Shorter men and taller women.- Page 2

I have dated someone shorter than I. It was awkward in a way, and I realised I end up being more assertive around people who are shorter. Which could come off as condescending. We got along well. I wasn't 'tolerating' him or anything because I couldn't find a taller person. I really liked him and respected him . He was a wonderful person.

But...

I live in a city/town where dating was not okay back then;people gossipped and stared and so on so the whole thing was unofficial. And kinda ironed out in public. Not a secret, but not open either. I let people assume he was my friend or colleague. In the case of a shorter guy ,before I say "Oh I was fine with it" I have to ask myself if I'd have felt the same way about him in a situation where I had to introduce him to others as my partner etc. Whether I'd feel the same way in a situation where I had nothing to lose. I may have been fine with it because I subconsciously thought his height would keep people from assuming we were a pair ?

Then there was this incident with a guy ( who happened to be short) my friend brought along , who hit on me. I ignored it because I was not in the mood for that kind of attention. He got pissed and started being snarky. Started making remarks abt my job , my vegetarianism ,my hair. When he said " I have a cool job ..it would be your loss if you didn't go out with me hehe " I snapped " Well you're still the short guy with the fancy job ". I defend that on the grounds that he was asking for it by being rude to me. But maybe that wasn't just a retort? I'd hate to find out that it was an actual opinion tht I had about short guys because that would make me a hypocrite after all that I've said against all kinds of - isms.

Originally posted by: Chameli_billi

He can go in the friend zone. Itne mein itnaich milega

Does that mean every guy you have dated till date was/is perfect in every way in your opinion?

Originally posted by: TrustNo1

Id be ok if it's just an inch or two difference. Usually women who are 4-5' shorter then men appear the same or a bit taller because of high heels but id be lying if i say that i wouldn't be ashamed walking out with a girl who towers me😆

Why would you feel ashamed?

Originally posted by: FingerFetish

Taller men is a must for me.

Reasons, reasons...give reasons.

Originally posted by: AwaamKiJaan

Reasons, reasons...give reasons.

I’m just physically more attracted to tall men. I’m not sure exactly why, other than it’s just a preference. But I can somewhat contribute it to my childhood-early teenage years. When I was in elementary school, I had an early growth spurt and was one of the tallest girls in my grade (barring 2-3 other girls). This lasted until around year 8-9 of high school. At that time, my height was mentioned a lot (even though I’m not that tall), but to guys who hadn’t gone through puberty yet, I felt like a freak lol. It was around that time when I found older + taller guys way more attractive. I guess I felt more feminine and attractive when I was around guys who were taller than me. Shorter guys I knew often went for girls who were either the same height or shorter than them.

I think I have a type. The celebrities I’ve been attracted to over the years have all been tall (i.e. Arjun Rampal, Hrithik Roshan, John Abraham, Muzammil Ibrahim, Milind Soman etc). SRK has been an exception lol.

It's a no for me...

I need the guy to be taller than me. I'm tired of being that friend who has to bend down for others in pictures. Like FF my height was mentioned a lot all throughout my teenage years.... I was called a giraffe.

Men were always intimidated. I have enough insecurities, I can't deal with having to bend all my life. I know not all men think like that but 90% of men I have met do.

Plus, it has been embedded in my brain since childhood through various mediums.

Originally posted by: AwaamKiJaan

Does that mean every guy you have dated till date was/is perfect in every way in your opinion?

you asked about height not perfectionism

Originally posted by: Chameli_billi

you asked about height not perfectionism

My exact question was :

Would you be okay with dating a man who check boxes all your requirements of an ideal male, except that he's shorter than you in height?

If no, then why not?

Originally posted by: FingerFetish

I’m just physically more attracted to tall men. I’m not sure exactly why, other than it’s just a preference. But I can somewhat contribute it to my childhood-early teenage years. When I was in elementary school, I had an early growth spurt and was one of the tallest girls in my grade (barring 2-3 other girls). This lasted until around year 8-9 of high school. At that time, my height was mentioned a lot (even though I’m not that tall), but to guys who hadn’t gone through puberty yet, I felt like a freak lol. It was around that time when I found older + taller guys way more attractive. I guess I felt more feminine and attractive when I was around guys who were taller than me. Shorter guys I knew often went for girls who were either the same height or shorter than them.

I think I have a type. The celebrities I’ve been attracted to over the years have all been tall (i.e. Arjun Rampal, Hrithik Roshan, John Abraham, Muzammil Ibrahim, Milind Soman etc). SRK has been an exception lol.

Okay, but if this guy is perfect in every way (in your opinion) except his shorter height, any chances of him being an exception like SRK?

Or a short height would be a deal breaker? Like you can't stand a short guy at all?

I don't mind a shorter man,

As long as he is healthy and decent looking.