Child marriage: The struggle of Anirudhha. - Page 2

Bon has always regarded Pati/Saka babu as hers and with age whatever feelings came it has also developed so with the respective age the feelings for him changed and now she is in love with him for her there is no other life then his what he wants she studied became a Barrister did what ever he wanted now a grown upBon feels adult love for her Saka Babu that is why she made Radha for her Krishna but will her life also be like Radha's have to see how the makers take it forward

Like your analytical thought on different issues

First of all Bondita is 21. Not a teenager. Secondly Barrister Babu is a period drama. It is set almost a 100 years before the current timeline. Even with all of the modernism in it.Things which may look odd now were prevalent back then,

If we all have watched the show post leap then we would know how Bondita denied her feelings for Aniruddh repeatedly naming it as only respect & adoration for him before she finally accepted. Why should her feelings be problematic?? She stated in the first episode itself that she was rescued from the clutches of child marriage. She knows how child marriage affects people. She is a barrister after all.

Now when it comes to Aniruddh, he did long for Bondita but as a friend & companion for the longest time. It was clear through the letters he wrote to her in the course of 8 years. It was during the court scene when they were burning Bondita's effigy & Aniruddh stopped it, he realised that Bondita meant so much more to him than just a responsibility. That the place she has in his life, he can give to no one.

About Aniruddh falling in love...Aniruddh fell in love with Bondita I think over the course of time he spent with adult Bondita through Vaijanti. He didn't fall in love with Vaijanti but he felt an undeniable connection to her not knowing that she is infact Bondita. I think when he finally came to know that Vaijanti is Bondita he started recognizing the bond & slowly his feelings started to manifest as love. He is still conflicted. Yes. But because of the enemity between them.

Aniruddh & Bondita love each other & I think there is nothing wrong with it. They both are adults & they can love each other.

Originally posted by: anir3434

Try to read more about the teenage mind as well as the concept of grooming. Also, you need a bit of experience with life to understand why this is problematic. The present track is not simply a love story between an adult Ani and adult Bon. This "adult Bon" is actually a teenager, well below the age of 25 (25 is the age when a human brain finally attains maturity) who is in love with a father/brother/teacher figure, way more older than her. While age difference is not a much big deal post 25---for eg., it is totally fine for a 30 year old and 40 year old to hook up, it is not like that in the present case. Anirudh's character is supposed to be a mature guy who should have a deep understanding of this and why a romantic relationship between them is problematic. That this "love" is actually grooming. Just think of a scenario where child-Bon was married to child-Batuk (Ani's younger bro) and not Ani. Ani would have shown exactly the same care and consideration and helped her exactly the same way as they have shown in the show, and yet, Bon wouldn't have ever considered Ani as a potential mate.

In a realistic scenario, a person like Ani will NEVER look at teenage Bon that way. Heck, even Bon wouldn't have looked at him that way once she matures. Her crush for Ani would have gradually waned away because he is essentially a parent figure. But even if they had to show a love story, it should have been slow and gradual. Such problematic troupes are excessively normalized by Indian shows and very well received by audience large because it is often wrapped up in soulful background music with handsome and pretty actors in high voltage drama.

33 yrs ki age or 2 saal ki shaadi mein life experience shayad hai mujhe 9 saal ka working experience bhi hai. Usse experience ke saath bol rahi ani was never parental towards bon. If any one is elder to u in age doesn't mean he can replace ur father or brother.

My own grandmother married at age of 14 today's she successful married life as till today she too say she learned a lot from my grandfather who use to work for railways.Real life ke baat karte hai , dilip Kumar saiyra bano has 22 yrs age gap b/w them , saiyra herself said dilip kumar taught her lot from him , kareena kapoor was an established actress when she married saif , infact kareena herself had wished saif on his first wedding with Amrita calling him uncle but today she is mother of his 2 kids .

Regarding teacher no where it is written a husband cant teach his wife or he can't be considered husband if he does so .

Lord shiv himself is guru to devi parvati who is his wife , he taught her how to manage her godly powers after marriage coz devi parvati was a devik ( human born with godly powers)so she took time to get used to those powers after marriage , she did faced problems while learning it .

I guess u forgot this serial is of 1930 not today's era , jis love ko aap problematic or teenage love keh rahe hai agar ani would had consummated with bon in preleap then today she would had children of age 6-7 yrs after post leap.

Anirudh bondita relationship is legal & normal according 1930 era it's not at all problematic.

