsaas tha ki anirudh bondita sea pyaar karta hea 🙄 this all is so weird seriously but I personally think ki uski attraction towards bondita vesssi men women nahi thi vo vas yahi tak thi ki bondita mea saari qualities thi jo usse apni wife mea chaiya tha phir bondita baadi ho gai phir vo attracted hona challo ho gaya usse as men women type I also think vo vaijanti sea abhi attracted tha unknowingly par usko uskea sath comfortable lagta tha aur vo usse bondita ki yaad bhi dililati thi par usko pata nahi kyo guilt tha ki vo bondita ko cheat kar raha hea shaadi kar It was like usko bondita chaiyea par kyo chaiyea uska koi jawab nahi uskea pass usko bhi pata tha ki uskea aur bondita ka relationship student teacher ya guardian responsibility sea Kab ka aagea bad gaya hea bass he was always confused regarding it

Originally posted by: Unnatiiii_17

Attraction is never a choice😆this is the argument you wanna give ...seriously....it's not about attraction it's about a man getting attracted to a kid...how on earth do u justify it....just by saying he didn't act on it.....i am not a biology student ...but i know this getting attracted to a kid is gross and sick....it is pedophilia that's what we call it when a grown man are interested in a kid...i don't know what kind of man u think Anirudh to be...u were the one who protested that day about shipping AnVisht and today u r outright supporting a 22 yr old man getting physically attracted to a 12 yr old...i don't know what to say....it might be okay for uh that a man has feelings for a kid...i'm sorry i can't justify it will the statement that attraction is not a choice...it is like supported all the men who are interested in kids

Yeah bhi sahi bola apnea 🤣 anirudh ko samjhna thoda mushkil hea but obviously I don't think ki usko kuch attraction nahi tha thoda sa tho hoga hi par bhir vo bad gaya as bondita grow up vo elbow brush , talwarvaazi, and all yaaad karta tha koi feelings kea barrre mea pochta toh aur uska vo letter " bondita yeah dushmani hamme ek nahi honne degi " 😂 matlab kya ? Aur phir kaka ka kehna ki hamme ehsaas tha ki anirudh bondita sea pyaar karta hea 🙄 this all is so weird seriously but I personally think ki uski attraction towards bondita vesssi men women nahi thi vo vas yahi tak thi ki bondita mea saari qualities thi jo usse apni wife mea chaiya tha phir bondita baadi ho gai phir vo attracted hona challo ho gaya usse as men women type I also think vo vaijanti sea abhi attracted tha unknowingly par usko uskea sath comfortable lagta tha aur vo usse bondita ki yaad bhi dililati thi par usko pata nahi kyo guilt tha ki vo bondita ko cheat kar raha hea shaadi kar It was like usko bondita chaiyea par kyo chaiyea uska koi jawab nahi uskea pass usko bhi pata tha ki uskea aur bondita ka relationship student teacher ya guardian responsibility sea Kab ka aagea bad gaya hea bass he was always confused regarding it

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Originally posted by: Ashley_m

Okay again coming from a Biology perspective. Pedophilia is a disease when you Routinely get sexually attracted to a kid. This is a disease that needs treatment. When I protested shipping AnVisht I simply said openly shipping them would affect them in a wrong way. Pravisht liking Anchal is not wrong, him being in a relationship when she is underage would be wrong.

And yes who you are attracted to is never a choice, it is a chemical reaction on the molecular level. All the LGBTQA+ labels are all dependent on these reactions. However actions are always a choice, because your conscious brain gets involved. All the men who are interested in kids are wrong because they choose to act on their desires. Had Anirudh chose to pursue a relationship with a 12 year old when he was 22, it would be wrong and I would never support that.

Child molesters and predators are also wrong, not because they are attracted, but because they act on this attraction.

Still, we can agree to disagree, just putting some facts on the table.

I absolutely i can never agree with someone who is okay with a man being physically attracted to a kid..No questions asked👍🏼

Originally posted by: Chumu

Yeah bhi sahi bola apnea 🤣 anirudh ko samjhna thoda mushkil hea but obviously I don't think ki usko kuch attraction nahi tha thoda sa tho hoga hi par bhir vo bad gaya as bondita grow up vo elbow brush , talwarvaazi, and all yaaad karta tha koi feelings kea barrre mea pochta toh aur uska vo letter " bondita yeah dushmani hamme ek nahi honne degi " 😂 matlab kya ? Aur phir kaka ka kehna ki hamme ehsaas tha ki anirudh bondita sea pyaar karta hea 🙄 this all is so weird seriously but I personally think ki uski attraction towards bondita vesssi men women nahi thi vo vas yahi tak thi ki bondita mea saari qualities thi jo usse apni wife mea chaiya tha phir bondita baadi ho gai phir vo attracted hona challo ho gaya usse as men women type I also think vo vaijanti sea abhi attracted tha unknowingly par usko uskea sath comfortable lagta tha aur vo usse bondita ki yaad bhi dililati thi par usko pata nahi kyo guilt tha ki vo bondita ko cheat kar raha hea shaadi kar It was like usko bondita chaiyea par kyo chaiyea uska koi jawab nahi uskea pass usko bhi pata tha ki uskea aur bondita ka relationship student teacher ya guardian responsibility sea Kab ka aagea bad gaya hea bass he was always confused regarding it

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Originally posted by: Unnatiiii_17

Attraction is never a choice😆this is the argument you wanna give ...seriously....it's not about attraction it's about a man getting attracted to a kid...how on earth do u justify it....just by saying he didn't act on it.....i am not a biology student ...but i know this getting attracted to a kid is gross and sick....it is pedophilia that's what we call it when a grown man are interested in a kid...i don't know what kind of man u think Anirudh to be...u were the one who protested that day about shipping AnVisht and today u r outright supporting a 22 yr old man getting physically attracted to a 12 yr old...i don't know what to say....it might be okay for uh that a man has feelings for a kid...i'm sorry i can't justify it will the statement that attraction is not a choice...it is like supported all the men who are interested in kids

When we discuss about attraction, we have to think about the era of the show too. It was hundred years back and then such marriages between a 12 year and 22 year old were considered perfectly ok, like the present day 18 and 21 years. Even reformers like Tagore did the same. He was 22 and his wife 12, when they got married and their first child was born when his wife was just 13. This was the prevailing social and cultural scenario of the historical setting of BB. Even the Child Marriage Restraint Act in 1929 made the marriagable age of girls just 14, an age which will come under present day POCSO Act. We cannot judge the characters completely based on the present day moral scale. When it is a period drama, we have to consider the historical era too while analyzing a character.

Anirudh is way ahead of his times. He had every opportunity to act upon his impulses but he chose another way. Instead of binding Bon to him, he had decided to set her free which was a great step at that time. He had openly told this to Bon that he had annulled their marriage not because he wanted freedom from her or their relation but because he wanted Bon to be absolutely free from all the social bindings and expectations.

I believe shipping actors and shipping characters are entirely different. Viewers have absolute freedom to say whatever they want about the characters but not about the actors. I consider Anirudh and Bondita separate from Pravisht, Aurra and Anchal .

Just putting down my views ; didn't mean to offend anyone

Originally posted by: Unnatiiii_17

Ye to point h hi ni mera ...if he was interested in a kid....he is wrong...there is no other side to this..that's it...Ani is dead to me if this is a fact

Hmm par bondita toh anirudh sea teenage crush tha kyo ?apki baat bhi sahi hea but agar Sochiaagar batuk bondita sea attracted hota toh vo obviously galat na hota par anirudh ka usse attracted galat toh hea par jo bhi hea anirudh bondita soul mates hea