Pandya Store|Episode Discussion #83|ShiVi ka Divorce (Red Alert) - Page 35

Originally posted by: wanderer102016

Agree!

Everyone should run from a guy who dreams about strangling them!
it’s too dangerous and not romantic at all!

Shiva needs therapy immediately to help him with his anger issues and childhood trauma!
then when he can stay close to Raavi without raising his voice and having violent thoughts then they should do counseling for their marriage!
else separating and living individual lives is the best option for them!
abuse is not something anyone should tolerate and any amount of trauma can’t justify hurting others!
shiva may be hurting himself but that doesn’t give him the right to abuse Raavi/ Krish physically / emotionally!
The makers are making all these relevant issues so trivial just for drama !

@Bold: On point

Shiva used to be my favourite now I can't like him bcoz if he wants assurance then it doesn't gives him rights to treat others horribly.

Exactly this family if isn't understanding Shiva then have been worst with Raavi.

Except for Gaumbi and Krish everyone has treated her bad at one point. They all used her, did fraud and made her a laughing stock in wedding.

Ek bhai ne mandap per chod diya dusra mahaan bhai ne character assination karke usper he ilzaam laga diya ki he can't live with her and send divorce papers wahhh.

That suffocating part was bad, then could have made it Shiva trying to kiss, and Krish making funa and others realising that Shiva is doing different from what he wants.

U don't know that Whenever Shiva is hurt he gets that right to hurt Raavi physically mentally and emotionally. He has been doing it from 10 yrs and specially after diary kaand. Raavi being soo considerate but Shiva.

I am super disappointed seeing my favourite characters ko kya se kya bana diya inn makers ne that I don't even have in me to defend him.

Originally posted by: Palak2812

@Bold: Exactly

I may have loved Shiva and love KD's acting, and seeing Shiva being in conflict mode but can't support him.

He is wrong and continuosly doing wrong.

Raavi just got mad once and it became such a big issue. But Shiva just keep on repeating his wrong doings and never regrets it.

He went on her character twice and his tone is soo bad. I swear if someone talks with me like this I will slap that person.

Shiva is a great guy, mahaan thinking about Raavi. No way kya karo if he doesn't know how to atleast treat Raavi like a human with feelings and making her feel like shit.

Shiva ko bura laga toh Raavi per chadh jao, jese marzi treat karna hain karo kyu bcoz he is hurt and wants good for Raavi.

Itna he mahaan banna hain aaram se akele mein bolta ki u have problem with me, I don't want u to adjust, live your life with better people bcoz u don't think I am one. Then dekhta what would have been Raavi's decision.

But no Shiva is a great guy so treating Raavi like Shit and making her feel like one too bcoz he is hurt and wants good for Raavi.

Wahhh

Completely agree!

Like I’ve said in a previous post men get a lot more leeway! Hence Shiva’s repeated misdemeanors are ignored!
you can try ti understand a person’s feeling but until and unless that person gives you verbal confirmation thats exactly how they feel, you be confused!
Shiva has never once opened up to Raavi, so it’s justified that she believes that’s how he is!
She always believed becoming a part of his family will give her respect from Shiva, which even Rishitha gets to an extent now but never Raavi!
Shiva has been rude to her and continues to be so, his justification in his mind won’t stop Raavi from feeling miserable and vulnerable about all of this!
she doesn’t deserve this

Originally posted by: Palak2812

@Bold: Exactly

I may have loved Shiva and love KD's acting, and seeing Shiva being in conflict mode but can't support him.

He is wrong and continuosly doing wrong.

Raavi just got mad once and it became such a big issue. But Shiva just keep on repeating his wrong doings and never regrets it.

He went on her character twice and his tone is soo bad. I swear if someone talks with me like this I will slap that person.

Shiva is a great guy, mahaan thinking about Raavi. No way kya karo if he doesn't know how to atleast treat Raavi like a human with feelings and making her feel like shit.

Shiva ko bura laga toh Raavi per chadh jao, jese marzi treat karna hain karo kyu bcoz he is hurt and wants good for Raavi.

Itna he mahaan banna hain aaram se akele mein bolta ki u have problem with me, I don't want u to adjust, live your life with better people bcoz u don't think I am one. Then dekhta what would have been Raavi's decision.

But no Shiva is a great guy so treating Raavi like Shit and making her feel like one too bcoz he is hurt and wants good for Raavi.

Wahhh

Shivi again don't give in

As with the previous episodes, Shiva ignoring Dhara is what I'm enjoying the most. During the entire divorce papers sequence, this was legit me:

Dhara: mera guroor hai tu. Aise kaise kar sakta hai

Me to Shiva: Don't give in 🤔

Dhara: mere hote hua divorce nahi ho sakta

Me to Shiva: Don't you dare give in

Dhara: Dil par haath rakhke bol ki yeh Raavi ke liye nahi dhadkta

Me to Shiva: please please don't give in...as much as that's really sad 🤔

Dhara: Mere aur Raavi ke vishwas koi tod math

Me: no no no 😒

Shiva: Apne mujhe galat samjha

Me: Thank God you didn't give in as much as what he said was totally wrong

I'm sure I'm mixing up the order of the dialogues.. but I'm sure you get the gist.