Bon herself never saw Ani as her father or brother figure nor ani treated her like his daughter or sister.Ani would never spend that much time with batuk's wife , ani was not spending time with his own brothers from where would he take out time to spend in grooming batuk's wife . Is ani this free in his life or what right ani has in batuk's wife life, who is he to decide for her ? Bon case was different coz she was different she was his wife his responsibility .

Helping bon with bed wetting problem & pacifying her after molestation by making her sleep by singing Lori don't make ani father or brother figure to bon coz protect sirf father or brother nhi husband bhi karte hai.

In Indian marriage there is kanyadan in which girl is given to groom & his family after girl is husband's responsibility & groom do give some vows to girl amoung those whose he do promise to take her responsibility & protecting always her honour & supporting her also come . Ani from day one is fulfilling husband's duty even he started to create a distance from mini after his marriage to bon , so somewhere he respect his marriage thou initially he was hesitant. Not only ani even bon too had fulfill duties of a wife except d physical aspect . Husband wife relationship is not only of physical aspect it includes many things which made rudhita too close to each other without physical aspect.

Ani gave bon full freedom to choose her life partner from her will , he never forced her to come back to him infact he dint contacted her in 8 yrs , bon would had chosen a life partner but she dint felt to choose coz d qualities she wanted in her life partner was already present in ani .

Both r adults so it's not problematic at all . Ani & bon cant marry other person coz they r 2 deeply invested in each other , then why to waste other person life when u can't give d person that love he or she deserve , that's d reason ani said to no to vj urf bon coz he can't give bon place to anyone in his life so he can't do injustice with any other girl . Bon initially dint termed her feelings as love till little bon made her realise it so it's not some teenage crush of bon which come from childhood grooming.

I m sorry if I sounding rude but we can agree to disagree.

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

33 yrs ki age or 2 saal ki shaadi mein life experience shayad hai mujhe 9 saal ka working experience bhi hai. Usse experience ke saath bol rahi ani was never parental towards bon. If any one is elder to u in age doesn't mean he can replace ur father or brother.

My own grandmother married at age of 14 today's she successful married life as till today she too say she learned a lot from my grandfather who use to work for railways.Real life ke baat karte hai , dilip Kumar saiyra bano has 22 yrs age gap b/w them , saiyra herself said dilip kumar taught her lot from him , kareena kapoor was an established actress when she married saif , infact kareena herself had wished saif on his first wedding with Amrita calling him uncle but today she is mother of his 2 kids .

Regarding teacher no where it is written a husband cant teach his wife or he can't be considered husband if he does so .

Lord shiv himself is guru to devi parvati who is his wife , he taught her how to manage her godly powers after marriage coz devi parvati was a devik ( human born with godly powers)so she took time to get used to those powers after marriage , she did faced problems while learning it .

I guess u forgot this serial is of 1930 not today's era , jis love ko aap problematic or teenage love keh rahe hai agar ani would had consummated with bon in preleap then today she would had children of age 6-7 yrs after post leap.

Anirudh bondita relationship is legal & normal according 1930 era it's not at all problematic.

Bon herself never saw Ani as her father or brother figure nor ani treated her like his daughter or sister.Ani would never spend that much time with batuk's wife , ani was not spending time with his own brothers from where would he take out time to spend in grooming batuk's wife . Is ani this free in his life or what right ani has in batuk's wife life, who is he to decide for her ? Bon case was different coz she was different she was his wife his responsibility .

Helping bon with bed wetting problem & pacifying her after molestation by making her sleep by singing Lori don't make ani father or brother figure to bon coz protect sirf father or brother nhi husband bhi karte hai.

In Indian marriage there is kanyadan in which girl is given to groom & his family after girl is husband's responsibility & groom do give some vows to girl amoung those whose he do promise to take her responsibility & protecting always her honour & supporting her also come . Ani from day one is fulfilling husband's duty even he started to create a distance from mini after his marriage to bon , so somewhere he respect his marriage thou initially he was hesitant. Not only ani even bon too had fulfill duties of a wife except d physical aspect . Husband wife relationship is not only of physical aspect it includes many things which made rudhita too close to each other without physical aspect.

Ani gave bon full freedom to choose her life partner from her will , he never forced her to come back to him infact he dint contacted her in 8 yrs , bon would had chosen a life partner but she dint felt to choose coz d qualities she wanted in her life partner was already present in ani .

