Originally posted by: funny_fubar
Oh well why not.
So I did try to change- could never pull off a miraculous weight loss, but did straighten out my hair(regret it ever since, the chemical started a hair fall phase which is yet to stop- keep it natural girls), started wearing contacts(nothing wrong per se- I just hated them, always irritated my eyes). Would try to be prim and proper when going to "meet" the boys. It was a terrible terrible time.
But slowly, after seeing( as in observing, not being in 🤣) a lot of relationships- and believe me, I have seen a lot Dev types of guys, and have seen how much the girls actually suffer with Prince Charming- I slowly developed some spunk and started having a devil may care attitude. My mom felt that was chasing away what few arranged marriage guys were interested in me 🤣
So I had almost reached the end of my patience with the arranged marriage business- My honest to god plan was to settle down alone and adopt maybe 1 or 2 dogs 😆
And my mom also was losing patience- but she had just a few boys in the pipeline- so she convinced me to whittle them out. if nothing worked, I was free to go ahead with Condo-buying dog-adopting dreams.
So I start talking to this guy- he was at the same university as me, but he had never met 😆 He basically did not tick any of the checkboxes on my mom's checklist( think Raavi like checklist) and I was a bit wary of him too. He spoke to me twice on the phone and sent me flowers for my birthday While everyone was gushing about how romantic it was, I went ballistic on my mom for sharing my address with an almost stranger 😆
But I liked his voice (terrible terrible reason, but what can I say, it was gravelly). And I slowly realized over more phonecalls/skype calls that he was non-Dev type, he made his decisions and stuck to them, he was a bit rowdyish but never crossed the line 😆 And he was very upfront about issues he had. I also shared my constraints. And he ended up saying yes on the phone 🤣 I was the first girl he spoke to in the arranged marriage "market".
I ofcourse told him he was out of his mind- he better see me and then decide. He actually asked me what was going to change by seeing me in person? But I insisted and we flew up to my uncle's house. I had prepped as I normally did. It was kind of awkward, but it ended with him saying " I told you I like you a long time ago, what was the point of this exercise 😕"
The next day's phone conversation went like this
H(Husband): "ya, so, you straighten your hair right? Is that your normal hair?"
Me: "ya"
H: "Truthfully, scared me a bit. Reminded me of Morticia Adams. Are you attached to the hairstyle?"
Me: "nope, that was [ladka dekhna] special"
H: audible sigh of relief
H:"Also, you wear glasses often like me right? I could see the rim around your eyes. Was the contacts also [ladka dekhna] special?"
Me: "yup"
H:"huh"
And so on and so forth- basically he was totally ok with me being my normal self 🤣 He did not have any issues with my weight(other than health issues ofcourse). He prefers me being natural over uncomfortable beautifications. And the rest, as they say, is history 😆
Before ending- my family was not too happy with him- he is dark, balding, brash, something about having a sister(I honestly stopped listening at that point). I put my foot down and said I would marry only him. My mom is still miffed that I "chose" him against her wishes 🤓
All in all he lets me be my dorky self and helped me become comfortable in my skin. I do slip up and revert to old habits of beating myself up. I still don't particularly find myself beautiful, but I am decent. But he holds me to higher standards for health issues- helped in my weight loss journey(actaully helped- dieted with me, exercised with me). Helped me have more gumption too- I stand up more to people's BS these days 😆