Raavi didn't disappoint either. During her and Gaumbi interaction, I was cheering for her too ke please don't give in 😆Her final dialogue ki the family can't force Shivi to stay together 👏 yea, its repetitive but I'm sure kal bhi they'll have to say something, however useless it will be. But it will definitely lead to Shiva yelling and my ears hurting 🤔

Originally posted by: anshika5103

this is so dhara... Taking decision for others .. I feel bad for raavi more than shiva ....I get it Shiva likes her and want to be loved but this not how you behave.. raavi is someone if she will get slightest of hint that her partner is not interested she won't push him... We have seen that when dev left her .. she may be delusional but not wrong ... Shiva insecurity is not due to raavi .. it started long back ... When truck driver asked him about Mallik he laughed.. I don't buy that sneha made him insecure.. he was confident yet had a self doubt that nobody noticed

@Bold: Exactly

That's why when in Precap Shiva says it is suffocating she signs the papers immediately.

That is what I am saying when that day Raavi felt bad and faught with Rishita toh Shiva was the one telling her she knows him and he doesn't care about others.

Toh ab kyu ? Bcoz he likes Raavi. It is ridiculous way to justify his wrong.

On a serious note, I'm kinda annoyed at the divorce paper revelation to Raavi. I wanted to watch her get the divorce papers and see her initial reactions instead of Anita's yelling.🤔

Was she hurt and devastated to realise that she once again couldn't understand him?? 😒

Or was she angry that he could further treat her like this?? 🤔

Was there even a moment of doubt that he could do this?? 🤔

I wanted her to ask Shiva why he did this first... instead of Mami, Dhara and everyone else starting their baarish of questions. 🤔

I guess I wanted the divorce papers to be about their emotions first instead of the family get involved right away. But I guess Shivi ka mamle mein we can't get therav vale emotional conversations 🤔

This used to be such a feel good show 😭

Somehow I can't even quit the show it's like a wet cloth so hard to remove 🤣

Originally posted by: Shadow_kira

On a serious note, I'm kinda annoyed at the divorce paper revelation to Raavi. I wanted to watch her get the divorce papers and see her initial reactions instead of Anita's yelling.🤔

Was she hurt and devastated to realise that she once again couldn't understand him?? 😒

Or was she angry that he could further treat her like this?? 🤔

Was there even a moment of doubt that he could do this?? 🤔

I wanted her to ask Shiva why he did this first... instead of Mami, Dhara and everyone else starting their baarish of questions. 🤔

I guess I wanted the divorce papers to be about their emotions first instead of the family get involved right away. But I guess Shivi ka mamle mein we can't get therav vale emotional conversations 🤔

I would've loved to see this!

It's quite frustrating that Raavi has taken a backseat in her major track. We were just introduced to Raavi angrily staring at Shiva... and I just assumed that Raavi is entirely angry that Shiva has not done anything to salvage this relationship.. he hasn't attempted to talk or listen. He hasn't had even a flicker of remorse. But again, that was my assumption since I'm left to assume many things with Raavi's character...

Seeing the natural progression of her getting the notice, to hearing her thoughts of confusion, asking herself "What did I do wrong?" to anger of "I can't believe Shiva would divorce me like this! T-this means he does believe I am a characterless woman!" to sadness "What did I do to deserve the allegations!?!" to anger again, "Why am I stuck in this cycle of unhappiness? Why didn't I stand my ground and say no when marriage was offered to me?"

I think all of those emotions would've caused the viewer to connect to Raavi

Originally posted by: .Sunrise.

This used to be such a feel good show 😭

Somehow I can't even quit the show it's like a wet cloth so hard to remove 🤣

This forum keeps sucking me back 🤣 Every time I wanna leave, I think about everyone here and am like, "I guess I can watch the episode" 😆

Originally posted by: wanderer102016

I assumed the trauma of losing his dad and the problems they faced from it. I imagined that was the starting point of his anger issues and his resentment towards Maami!

My problem with this characterization has always been his anger!

He used to manhandle and treat Raavi like crap all the time! There is no justification for it even if it stemmed from maami and her wrongdoing to his family!

Now he’s taken this manhandling several notches up with physical and emotional abuse on her! Him justifying that’s it’s for her good is not going to make her feel better!

In this scenario I am with Raavi, it’s always better to judge a person from their actions! He’s rude to her and she believes that’s how he is as a person!
he’s only been nice to his family, he’s been rude to Rishita as well, 2 wrongs don’t make a right!
He needs to mend his ways till then he’s not really partner material !

His father was a respectable figure..after his death gombi had a hard time tc of the store , his paralyzed mother and brothers . But dhara helped him out..after marriage the store problem was also sorted.

His hatred to Mami is justified. She is a vile woman . And I loved that thing about Shiva..when everybody ignored mamis actions, Shiva took her head on...he shouldered all responsibilities with gombi , I loved him for these reasons..but when it comes to raavi, he is 100% in the wrong n raavi is not to be blamed. Raavi had to suffer his hatred and when he fell in love , which is a joke to me , even there raavi only suffers bec of his Mahan emotions.. only when she or someone else will validate that he is good enuf for her will he realize "arre " ..not try to be a better person..that's out of fashion. Not a trp thing