Both r adults so it's not problematic at all . Ani & bon cant marry other person coz they r 2 deeply invested in each other , then why to waste other person life when u can't give d person that love he or she deserve , that's d reason ani said to no to vj urf bon coz he can't give bon place to anyone in his life so he can't do injustice with any other girl . Bon initially dint termed her feelings as love till little bon made her realise it so it's not some teenage crush of bon which come from childhood grooming.

I m sorry if I sounding rude but we can agree to disagree.

You being or not being rude is least of the worries here. Arguments such as the ones you have made are something I have heard a lot of times---which is why I usually don't bother to "educate" people. You asked, so I replied out of politeness.

And yes, we will have to agree to disagree. None of your arguments are convincing at all, though I can understand, Indian audience at large keeps this kind of mentality, which is why things are the way the are. There was a time and even now, certain highly problematic troupes like equating a hero eve-teasing a woman, and touching her without her consent was and still is equated to " true love". Compared to that, what is shown by portraying Ani-Bon relationship is nothing. Yes, anybody can be a guru, including your spouse, but turning your father/bro/guru into husband as a lover is the problem.

ALso, if your 33 years of age + 2years ki marriage couldn't make you understand the problematic troupe used in this show, then you can imagine what happens to girls of Bon's age! Let me assure you, even my grandma won't accept my arguments, in spite of she being 90 years of age!

Amen!

Originally posted by: Fruitcustard_9

33 yrs ki age or 2 saal ki shaadi mein life experience shayad hai mujhe 9 saal ka working experience bhi hai. Usse experience ke saath bol rahi ani was never parental towards bon. If any one is elder to u in age doesn't mean he can replace ur father or brother.

My own grandmother married at age of 14 today's she successful married life as till today she too say she learned a lot from my grandfather who use to work for railways.Real life ke baat karte hai , dilip Kumar saiyra bano has 22 yrs age gap b/w them , saiyra herself said dilip kumar taught her lot from him , kareena kapoor was an established actress when she married saif , infact kareena herself had wished saif on his first wedding with Amrita calling him uncle but today she is mother of his 2 kids .

Regarding teacher no where it is written a husband cant teach his wife or he can't be considered husband if he does so .

Lord shiv himself is guru to devi parvati who is his wife , he taught her how to manage her godly powers after marriage coz devi parvati was a devik ( human born with godly powers)so she took time to get used to those powers after marriage , she did faced problems while learning it .

I guess u forgot this serial is of 1930 not today's era , jis love ko aap problematic or teenage love keh rahe hai agar ani would had consummated with bon in preleap then today she would had children of age 6-7 yrs after post leap.

Anirudh bondita relationship is legal & normal according 1930 era it's not at all problematic.

Bon herself never saw Ani as her father or brother figure nor ani treated her like his daughter or sister.Ani would never spend that much time with batuk's wife , ani was not spending time with his own brothers from where would he take out time to spend in grooming batuk's wife . Is ani this free in his life or what right ani has in batuk's wife life, who is he to decide for her ? Bon case was different coz she was different she was his wife his responsibility .

Helping bon with bed wetting problem & pacifying her after molestation by making her sleep by singing Lori don't make ani father or brother figure to bon coz protect sirf father or brother nhi husband bhi karte hai.

In Indian marriage there is kanyadan in which girl is given to groom & his family after girl is husband's responsibility & groom do give some vows to girl amoung those whose he do promise to take her responsibility & protecting always her honour & supporting her also come . Ani from day one is fulfilling husband's duty even he started to create a distance from mini after his marriage to bon , so somewhere he respect his marriage thou initially he was hesitant. Not only ani even bon too had fulfill duties of a wife except d physical aspect . Husband wife relationship is not only of physical aspect it includes many things which made rudhita too close to each other without physical aspect.

Ani gave bon full freedom to choose her life partner from her will , he never forced her to come back to him infact he dint contacted her in 8 yrs , bon would had chosen a life partner but she dint felt to choose coz d qualities she wanted in her life partner was already present in ani .

Both r adults so it's not problematic at all . Ani & bon cant marry other person coz they r 2 deeply invested in each other , then why to waste other person life when u can't give d person that love he or she deserve , that's d reason ani said to no to vj urf bon coz he can't give bon place to anyone in his life so he can't do injustice with any other girl . Bon initially dint termed her feelings as love till little bon made her realise it so it's not some teenage crush of bon which come from childhood grooming.

I m sorry if I sounding rude but we can agree to disagree.